The DDA Trouble Free Zone Part 7

[tmfranlk]

I called our GI doctor and told him I'd sought a 2nd opinion from the surgeon. I'm not going to hide the fact I'm worried about Rees. He agreed that it needs further exploration. So based on the Surgeon's recommendations, he is ordering an Upper GI and an abdominal ultrasound for Rees ASAP. I will let you know when it is scheduled. Thanks for the continued prayers.

That sounds promising, Denise. I am glad that your current doctor is acting quickly on the advice you had been given. Continued prayers, and .

 

[lovesdumbo]

You need to let go and be thankful for the presents you got and enjoy Disney....make it a time to bond and get to know Lizzie better. As you said you felt this was a birthday present to you also.

OK...I need to come clean with you....I already went on MY birthday trip last week with 2 adult friends. A very different kind of trip than the one with Lizzie.


From margarita stand near Mexico. WAY too strong for me to have on my trip with Lizzie.

Safari Amber from dinner at Boma. Notice the shirt in the background. I purchased the shirt from the site Kate recommended and the patch from another site. We all had matching shirts. I couldn't get them to get a photo of all 3 of us but we did get lots of comments.

This planned trip with Lizzie is a chance for us to spend some special time together. I work full time and sometimes expect a lot from her because she's the oldest.

 

[lovesdumbo]

A few more fav photos.

I had never ridden Test Track at night before. It was so FUN!

Italy

Expedition Everest from Flame Tree BBQ

 

[babytrees]

OK...I need to come clean with you....I already went on MY birthday trip last week with 2 adult friends. A very different kind of trip than the one with Lizzie.


From margarita stand near Mexico. WAY too strong for me to have on my trip with Lizzie.

Safari Amber from dinner at Boma. Notice the shirt in the background. I purchased the shirt from the site Kate recommended and the patch from another site. We all had matching shirts. I couldn't get them to get a photo of all 3 of us but we did get lots of comments.

This planned trip with Lizzie is a chance for us to spend some special time together. I work full time and sometimes expect a lot from her because she's the oldest.

Those look yummy!!

Coming from an oldest and the working mother of an oldest daughter, I wish I had the time to take my girls away for a trip like this...sounds like so much fun.

and I think your last sentence says a lot of where the hurt over the book is coming from. Sometimes we expect too much and when our girls(and their daddies) don't live up to those expectations we blow a gasket. I am typing from experience here!!

 

[julia & nicks mom]

Thanks-I needed to hear that. I am actually much more angry at DH than my 6 year old and canceling the trip would punish her and make things easier for him.

After reading your last post too - I can definately tell you are angry at your DH

Lizzie actually does value your birthday - remember - you said she was upset that she didn't have anything for you!!! So you can rest assured that she loves you

You have no idea what happened and why she had the book - I can imagine that this scenario or something similar happened

she wanted to wrap the book for you and took it- DH couldn't find it and put her name on the other book -for whatever reason this upset her and then she was mad and decided you just weren't getting the book at all then - not rational to you or I but very typical of a 6/7 year old

the best parenting advice I ever got was to always try to think of it from their side

for example - your 4 year old breaks a toy and is crying uncontrollably about it - our reaction is it was an accident, you can get another one it is no big deal - but to a 4 year old that is a big deal b/c that is the center of their world - they don't have to worry about money and food and world peace - they just have to worry about their toys

 

[julia & nicks mom]

I think that Margarita just went on my WDW to-do list!!!!!


I love your pictures - especially the EE and Italy one -

maybe when I am there I will try to get some photographs like that and blow them up for my family room - DH and I have never picked photos for them and shots like that would be perfect - a very subtle Disney theme!!

 

[my3princes]

Yes-lots more. My DH has never done much for my birthday-that is why I took the trip. It really hurts me that he is teaching his children that they don't need to do anything to show that they are glad I was born. Ever since Lizzie was born he thinks he can just treat my birthday and Mother's Day as a single event.

DH bought 3 books-1 from each child. When he asked Lizzie where the book was he should have wrapped the 2 remaining books from Joe & Emma instead he let Lizzie give me 1 and put Joe and Emma names on the remaining book.

Lizzie can do no wrong in his eyes and I am very fearful of where this will lead us.

Aha, that is the underlying problem. You really need to voice your concerns to your dh and make sure that he listens. It seems he is at the root of the problem not Lizzie. She knows what she can get away with and is acting like anyother child would and taking avantage of Dad. Good luck with DH.

