The DDA Trouble Free Zone Part 20

[mommykds]

Debbie I agree with everyone else. You are not being the bad person. If management does not feel the other person is capable of doing the job, then you should not feel guilty taking that position. to you!


Anne Marie good luck with the talk to you daughter. I have no advice, but I know you will do fine & say the right things.

I have spoken to both my boys about sex, not going into alot of detail with them. But now days children hear so much from school & friends that I wanted them to know they could talk to me. Of course it better be years before they are really needing any advice!

Thanks Janet..the book is alot of help. I just went through it.

 

[marcij]

I awoke to the radio this morning telling of another soldier that died in Iraq. I heard a last name & where he attended school. I shot right up freaking out, asking dh if he heard the whole name. This soldier that died was 24 year old Daniel Miller Jr. He is the oldest son of a friend that I grew up with. I seen Robin(his mother)at work Friday & we were talking about Daniel. Robin was so proud of her son & what he was doing. I was telling her how strong she is having to deal with a child over there now. We talked for quite awhile & before she left we both promised to have lunch together soon.


I am crying so hard, I can't believe this happened. I know lot's of soldiers have lost their lives over there, but this is the 1st one that I have known. I feel so helpless & my heart is aching so hard for Robin.

Please pray for Robin & her family. She has a very rough road ahead of her. Daniel was the oldest of 5 children, plus 2 stepsiblings.

Prayers sent. I can't imagine her grief.

Prayers also sent to Deb and her family. I'm sorry to hear about your cousin.

 

[Pooh67_68]

Janet the best thing is to be there, you don't even have to say anything, just listen.

 

[my3princes]

Okay....do all the schools have the same schedule??? Because that starts in Abi's class this week also.

When this came up for Cassidy I went whole hog...we discussed s e x and the debunking of Mr. Claus. I told her recently I only wanted to be uncomfortable once when talking to her.

I am not sure how to talk to Abi....but I have told her we will be talking this weekend.

They covered this stuff in school for me too....but I got freaked out when I first got it....and my mom never mentioned the s word ever. I think that's one of the few boo boo's she made that I knew I was going to do differently.

Good Luck!!!

What grade are your kids in? The boys haven't mentioned anything yet. I have however always been open about S E X. We had the talk the first time when I was pregnant with Colby. I felt that keeping an open discussion was better than waiting to do it. We've discussed it a couple of times since, but neither have ever asked any in depth questions. They know the physical act and that is pretty much it. My parents never discussed it with me and I always felt it must be shameful if they wouldn't talk about it. I don't want my kids to grow up with that point of view (obviously mine has changed). I also didn't want conversations to ever be ackward. I really hope that my boys will come to me with any questions or problems as they arise. I guess we all hope we do the right thing, but when will we truly know?

Deb

 

[my3princes]

Haven't nailed them down yet but I think it's going to be the end of July..so the beginning of your trip.

That is great. Once you get things nailed down we'll have to make an ADR or two. Sounds like WCC will be one of them I would love to do a group activity like an illuminations cruise if we get enough people there at that time.

Deb

 

[marcij]

Janet the best thing is to be there, you don't even have to say anything, just listen.

Heidi -- very good advice! I just appreciated having someone spend time with me when Mom passed away.

 

[my3princes]

My heart went out to him, as I occasionally get them. Mine always get huge, and swell up my lip.

I find l-lysine at Albertson's, Target, Wal-Mart etc. It's with the vitamins. I take one a day. One other thing to be careful to use -- lip sunscreen. Mine are triggered by stress, but also by sun exposure.

I hope this helps. One other thing I've tried -- a prescription cream -- Zovirax. If you take it when it first starts tingling, I've had success heading them off.

I've used the zovirax for mine before, but I'm not convinced that it worked any better than the Abreva. I will definitely pick up Lysine tonight.

Deb

 

[my3princes]

I went searching for a dress jacket today. I only have parkas and I need something dressier for the funeral. I found one at Kohls (the 4th store I looked at) and it will be another 15% off tomorrow. They are holding the jacket for me. $160 jacket for $54 sounds like a pretty good deal to me.

Do you think this will look ok?

 

[jackskellingtonsgirl]

Elizabeth...

I keep forgetting to put this down....Hope you feel better in the morning and....

that nanny agency must be crazy!! I am sorry, huge resumes to fill out, access to credit report BEFORE placement, AND then a one cancel and your out policy???...PFFFFFT!! What about being sick and considerate of others around you??

