The DDA Trouble Free Zone Part 2

[tink2020]

HUGS Jennifer

I was a cheerleading coach in a program where the girls did not have the desire to be cheerleaders - talk about hard and frustrating!! I understand wanting a program to be successful and it being out of your control

Yeah, that was my sqaud the first time around. It's VERY hard. This made me sad in a different way, because they DID all love cheering. With the exception of one girl, who didn't surprise me a bit by quitting. Her excuse was "cheerleaders are stupid". Um.... then why have you been one for 3 years?! Whatever, I remember high school. Girls are temporarily insane for those 4 years (sorry to any moms of high schoolers I'm sure it's just girls at our school! )

But anyway.... a few of these girls loved cheering more than anything. They still have competitive squads, so that's good..... but it just breaks my heart to know it got THAT bad to where they felt they had no other options

I know this isn't a life-or-death thing, and they'll all be just fine. I just did such a good job preparing myself for the whole "she ISN'T you, it WILL be different, but different is ok" speech I was giving myself. But I guess I studied the wrong stuff!

 

[tink2020]

So Kate, was it Graeters?

 

[ellenbenny]

Yeah, that was my sqaud the first time around. It's VERY hard. This made me sad in a different way, because they DID all love cheering. With the exception of one girl, who didn't surprise me a bit by quitting. Her excuse was "cheerleaders are stupid". Um.... then why have you been one for 3 years?! Whatever, I remember high school. Girls are temporarily insane for those 4 years (sorry to any moms of high schoolers I'm sure it's just girls at our school! )

But anyway.... a few of these girls loved cheering more than anything. They still have competitive squads, so that's good..... but it just breaks my heart to know it got THAT bad to where they felt they had no other options

I know this isn't a life-or-death thing, and they'll all be just fine. I just did such a good job preparing myself for the whole "she ISN'T you, it WILL be different, but different is ok" speech I was giving myself. But I guess I studied the wrong stuff!

I know what you are going through to some degree. My DH coached soccer for 20 years. The last 7 of them he coached my youngest DS on a travel soccer team. He took a group of 9 year olds that lost all their games the first year, and over the years turned them into a first place championship team. He loves those kids and loved coaching. But my DS decided he didn't want to play soccer anymore, so my DH had to make a tough decision. He finished out coaching the last season without DS, but after that he decided that he couldn't commit that much time to something that wasn't a family activity anymore, so he decided to retire from coaching. He picked out someone who he thought would be a great coach and approached him and asked him to coach the boys, and he agreed. But for whatever reason, the team fell apart. They didn't really mesh with the coach, they started losing most of their games, and then a lot of the team members quit the team (didn't quit soccer, but went to other teams) It is so hard for my DH to watch this happen. He feels guilty for leaving the kids, because they loved him, and loved the team, and did so well with him. And also because he thought this guy would be such a good coach for the kids. In this case I don't know if the other coach is really that bad, or if it was just a case of it not being the same without the same coach the kids had for 7 years. It just wasn't the same anymore.

Well, anyway, I know it can be very difficult to watch this type of thing happen. And he gave himself the same speeches, and ended up feeling the same way you do at times. to you. I know it is just one of those things that will eat at you for a while, but I hope you will be ok with it after some time goes by.

 

[bear74]

Is the elephant on JoJo's Circus named "Dinky" because he's exceptionally small?

Amy

yes that is his name.

 

[UP Disney]

Yeah, that was my sqaud the first time around. It's VERY hard. This made me sad in a different way, because they DID all love cheering. With the exception of one girl, who didn't surprise me a bit by quitting. Her excuse was "cheerleaders are stupid". Um.... then why have you been one for 3 years?! Whatever, I remember high school. Girls are temporarily insane for those 4 years (sorry to any moms of high schoolers I'm sure it's just girls at our school! )

But anyway.... a few of these girls loved cheering more than anything. They still have competitive squads, so that's good..... but it just breaks my heart to know it got THAT bad to where they felt they had no other options

I know this isn't a life-or-death thing, and they'll all be just fine. I just did such a good job preparing myself for the whole "she ISN'T you, it WILL be different, but different is ok" speech I was giving myself. But I guess I studied the wrong stuff!

Hey, I'm a mom of a high schooler and I couldn't agree with you more. What happened to my sweet little girls?

It is always hard to let something go especially when you worked hard to build the program and see it falling back to where you started. The same happened with me and the Girl Scout program in my area. to help you get past this.

 

[lmartin2711]

here is a site with a bunch of Disney recipes
http://www.mousetyme.com/RECIPIES.html

MARTI!!!!! I checked this site out and it has the cheese soup!!!! YIPPEE.....I am going to the grocery store tomorrow and we are having Le Cellier cheese soup and dole whip for supper tomorrow night

Thanks Kate for posting this site!!!

Lynn

 

[PNO4TE]

Elin - Haven't really heard from you in a few days. How is your mom doing? Have you left for PA yet? I hope it all goes smoothly for you.

Tammi -- I am in PA now. DH brought his laptop and it took us over an hour to get hooked up to the free high speed internet. I know by now you have also left.

A quick update on my Mom... she was not certain who I was when we arrived. Her physical appearance has changed drastically since Christmas and she has a catheter. They are "messing with her meds" to try to make her more comfortable. She is on oxygen 24/7 now and it seems to be helping her breathe more easily.

Despite the unhappy beginning to the visit, by the end of our second visit today she seemed much more lucid. I am not kidding myself that she is going to be better, but she even remembered that she had not finished a conversation and took it up where we had left off about 10 minutes before.

Thanks again for all your thoughts, everyone.