Deb

 

[babytrees]

I just read this about David Blaine:

As early as on the second day of his challenge, Gunel said, there was evidence that Blaine was suffering liver failure; the medical team consulted with medical experts at NASA before stabilizing his condition. Blaine's underwater environment was similar to the weightlessness experienced by astronauts in outer space, he said.

"I told him he needed to get out of the water, and he refused me," said Gunel. "He said he did not want to let the people down."

The doctor said Blaine had agreed to allow researchers at Yale to examine him after the stunt to see what they can learn about how the body responds to the environment underwater.


further evidence that the man has more air bubbles than brains.

 

[bethbuchall]

Shana-my prayers are with you and your entire family.

Kristine-baby Nathan is beautiful!!!

Denise-continued prayers for Rees. (I did make it to the PO finally)


I am behind again trying to get caught up at work but I really need some advise. Please tell me if I am I over reacting to this:

Saturday was my birthday and Lizzie was upset that she didn't have a gift for me so I asked DH to take her to a small local bookstore when he went out to run a errand. When they came home I heard DH & Lizzie discussing a Soduko book they bought for me (I am a numbers gal so I would have really liked it). When they gave me the gifts there was a presidents sticker book from Lizzie (my DH is a history buff and he said I could do it with Lizzie and maybe I'd learn something too-nice huh?) and an early reader history book about 2 local girls who scared off the British by playing the fife and drum from Joe & Emma. I had told DH the trip was my gift so he didn't need to get me anything. I asked DH later what happened to the Soduko book and he said he couldn't find it when they were wrapping the gifts. Lizzie had taken it. It is now on her desk. I told her that she really hurt my feelings by taking a gift that was meant for me-especially when she knows what I have planned for her birthday. I'm really hurt by her but am I expecting too much from a 6 (nearly 7) year old? I'm really mad at DH for allowing her to get away with this and for allowing her to treat me like this. How can not see how bad it is for her to think this behavior is OK? Now I don't even really want to go away with her. I am considering canceling the trip and using the Southwest credit to purchase air for the family trip. I've spoken to Lizzie about it several times but she still hasn't given up the book that isn't hers. I don't think I should just take it from her. DH said he's spoken to her twice but I don't see how he ever let this happen in the first place.

Is this all just about a stupid book? I think it so much more. I just don't know what to do/how to react.

Is there any possibility that she wants to give it to you for Mother's Day but doesn't want to say that? Has she given you any explanation at all?

Beth

 

[bethbuchall]

Weather pixie dust for Deb!

Beth

 

[tmfranlk]

I've always had a love for reading. When I was a child, my mother used to tell me to get my nose out of that book and go outside and get some fresh air - so I took the book with me! When my mother died, my father was in his early eighties and was alone. I got him into reading (he had never just sat and read for pleasure before - my mother didn't like it when he read, because he wasn't paying any attention to her). Anyway, some of the books that he really liked were the Anne of Green Gables series, the "Little House" books by Laura Ingalls Wilder, Sidney Sheldon and Danielle Steel!! Can you tell that I chose his books? He did go and get his first library card at the age of 82, but he wasn't too sure what to choose, and said that I had been doing good, so to keep on choosing for him. Anyway, I would stop by after work and make his dinner and tidy up a bit, and then we'd visit while he ate, and it was nice to chat about the books (kind of a role reversal in a way).

That was my sisters and me too!! We used to read while the orthodotist was working on our braces. He thought it was great as long as we kept the book out of his view. Now, that is the only thing having to go to work is good for - 30 minutes of train ride each morning and afternoon to read.

 

[marcij]

Ok DDA, I don't usually ask for PD and certainly not for trivial things like the weather, but it is looking like a washout here for Friday and Saturday which is our camping trip for 40 people. I really hope that we get a little sun, ok just not rain would be perfect. I have a campfire scheduled for Friday night complete with each den performing something for the group and of course s'mores. Saturday is packed with a mini golf tournament, orienteering challenge and fishing tournament as well as our group meal, prepared by the Webelos. I could really use all the pixie dust you can spare to pull off a weather miracle for the boys and families. Thank you so much.

I am happy to report that I am working on the last design request in my PM box! I also have the costumes altered to send to Denise and Pal Mickey is ready to head out on his vacation. He will be visiting the Figs in Atlanta So the costumes will be traveling with Pal Mickey. While getting the Zues and Hades costume out for Denise I realized that I have an absolutely adorable Pegasus costume that is a size 2T (if I remember correctly) that would be perfect for one of our little DDAers. Is anyone heading to MNSSHP and needing a Disney (homemade) costume for a little one? It is perfect for a girl or boy and I can post a picture if you'd like. I'd be happy to share.

