The DDA Trouble Free Zone Part 3

[UP Disney]

Thank you. I haven't heard this one yet. It sounds simple enough for him to "get." I'm going to try out a few of the suggestions tonight and see if they make sense to him.

And Tammi gets 9000! Woohoo!!!!!

 

[Tammi67]

I think it's pretty cool that we had post #9000 on page #600!

 

[UP Disney]

Ok, DDA... calm me down, I'm panicking. I know in light of other posts, this isn't life or death.... but it's sort of big, and I'm not sure why it's hitting me today.

Kyle just got an email from a resident that implies that he has moved up "hopefully to matchable range" at Cincinnati. Now, for security reasons I have to mention that this wasn't anyone directly involved in decision making, because they aren't allowed to talk about it with the applicants. But it's still an important piece of information, let's just leave it at that.

Well, that sounds promising, right? Well I don't know. To me, it confirms that he isn't #1-7 and guaranteed a spot. So maybe he's 8, 9 10.... that's still a MAJOR accomplishment, out of all the people nationwide that interviewed for this program. I should be ecstatic about this.

But it also means that a few people higher than him HAVE to rank Cincinnati lower than #1. It's possible right? Absolutely, but we love it so much (and it really is one of the best programs in the country, even from unbiased sources) that it's hard to believe someone would do that.

So now I'm freaking out. 'I hate Delaware and we're going to end up there'.... 'Why didn't we rank _____ next instead of _____'.... thoughts such as these are taking over my head right about now! We have until 9pm to change the rank lists, but it's COMPLETELY not advisable as they claim any changes this late in the game are "on impulse" and often "irrational" and almost always regretted. Yeah, I can see where that would happen, if anyone else around the world is anything like me ( ).

It's going to be ok, right? Thanks for letting me vent, I feel a little better. And a little worse, all at the same time I'm losing my mind I tell you! ... and I'm too young for this!

Life is a journey and we don't always know which route we will be taking. Remember that you have each other and you can make wonderful things happen with what ever comes your way!!!

 

[tink2020]

Thank you. I haven't heard this one yet. It sounds simple enough for him to "get." I'm going to try out a few of the suggestions tonight and see if they make sense to him.

9000

and totally by accident!!​

Yaay for another milestone! This thread is cruising again!




Edited, because "cruisining" is not a word

 

[ksoehrlein]

So now I'm freaking out. 'I hate Delaware and we're going to end up there'....

Congrats to Kyle! It's a major accomplishment to be in the top 10 for the best program. I totally understand your stress right now. Did I tell you guys that my husband's podiatry residency was in Delaware (which we learned after much of the "where will we end up" stress you're going through right now)? We loved it there, so don't think it's the end of the world if that's what Kyle gets. Wishing you lots of and lots of reduced stress in your immediate future...

 

[ksoehrlein]

I think it's pretty cool that we had post #9000 on page #600!

And I think it's cool that I was quoted in it! It's the closest I've ever come to a milestone!

 

[tink2020]

*sigh* I always have been a bit of a worrier...



It is SO hard for me to not stress about things that are out of my control. If I have ANY control, whatsoever, I actually worry very little. But things like this, man! They kill me. I'm trying to remember that there's nothing else that can be done.... but that's the problem! Seriously though..... I do know that whatever happens will be ok. It's only a 4-year commitment, so we'll survive and really make the best of it.

I just might need reminded of that in the next 3 weeks. Maybe over and over again.......

 

[tink2020]

Congrats to Kyle! It's a major accomplishment to be in the top 10 for the best program. I totally understand your stress right now. Did I tell you guys that my husband's podiatry residency was in Delaware (which we learned after much of the "where will we end up" stress you're going through right now)? We loved it there, so don't think it's the end of the world if that's what Kyle gets. Wishing you lots of and lots of reduced stress in your immediate future...

No, I realize it's a great place. We actually REALLY loved it, as evidence by some earlier posts. It's just that, now that I realize the reality of the situation..... I don't want to match anywhere as much as I want Cincinnati. I think it's just now sinking in that we've done all we can....

We even went back this past weekend to verify that we really liked it, becuase - in all honesty - we didn't really know why we did. Everywhere we ranked we wouldn't mind living, so it will be ok Match Day is just so "final" (for 4 years anyway )...

 

[Glynis]

Ok, DDA... calm me down, I'm panicking. I know in light of other posts, this isn't life or death.... but it's sort of big, and I'm not sure why it's hitting me today.