IDIOTS!!

Thanks, I do feel a little better today. Hope your migraine is gone!
I get one more chance - I'm not allowed to cancel twice. I told DH about the credit report and he gave me THE LOOK. I am really going to have to think hard about that before I reschedule. Like I said before, I get needing to know about a nanny's background, but really, some things go too far.

I agree that the best steak I have had on WDW property was at Yachtsman in December. But, I would only ever go there and pay OOP because there is no way that the Signature restaurants are worth the money on the DDP. The appetizers and desserts, although wonderful were not large enough to share with 4 people so I don't think that would work for us either. Next time we use the DDP we will not book a Signature restaurant for the trip. We actually lost money this past time because of doing that and that has never been a problem for us adventurous big eaters before!

We didn't love Yachtsman. Our food was fine, not fabulous, and DS's was bad enough that we sent it back and they took it off the bill. We won't go back there. We ate at Concourse that same trip and it was good, but not all that memorable. Unless you spend a TON at a signature restauant you are better off paying OOP. Our bill at Yachtsman was $130 (just DH and me - we paid OOP for DS's ice cream, which was all he ate.) Our bill at Kona was $90 for just DH and me (because we ran out of credits, we paid OOP for DS) so we could have had $180 worth of food eating twice at Kona instead of $130 worth of food eating once at Yachtsman. Oh, and I think the minimum # of nights on DDP is 3 - you might want to check to be sure.

I awoke to the radio this morning telling of another soldier that died in Iraq. I heard a last name & where he attended school. I shot right up freaking out, asking dh if he heard the whole name. This soldier that died was 24 year old Daniel Miller Jr. He is the oldest son of a friend that I grew up with. I seen Robin(his mother)at work Friday & we were talking about Daniel. Robin was so proud of her son & what he was doing. I was telling her how strong she is having to deal with a child over there now. We talked for quite awhile & before she left we both promised to have lunch together soon.

Janet, this is so, so horrible! I am so sorry!

Deb,
I am sorry to hear about the loss of your cousin.

I am sorry to hear about your cousin! When DH's friend was killed last summer I know his mom was comforted by having DS and her other grandkids around - not sure if you were planning to bring the boys.

She is supposed to see "the movie" this week about puberty & all its glory. Anyway, I want to talk to her before she sees it. Anyone have any idea how to handle this..no one ever had a talk with me..I just got it & thought I was dying.

Good luck! I always thought it would be so easy to talk to DS since I have a background in AIDS/HIV awareness. HA! And apparently the books for boys are a bit more graphic than a 5th grader really needs. I looked at some on the internet but I have yet to purchase one. Great. Something else to worry about!

Stephanie - I am sorry about the untimely demise of your rug. I washed a pillow for the little boy I used to nanny and it looked like a sheep exploded in the washer. ALL of the stuffing came out. And it floated around the house in little tufts for weeks to come. I hope you can find a suitable replacement.

 

[jackskellingtonsgirl]

So I am feeling a little better today, but not terrific. I think part of it now is that I haven't been eating and I haven't had any caffeine so everything is out of whack. I had a cup of coffee this morning, then a sandwich and Pepsi for lunch thinking that would fix things, but now I actually feel worse.

Anne Marie - How are those ADRs coming? I realized this morning that if I want to do early entry I can't do the 8 AM breakfast ADRs. Duh! Early entry at MK is my favorite, so I may have to sacrifice the 8 AM Crystal Palace. We'll do a late breakfast at Chef Mickey's one morning, and if our other MK day ends up being early entry as well then we'll just do CS that morning. I can live without early entry at MGM because there isn't that much there that we HAVE to see. Early entry at the other 3 is very useful. But no telling what the actual EMH schedule will be by the time August rolls around.

 

[Blueeyes101817]

I went searching for a dress jacket today. I only have parkas and I need something dressier for the funeral. I found one at Kohls (the 4th store I looked at) and it will be another 15% off tomorrow. They are holding the jacket for me. $160 jacket for $54 sounds like a pretty good deal to me.

Do you think this will look ok?

i like it Deb!

 

[bethbuchall]

Well I was clueless too....

I just bought the book Kate noted earlier "the care & keeping of you". I meant to buy it when I was ready but the school seems to have made that decision for me. I tore out 2 pages on tampons with pictures . Theres no need for her to know how to use those yet! Anyway, got her a stuffed monkey (she collects monkeys) with all hearts on it. I am going to give that to her & then go thru the book. She is such a hypocondriac that I honestly thing this is going to frazzle her. Ok, back to doing my adr's.