 

[tink2020]

Tammi -- I am in PA now. DH brought his laptop and it took us over an hour to get hooked up to the free high speed internet. I know by now you have also left.

A quick update on my Mom... she was not certain who I was when we arrived. Her physical appearance has changed drastically since Christmas and she has a catheter. They are "messing with her meds" to try to make her more comfortable. She is on oxygen 24/7 now and it seems to be helping her breathe more easily.

Despite the unhappy beginning to the visit, by the end of our second visit today she seemed much more lucid. I am not kidding myself that she is going to be better, but she even remembered that she had not finished a conversation and took it up where we had left off about 10 minutes before.

Thanks again for all your thoughts, everyone.

Elin -- thank you for checking in! We'll continue to keep you in our thoughts and prayers in this difficult time

 

[bengalbelle]

Tammi -- I am in PA now. DH brought his laptop and it took us over an hour to get hooked up to the free high speed internet. I know by now you have also left.

A quick update on my Mom... she was not certain who I was when we arrived. Her physical appearance has changed drastically since Christmas and she has a catheter. They are "messing with her meds" to try to make her more comfortable. She is on oxygen 24/7 now and it seems to be helping her breathe more easily.

Despite the unhappy beginning to the visit, by the end of our second visit today she seemed much more lucid. I am not kidding myself that she is going to be better, but she even remembered that she had not finished a conversation and took it up where we had left off about 10 minutes before.

Thanks again for all your thoughts, everyone.

and continued prayers

 

[Steamboat Marti]

MARTI!!!!! I checked this site out and it has the cheese soup!!!! YIPPEE.....I am going to the grocery store tomorrow and we are having Le Cellier cheese soup and dole whip for supper tomorrow night

Thanks Kate for posting this site!!!

Lynn

Let me know how it comes out!!!!!

 

[UP Disney]

Let me know how it comes out!!!!!

I've decided to wait and try the real thing first. We already have our reservations at LeCellier. My DH had decided he wanted to try it this time around (the last two times we did the Rose & Crown). I've now told him that we have to try the cheese soup. I'm interested in knowing how these turn out as well in case I become addicted to these as much as I have this board.

 

[tink2020]

Goodnight DDAs! Thanks for your sympathy. I know it will work out, it was just an annoying night.

I'm off to do some Sudoku puzzles (Kyle has me ADDICTED) and then sleep......

Tomorrow's the day I'm going to start checking stuff off of the now famous to-do list!

 

[PNO4TE]

Kate -- hope you get your strength back soon

Denise -- my heart aches for you

 

[Eeyorecln]

Sorry for not posting earlier when you asked, but I couldn't remember the name of the book. I have several friends that swear by a book called The No Cry Sleep Solution. I'm not a believer in "cry it out", but also have never tried any other methods since DD sleeps with me for now. This book has gotten rave reviews from several friends who tried several methods, but didn't want to go to a full cry it out way. Good luck! I hope that tonight is better for you all.

Thank You. Will see how tonight goes and then I will be going on an outing to the bookstore.

 

[Steamboat Marti]

Thank You. Will see how tonight goes and then I will be going on an outing to the bookstore.

I hope it goes better for you tonight - you've got to be exhausted....

 

[babytrees]

Watch out babytrees!!!


Thank goodness. Finally!!!!!!!!!

Thank you for the PM's and spoiler alerts!!! This was the first Friday kick off that I have been able to see. Geesh took em to long to get rid of P's walking...er dancing

I won't even get to see next Thursday's show....Cassidy is in her first District Jazz concert....we'll see how she does only got her pieces this week...thank goodness she can read music(she got that from her all other talent came from me ) So you don't have to put spoiler alert out for me!!

 

[tinknme]

Hugs & prayers for you Elin

A quick update on my Mom... she was not certain who I was when we arrived. Her physical appearance has changed drastically since Christmas and she has a catheter. They are "messing with her meds" to try to make her more comfortable. She is on oxygen 24/7 now and it seems to be helping her breathe more easily.

Despite the unhappy beginning to the visit, by the end of our second visit today she seemed much more lucid. I am not kidding myself that she is going to be better, but she even remembered that she had not finished a conversation and took it up where we had left off about 10 minutes before.

Thanks again for all your thoughts, everyone.

 

[Eeyorecln]

Thanks -

my day just when from bad to horrible

I called DH and asked him to bring me home my favorite ice cream - and he comes home with black raspberry chip - not regular chocolate chip - seriously if you want to see a girl in deep depression - it would be me at this moment

How could he forget chocolate is a girl's best friend? I hope you feel better soon.

 

[Eeyorecln]

They moved to Portland. He works for Accenture.

It's quite a transition to get used to this weather. But it is a pretty area. Hope they like it. They should try Burgerville Tillamook cheeseburgers. We always take visitors there, the best fastfood cheeseburgers ever. and their milkshakes. Now, I'm hungry.

 

[Eeyorecln]

We got Rees' final denial today for the Medicaid. It's been a rough afternoon,and I've been in tears. I feel defeated at the moment, and I promised myself when they were born and had so many problems that I would never quit fighting for them. It is just so hard sometimes. BUT, DH and I have resolved to do whatever necessary to fight for Rees' rights and to win no matter the financial cost. It is our job to protect and fight for him when he cannot. It won't be an easy road, so I'd appreciate any and all prayers for our family. My children are the absolute most important thing in my life, and I will not let Rees down. We will hire a Medicaid Lawyer on Monday and put down a retainer. Then we request a court hearing with a family law judge. I still haven't heard from PBS, so PD that works out as well.

Don't feel defeated as you are the perfect mom for these kids. I know it's hard but hopefully it will get easier and things will turn out right. Prayers for your whole family.