Kyle just got an email from a resident that implies that he has moved up "hopefully to matchable range" at Cincinnati. Now, for security reasons I have to mention that this wasn't anyone directly involved in decision making, because they aren't allowed to talk about it with the applicants. But it's still an important piece of information, let's just leave it at that.

Well, that sounds promising, right? Well I don't know. To me, it confirms that he isn't #1-7 and guaranteed a spot. So maybe he's 8, 9 10.... that's still a MAJOR accomplishment, out of all the people nationwide that interviewed for this program. I should be ecstatic about this.

But it also means that a few people higher than him HAVE to rank Cincinnati lower than #1. It's possible right? Absolutely, but we love it so much (and it really is one of the best programs in the country, even from unbiased sources) that it's hard to believe someone would do that.

So now I'm freaking out. 'I hate Delaware and we're going to end up there'.... 'Why didn't we rank _____ next instead of _____'.... thoughts such as these are taking over my head right about now! We have until 9pm to change the rank lists, but it's COMPLETELY not advisable as they claim any changes this late in the game are "on impulse" and often "irrational" and almost always regretted. Yeah, I can see where that would happen, if anyone else around the world is anything like me ( ).

It's going to be ok, right? Thanks for letting me vent, I feel a little better. And a little worse, all at the same time I'm losing my mind I tell you! ... and I'm too young for this!

Jennifer - It is definitely going to be ok. Calm down. You guys have done all your homework, researched all the potential sites, in short, you have done what you needed to do. At this point, second guessing yourself could do you more harm than good. Trust that all will work out the way it's supposed to.

It's so hard to give up control for something like this! If you're anything like me, control is one way you have of comforting yourself, and now the biggest decision of your lives is out of your control. That's a very panicking feeling. Take a few deep breaths, go for a run, cuddle with your hubby or pet your dog. Do something that you know calms you down, and then realize that no matter what happens, you did your best!

At any rate, never apologize to us for venting! That's what families are for! We may not be able to physically come to your place and help out, but we are here for listening, and sympathizing, and celebrating when the decision is made. We're here for you!

 

[tink2020]

Jennifer - It is definitely going to be ok. Calm down. You guys have done all your homework, researched all the potential sites, in short, you have done what you needed to do. At this point, second guessing yourself could do you more harm than good. Trust that all will work out the way it's supposed to.

It's so hard to give up control for something like this! If you're anything like me, control is one way you have of comforting yourself, and now the biggest decision of your lives is out of your control. That's a very panicking feeling. Take a few deep breaths, go for a run, cuddle with your hubby or pet your dog. Do something that you know calms you down, and then realize that no matter what happens, you did your best!

At any rate, never apologize to us for venting! That's what families are for! We may not be able to physically come to your place and help out, but we are here for listening, and sympathizing, and celebrating when the decision is made. We're here for you!

So true......





Now thanks a lot, everyone... I WAS just panicking, now I've got tears streaming down my face to boot! You all are fantastic

 

[babytrees]

At any rate, never apologize to us for venting! That's what families are for! We may not be able to physically come to your place and help out, but we are here for listening, and sympathizing, and celebrating when the decision is made. We're here for you!

Glynis-

I just wanted to say Brava!! for putting into words what I have been feeling the last couple of weeks. The DDA is family and friends and we're here for each other through thick and thin!! Although I must say I am about ready for all of us to get to the "thick" this thin stuff is driving me nuts

 

[julia & nicks mom]

Jennifer

I rememer the stress of match day when my BIL went through it and they ended up in Detroit - the program there was one of the best in the country but could you imagine being stuck in Detroit!!?!?!?!

But as you said - it is only 4 years - and a great adventure for the two of you -

and I am guessing that there are people who interviewed with Cincinnati that have no intention of coming here - Cincinnati is their back up and if that is the case - then Cincinnati probably ranked them pretty high - I know that they tend to do this - if they interviewed the top med student at Harvard - they probably ranked him #1 but really - he would have no interest in Cincinnati - he is looking for a big city and THE BEST pediatric program and while Cincinnati is certainly high - we all know it isn't #1 - so the top students that they ranked high might have UC as their back up - it is my understanding that UC does sometimes rank on desireability even if they know the other students might not have interest

since this is beyond your control you really have to just let it go until match day - then you can deal with reality - no use worrying about what ifs!!!

 

[tink2020]

Jennifer

I rememer the stress of match day when my BIL went through it and they ended up in Detroit - the program there was one of the best in the country but could you imagine being stuck in Detroit!!?!?!?!