I was going to recommend that book, too. Laura is so private that it isn't easy having those talks with her. She shuts right down. But we've muddled through.

TMI warning!!!

I may have to go look for the 2 pages on tampons with pictures. She is a swimmer and just can't get a tampon to work. I've offered to help, but I think she'd rather die. So far, she has only missed practice, but if she gets her period during a big meet, she is going to have to get the hang of it. She just in October recently and goes a couple months in between. That is a schedule that I could get used to!

Beth

 

[bethbuchall]

Abi is a germaphobe....oh what are mom's supposed to do???

and the tampon is shown during classes here....you might not get a choice on that one

In the school programs around here tampons are mentioned only very briefly and seem to be discouraged. The shock here was in 7th grade health when condoms are talked about in detail (and the use demonstrated)! We didn't know ahead of time either.

Beth

 

[bethbuchall]

Thank you all for the prayers for Robin & her family. I spoke with Robin & I will be going to see her tomorrow or Wednesday.

Daniel was to to return home from Iraq this month. The family was waiting for his return to celebrate Christmas. I want to give Robin all the support & love I can. This is really hard, something every parent hopes to never deal with.

I hope I can be strong for her. How do you help someone with the loss of a child? This is just so terribly sad

Just a lot of listening and being there, I think. She's probably going to want/need to talk a lot longer than some are wanting to listen. I have tears in my eyes just thinking about it. I can't even imagine that kind of loss.

for her and her family and for you.

 

[my3princes]

We need to buy a new mattress. I think we've had ours for 12 or more years and it is really showing. I have been out looking, but can't seem to find any good review sites or resources online. I absolutely dread mattress shopping, but it has to be done.

Deb

 

[lovesdumbo]

I found out this evening that one of my cousins died today. He was 47 years old and was diagnosed with cancer just a few months ago. He was very anti doctors so by the time he went it was too late to do anything about it. I have only ever met him a handful of times so we are not close, but It is still shocking for someone so young to lose their life. My poor aunt and uncle have now lost 2 sons. They were devastated after losing the first about 12 years ago in a snowmobiling accident and have always said that you never want to outlive your kids. I'm sure that they will not be able to handle this well at all. I plan to go with my parents to the funeral once we find out when it is.

Deb

Prayers for you & your cousin's family.

Just wanted to pop on, say hi and...

If my beloved Horns can't win the National Championship, then Jonathan's childhood team will do.

Dale is just as crazy for college football as we are! Here are he and Jonathan doing the Gator Chomp at Cape May Cafe in August!

That is such a great picture!!!

Chris and I are trying to decide where to make reservations for our anniversary. We will have the boys with us and we love WCC, but we would also like to try Le Cellier and Concourse Steakhouse. We will probably do a character breakfast that morning too. I think we will have the DDP for 2 days later in the trip so we could try the other restaurants then. So WWYD?

Deb

We ate at Concourse in August and it was OK. I may be reacting to the fact that Joe was super cranky but I didn't care for the open atmosphere of the place. The kids menu was nice but they may have changed it since then. I've only eaten at Le Cellier in 2001 but it was awesome! I would save Le Cellier for when you're on the dining plan.

Not staying on long...I don't think...couldn't fall asleep until 2 this morning...migraine came back and 12 hours in front of the computer trying to piece the report together DID ME IN!!

Hope you get rid of this one faster and that folks start getting you what you need.

The Mickey rug doesn't launder

Sorry to hear of the mishap. Hope you're feeling better today.

I'm really torn about something at my job also. I worked at another store before Katrina and it was completely flooded and did not reopen for over a year, so I was transferred into the store that I am at. I took the HR position as it was available and the job that I did prior, Office Manager, was already filled by a girl that has had it for several years. The Store Manager that I was working for was also transferred into this store as the one that was there was out on medical and unfortunately had to retire because of it. Here's the delimma, the Store Manager is very unhappy with the Office Manager and wants to move her out and put me in that position. I would be much happier with the position but I don't want it at someone elses expense. Over the past year I have tried several times to work with her and show her how to do things the way he likes them done, she still doesn't get it done. I just feel like a snake in the grass taking the position.

I'm open for any opinions

You are no snake! You've tried to help her out and she wasn't receptive. You know what the Store Manager wants and you want to give him that. That is why the Store Manager wants you.