Deb

Deb -- weather isn't a trivial PD request! You have all those outside activities and you've worked very hard! Here's hoping the weather people in VT are just as off as they are here in Dallas and that you get great weather for the camping trip!

 

[bethbuchall]

Yes-lots more. My DH has never done much for my birthday-that is why I took the trip. It really hurts me that he is teaching his children that they don't need to do anything to show that they are glad I was born. Ever since Lizzie was born he thinks he can just treat my birthday and Mother's Day as a single event.

DH bought 3 books-1 from each child. When he asked Lizzie where the book was he should have wrapped the 2 remaining books from Joe & Emma instead he let Lizzie give me 1 and put Joe and Emma names on the remaining book.

Lizzie can do no wrong in his eyes and I am very fearful of where this will lead us.

Ok...I replied to the earlier post before I saw this one. I think that the main issue is definitely with your dh. I agree that he should have wrapped the gifts differently. I think that you need to get this all out with him and then approach the situation with Lizzie as more of an ongoing "teaching" moment than a punishment. I understand your hurt and disappointment, but I don't think that taking the trip away from Lizzie to punish/hurt her is going to make you feel any better in the long run. Seven year olds are just getting out of the completely "me-only" phase of their lives. Show her how important her birthday is to you and then use that to help her see that others like to feel special, too.

My dh hates the month of May. We have Mother's Day, my birthday, and our anniversary all in the same month. He isn't much on giving gifts or mushy cards or making much of a celebration (just the way he was raised). We've learned over the years to make it work. He does some little things that I know mean that he thinks I'm special, and I've learned to expect a little less and go shopping afterwards.

Beth

 

[my3princes]

Say this to the nana nana boo boo song. My PM box is empty, My PM box is empty, My Pal Mickey is ready to ship, My Pal Mickey is ready to ship, My life is under control, My life is under control. Can you tell that this is a much better week. I've even got dinner almost all ready. Since we have a full night of kid activities I'm putting a picnic together that we can eat at Hunter's Baseball practice. I'll feed him early as he has baseball then scouts tonight and we'll be gone from 5 PM - 8 PM. I thought the other kids would like it instead of just hanging around waiting for Hunter.

I guess I should start putting clothes in the camper, but the way the weather has been I'm not sure what to pack. I am really hoping that it isn't a wash out.

Deb

 

[tmfranlk]

DDA Family -- you so rock! Thank you so much for the words of encouragement and PD sent Andrew's way. Andrew had another good game. He was the only one that hit the ball, although they threw him out at first. He walked once, and had no errors on defense. They lost 9 - 5, but overall it was a huge success and another step forward in his self-confidence.

I asked him what he'd like to say to you all. It seems like he has been listening to me. My advice to him before each game is to try his hardest and to have a good time. This is what he said to say:

"Thank you for supporting me. We lost, but we tried our best."

It's not an eloquent speech, but for a child with an expressive disorder, I think it's pretty perfect!

Thank you, Thank you, Thank you for thinking of him and sending good thoughts for an esteem-building game.

Congratulations on playing a good game, Andrew! Trying your best is always what matters most.

 

[julia & nicks mom]

Deb

an EMPTY pm box??!?!!?! I am very jealous!!! and very impressed!!

CONGRATULATIONS!!

I am glad things are going better!

 

[lmartin2711]

Hello Everyone

I read back about 5-6 pages. I haven't posted in a while since things are always busy. I miss ya'll when I am not on here to see what is going on with everyone.

I hope all is well in our DDA world and I will check with ya'll soon.

Lynn

 

[PNO4TE]

Pixie dust to you and the Scouts this weekend, Deb. And it sounds as if tonight will be fun for your whole family.

 

[PNO4TE]

Hello Everyone

I read back about 5-6 pages. I haven't posted in a while since things are always busy. I miss ya'll when I am not on here to see what is going on with everyone.

I hope all is well in our DDA world and I will check with ya'll soon.

Lynn

Hi, Lynn! Glad you stopped by.

 

[marcij]

lovesdumbo -- Happy belated birthday! Thanks for sharing the pictures -- looks like you had a great time. I think you've gotten some great advice on here. All I'll add is that I think you need to sit down and have a talk with your husband. Even if he doesn't get "it", he'll know how you feel, and maybe opening the lines of communication will help.

I hope you and Lizzie have a fabulous trip!