But as you said - it is only 4 years - and a great adventure for the two of you -

and I am guessing that there are people who interviewed with Cincinnati that have no intention of coming here - Cincinnati is their back up and if that is the case - then Cincinnati probably ranked them pretty high - I know that they tend to do this - if they interviewed the top med student at Harvard - they probably ranked him #1 but really - he would have no interest in Cincinnati - he is looking for a big city and THE BEST pediatric program and while Cincinnati is certainly high - we all know it isn't #1 - so the top students that they ranked high might have UC as their back up - it is my understanding that UC does sometimes rank on desireability even if they know the other students might not have interest

since this is beyond your control you really have to just let it go until match day - then you can deal with reality - no use worrying about what ifs!!!

This is definitely true. We ran into a lot of people on the interview trail that ranked even Minnesota, etc higher. It is also a great program but WAAAAY too big for our liking. Certainly some people think Cincinnati is too small (program size), too rural (yeah, lots of people think everywhere in Ohio is the sticks ), etc.... even if it is #2 in Med-Peds on most criteria. Also, of course Cincinnati ranks their most desirable first. I think every program has to, because you just never know. On paper, some of our programs didn't even really deserve an interview, but we ended up pleasantly surprised by many of them. And Tufts, for example, which is a GREAT school, did nothing for us.

I just want to KNOW, you know? Grr.... that's really all. You know, even if we ended up somewhere ENTIRELY different, I'll be ok once I KNOW.

3 weeks from tomorrow....... I feel like I'm waiting for a Disney trip

 

[babytrees]

When it rains it pours!! And I want it to stop.

I just got off the phone with my mom and she has to go in for a PET scan this Friday morning. This is less than a week after a ultra sound...what she thought was her gall bladder acting up. My mom has battled cancer before and I am scared!! What I hate the most is she is in Maryland and I am here in CO.

Please say extra prayers on Friday morning for her and for me tonight as I get to tell my girls.

 

[tink2020]

When it rains it pours!! And I want it to stop.

I just got off the phone with my mom and she has to go in for a PET scan this Friday morning. This is less than a week after a ultra sound...what she thought was her gall bladder acting up. My mom has battled cancer before and I am scared!! What I hate the most is she is in Maryland and I am here in CO.

Please say extra prayers on Friday morning for her and for me tonight as I get to tell my girls.

You will definitely be in my prayers. Keep us posted when you hear from her again!

 

[julia & nicks mom]

When it rains it pours!! And I want it to stop.

I just got off the phone with my mom and she has to go in for a PET scan this Friday morning. This is less than a week after a ultra sound...what she thought was her gall bladder acting up. My mom has battled cancer before and I am scared!! What I hate the most is she is in Maryland and I am here in CO.

Please say extra prayers on Friday morning for her and for me tonight as I get to tell my girls.

Keeping her in my prayers!!!! as well as you and the family - can you hold off on telling the girls anything until you have more concrete answers?

 

[Glynis]

Glynis-

I just wanted to say Brava!! for putting into words what I have been feeling the last couple of weeks. The DDA is family and friends and we're here for each other through thick and thin!! Although I must say I am about ready for all of us to get to the "thick" this thin stuff is driving me nuts

I'll agree with that! I think that the DDA is owed some pretty "thick" stuff and soon!

 

[Tammi67]

When it rains it pours!! And I want it to stop.

I just got off the phone with my mom and she has to go in for a PET scan this Friday morning. This is less than a week after a ultra sound...what she thought was her gall bladder acting up. My mom has battled cancer before and I am scared!! What I hate the most is she is in Maryland and I am here in CO.

Please say extra prayers on Friday morning for her and for me tonight as I get to tell my girls.

Prayers to you and your mom, Theresa.

 

[Glynis]

When it rains it pours!! And I want it to stop.

I just got off the phone with my mom and she has to go in for a PET scan this Friday morning. This is less than a week after a ultra sound...what she thought was her gall bladder acting up. My mom has battled cancer before and I am scared!! What I hate the most is she is in Maryland and I am here in CO.

Please say extra prayers on Friday morning for her and for me tonight as I get to tell my girls.

Prayers being offered up now. I know what you're going through. My mom battled cancer last year, and today is at her doctor for a follow up to make sure it hasn't reappeared. I'm sitting here on pins and needles waiting for my dad to call and report. If I don't hear from him in the next half hour, I'm calling him.

 

[babytrees]

Keeping her in my prayers!!!! as well as you and the family - can you hold off on telling the girls anything until you have more concrete answers?

I am going to try and tell the girls as little as I can but since we live with my grandparents (my mom's mom and dad) I am sure it will be the talk of the house and I would rather they hear it from me than my grandmother, who, let's just say, has the tact of a tasmanian devil.