The DDA Trouble Free Zone Part 13

[marcij]

I have a friend/coworker who is pregant she went in to be induced last thur and the baby was breech. so she went home and she had a dr visit today she was hoping the baby had turned back to head down. no such luck he is still breech. she is scheduled to have a c-section on fri morning at 0700cst and she is very terrifed of this. please pray for her. her name is Donna

Prayers for Donna, the baby and her family!

 

[marcij]

Hello, sorry I have been off for a couple days as I am having family problems. Hubby and I are fighting quite a bit lately and since August I have been getting migraines at least every other day (sometimes several days in a row. ) I hate to ask as I know June, Dawn and Kate need it more than I do. But I could use some PD DH wants to try and have his older boys 13 and 15 come live here again. They have been back in IA (where their mom lives) for 5 years. I just don't know if I can do it. I have a lot of health problems that have made it hard for me this year and we're still trying to get Zachary the help he needs. The dr's are leaning towards high functioning autism on the spectrum. DH is partners with 2 others in a company and works major hours to get it growing. I am exhausted and feel overwhelmed with everything going on with Zack and now he wants to move out two teens who are having adolescent problems. I feel like a horrible person but I'm at the end of my rope and feel like much more is going to break me. I told him I don't think I can do it and he is mad at me. I just don't know how to explain to him as he doesn't deal with Zachary so he doesn't understand why I don't want any more stress right now. He makes me feel like a failure because I'm not superwoman. This may end our marriage as I feel like he needs to at least hear me for us to figure this out.

Here's a and sending prayers and . You are NOT a failure. It sounds like he needs to be left alone with Zachary for an entire weekend, if not an entire week to see what you go through. You aren't being difficult, he is. If his boys are having problems, it wouldn't be a good idea to bring them home. Have you tried counseling yet? Here's some more .

edited: Just saw your note about counseling. There are avenues for free help -- do you have access to a Church or another avenue for free or reduced fee counseling? Good luck -- hope you have no more migraines!!!

 

[UP Disney]

Hello, sorry I have been off for a couple days as I am having family problems. Hubby and I are fighting quite a bit lately and since August I have been getting migraines at least every other day (sometimes several days in a row. ) I hate to ask as I know June, Dawn and Kate need it more than I do. But I could use some PD DH wants to try and have his older boys 13 and 15 come live here again. They have been back in IA (where their mom lives) for 5 years. I just don't know if I can do it. I have a lot of health problems that have made it hard for me this year and we're still trying to get Zachary the help he needs. The dr's are leaning towards high functioning autism on the spectrum. DH is partners with 2 others in a company and works major hours to get it growing. I am exhausted and feel overwhelmed with everything going on with Zack and now he wants to move out two teens who are having adolescent problems. I feel like a horrible person but I'm at the end of my rope and feel like much more is going to break me. I told him I don't think I can do it and he is mad at me. I just don't know how to explain to him as he doesn't deal with Zachary so he doesn't understand why I don't want any more stress right now. He makes me feel like a failure because I'm not superwoman. This may end our marriage as I feel like he needs to at least hear me for us to figure this out.

Major prayers & that you guys can get this worked out with DH.

 

[marcij]

Becky -- love the pictures you posted last night! Keep them coming!

 

[lmartin2711]

Any plans for today besides work?

Well it's Wednesday so after work I will meet David and the boys at church. We eat at church from 5:30 - 6pm. Then the kids head off to children's choir and Austin goes to youth. Our classes that we teach, 2nd/3rd grade boys/girls, starts at 7:10pm. So we have some "freetime until then. We usually get home around 8:30pm. Tonight I have to go by the grocery store for some more lunch stuff since I didn't get anything this weekend. Austin has been eating peanut butter crackers with a few other things for lunch instead of his same old turkey sandwich. I think he is liking the change though.

What about you.......besides work anything special??

 

[tinknme]

Morning DDA

Becky I love the pictures you posted last night

Jennifer for your friend Donna

Christi I hope you & dh can get things worked out

I love the Idea of a Christmas Ornament exchange. I will keep my eyes open for more info!

 

[KristineN]

How did ya know??!!

For some reason I think you are talking about kids, not ornaments!!!

 

[KMH1]

Good morning everyone!

I think I officially lost my cool status yesterday. We bought a Town and Country minivan after realizing there was no way we could comfortably drive to Disney in February after being packed in our Escape all weekend. I'm so depressed.

 

[tmfranlk]

I have a friend/coworker who is pregant she went in to be induced last thur and the baby was breech. so she went home and she had a dr visit today she was hoping the baby had turned back to head down. no such luck he is still breech. she is scheduled to have a c-section on fri morning at 0700cst and she is very terrifed of this. please pray for her. her name is Donna

Absolutely! I hope that everything goes smoothly and that mom is able to relax and enjoy the birth of her precious baby.

 

[tmfranlk]

And for those who have been waiting....

Here she is....

http://www.vanityfair.com/magazine/pressroom/

Miss Suri - Such a cutie!

 

[tmfranlk]

Do the 3 of us smell or something as lately we are the only ones at night chatting.

I was going to stay up with you last night, but had to go pick my mom up from bunco. I SO need to find a car, but now I just don't even have the time to find it.