I have a question for everyone now! I was over on the cruise boards and I think I got a solution worked out for a way for us to take a 7 night cruise with Disney AND not have to wait a week. That's the good news. The bad news - we'd visit the same islands again! We'd do the 4 night Sunday to Thursday, then the 3 night Thursday to Sunday. Any opinions? It's not the best solution - but it might work...

How about doing a land portion after the 4 day?

I awoke to the radio this morning telling of another soldier that died in Iraq. I heard a last name & where he attended school. I shot right up freaking out, asking dh if he heard the whole name. This soldier that died was 24 year old Daniel Miller Jr. He is the oldest son of a friend that I grew up with. I seen Robin(his mother)at work Friday & we were talking about Daniel. Robin was so proud of her son & what he was doing. I was telling her how strong she is having to deal with a child over there now. We talked for quite awhile & before she left we both promised to have lunch together soon.


I am crying so hard, I can't believe this happened. I know lot's of soldiers have lost their lives over there, but this is the 1st one that I have known. I feel so helpless & my heart is aching so hard for Robin.

Please pray for Robin & her family. She has a very rough road ahead of her. Daniel was the oldest of 5 children, plus 2 stepsiblings.

You, Robin and her family will be in my prayers.

Tomorrow I am taking Katie out of school to see Mary Poppins on broadway. Figures its going to be freezing!
Its been so mild, I was hoping to walk around the city. Looking forward to spending some time alone with her. She is supposed to see "the movie" this week about puberty & all its glory. Anyway, I want to talk to her before she sees it. Anyone have any idea how to handle this..no one ever had a talk with me..I just got it & thought I was dying.

I think the book is a great idea. I would probably give it to her to read and ask if she had any questions after reading that and again after the school movie. Good Luck! I'll be asking you for advice in a few years!

We need to buy a new mattress. I think we've had ours for 12 or more years and it is really showing. I have been out looking, but can't seem to find any good review sites or resources online. I absolutely dread mattress shopping, but it has to be done.

Deb

I need a new matress too. We spent a small fortune on a Stearns & Foster about 5 years ago and I HATE it!!!! Now I'm scared to buy a new one. I thought when we picked out this one it was perfect. How am I going to tell if a new one is really what I want? I guess I would have know in the first 30 days that I didn't care for this one. Next time I will exchange it if I'm not happy.

 

[babytrees]

I was going to recommend that book, too. Laura is so private that it isn't easy having those talks with her. She shuts right down. But we've muddled through.

TMI warning!!!

I may have to go look for the 2 pages on tampons with pictures. She is a swimmer and just can't get a tampon to work. I've offered to help, but I think she'd rather die. So far, she has only missed practice, but if she gets her period during a big meet, she is going to have to get the hang of it. She just in October recently and goes a couple months in between. That is a schedule that I could get used to!

Beth

That is a schedule I could get used to also....I didn't want my mom's help either....I muddled through with her on one side of the door and me on the other....but I also hardly ever wear them.

From what I understand it was fully covered with Cassidy in use of....she just finds them uncomfortable and I didn't have to worry about trying to muddle with her too!!

 

[lovesdumbo]

Need prayers for Lizzy's friend Yvette's family. She and her parents when to France for Christmas-her Mom's sister is married to a Frenchman and Yvette has 2 cousins there. They spent last Christmas in Massachusetts. They were only there a few days when they got a call that Yvette's Dad's brother and SIL died on Christmas day. They were out on a walk with their DD's 15 & 13 when the dog fell in a river. Mom went after the dog and her DH went after her. The 15 year old ran for help while the 13 year old watch helpless. They didn't find the Mom for 4 days and still haven't found her DH.

Yvette's parents left her in France while they tried to help her uncle's family. They left no will so things were messy. Yvette and her Mom are back in Massachusetts now but her Dad is still in Ohio as they haven't found his brother yet.

Those poor girls!!! They will never be able to celebrate Christmas again.

Gene & I have a will but we need to call the lawyer this week to update it.

 

[lovesdumbo]

Elizabeth-I can use Disney Store pins for trade at WDW right?

 

[lovesdumbo]

We found a deer tick on Lizzy last night. We got most of it out but had to take her to the pediatrician today to remove the rest. Gene said she was great about it and she's usually a bit of a weany. We brought in the tick so they are testing it to see if it carried Lyme. I can't beleive this happened in January.