 

[KMH1]

To cure my depression, I took advantage of the spend $100, save $25 deal on Disneyshopping yesterday. I didn't buy anything too exciting...just some Mickey polos, a cookie jar, panties for Alyssa, and a Cinderella dress for her too.

 

[KMH1]

I also learned an important lesson yesterday. Never give Alyssa a double chocolate chip cookie when she is in the front of the grocery cart in one of those little cars. Oh my gosh, the mess! I literally stripped her down to her diaper for the drive home.

 

[KMH1]

Sending lots of and to my DDA friends and your friends and family too.

It's time to get moving around here. I hope you all have a day!

 

[tmfranlk]

Hello, sorry I have been off for a couple days as I am having family problems. Hubby and I are fighting quite a bit lately and since August I have been getting migraines at least every other day (sometimes several days in a row. ) I hate to ask as I know June, Dawn and Kate need it more than I do. But I could use some PD DH wants to try and have his older boys 13 and 15 come live here again. They have been back in IA (where their mom lives) for 5 years. I just don't know if I can do it. I have a lot of health problems that have made it hard for me this year and we're still trying to get Zachary the help he needs. The dr's are leaning towards high functioning autism on the spectrum. DH is partners with 2 others in a company and works major hours to get it growing. I am exhausted and feel overwhelmed with everything going on with Zack and now he wants to move out two teens who are having adolescent problems. I feel like a horrible person but I'm at the end of my rope and feel like much more is going to break me. I told him I don't think I can do it and he is mad at me. I just don't know how to explain to him as he doesn't deal with Zachary so he doesn't understand why I don't want any more stress right now. He makes me feel like a failure because I'm not superwoman. This may end our marriage as I feel like he needs to at least hear me for us to figure this out.

Many , Christi. I can't even imagine how hard this is for you. Easier said that done, I know, but is there any way to make your husband understand that while you love your stepchildren, you are not their mom. For them to come live with you, he would really need to be available as their father. I don't know the situation with their mom, but I just can't see it being easy on two teenagers to be brought across the country to then be put in the almost-sole care of their stepmom. It should be your dh's place to handle the tough side of parenting for them, not yours, but he won't be around to do that. (I'm not saying that no stepparent should discipline at all, but my friend has told me the importance of letting her dh handle the real punishments with her stepdaughter.)

Is there any examples from your recent trip to help him understand what you go through daily with Zachary? Maybe there was an instance that he witnessed that you can point to as something you see often or in greater degree?

I have migraines too and I know that it's hard to take care of 1 child when they are bad, but to have 4 of your own and then add 2 older ones to the mix. I would just keeping explaining that you love your stepsons and under normal circumstances would be happy to have them come live with you. However, with Zachary and your own health issues right now, it is more than you can handle to take care of your own family without adding 2 teenagers to the mix. Good luck, Christi. You have my prayers that things will work out for the best.

 

[lmartin2711]

Good morning everyone!

I think I officially lost my cool status yesterday. We bought a Town and Country minivan after realizing there was no way we could comfortably drive to Disney in February after being packed in our Escape all weekend. I'm so depressed.

That is the ultimate supermom vehicle......in my opinion. I love the Chrysler Town and Country!!!! That has been my dream vehicle......in a powder puff baby blue. Of course when I outgrow my kids and go to smaller vehicle I really want one of the new mustangs.....in bright shiny apple red!!!

But oh well.....I can have dreams right

 

[tmfranlk]

Good morning everyone!

I think I officially lost my cool status yesterday. We bought a Town and Country minivan after realizing there was no way we could comfortably drive to Disney in February after being packed in our Escape all weekend. I'm so depressed.

My sister says the same thing! She just leased a Honda Pilot so she can hold her soon-to-be 3 and she REFUSED to have a mini-van. Now me, that's what I want! But then I also wish I could have 3 or 4 more kids, but will probably never have more than my one so I think it's compensation.

 

[tmfranlk]

Good morning DDA! I skipped about 100 pages from this weekend, but I am seeing quotes and comments that sound like I missed some good things like pictures of Denise and John, Beth's trip pics and a great exchange. I guess I'm on my way to backtrack to find them all. Theresa count me in for any kind of exchange in case I don't find the posts.

 

[KristineN]

It was good.....his latest quest: is that he wants to go study abroad, wants to apply for the Rhodes Scholar....I thought maybe we could get a month of school under our belts first!! but NOT him

I do 3 loads of laundry a DAY just to break even!!

Kristine- You and Bill look marvelous!!!!! Keep on eating those soy patties. How was the weekend with Jonathan? Four loads of laundry? That’s what I do in a week, then again I don’t do every ones in the same week.

 

[bethbuchall]

Good morning everyone!

I think I officially lost my cool status yesterday. We bought a Town and Country minivan after realizing there was no way we could comfortably drive to Disney in February after being packed in our Escape all weekend. I'm so depressed.

Welcome to the Club! I joined a little over 7 years ago when I found that an infant seat plus two boosters didn't fit too well in a Jetta. To make matters even more uncool, I'm still driving that same 1999 Dodge Caravan.

At least you get to drive to Disney in yours!