The Conservative Thread: Back to Basics. Pass the Lasagna and Have a Flower!!

[wonderlanne]

its true!!! Our cat loves DH the best! The dog loves both of us, but acts like a nut when daddy comes home. Its like having a three year old toddler when he walks in the door. The dog is beside himself with glee!

HA HA HA!!!!!!! that is just so cute. and there's nothing like a dog waggling himself to bits when one of his humans comes home. how very, very sweet.

 

[Michelle67]

That sounds a lot like my house. I rescue them and DH gets all the love. Maybe if I wasn't the one giving shots, cleaning ears, triming toenails and other such not-so-fun vet stuff they'd love me more.

Yeah, there is that. I was commenting on my husband's cat who hates me recently, and my dad said "Ummm...aren't you the one who took her to the vet for her corneal scrape?" Yes...in point of fact I am, and not just once but TWICE. And I put the annoying drops in her eyes forevermore to maintain the situation, too. But my hubby is also just a cat magnet. His cat hates everyone but him, and we have a few friends with cats who won't go near anybody but their person, but love my husband too.

its true!!! Our cat loves DH the best! The dog loves both of us, but acts like a nut when daddy comes home. Its like having a three year old toddler when he walks in the door. The dog is beside himself with glee!

12 months. I will complain NO MORE! That takes major strength! You have my highest praise!

Nah, you can complain all you want. A really great professor of mine once commented in class that it is pointless to compare suffering and hardship, because it is all miserable. I liked that. Besides, you do what you have to do because the only way to the other side is through...no getting around it. I'm a military brat and I grew up with this sort of thing, and back then it was weeks between letters. Now, I'm on IM with my hubby almost every day. It's not so bad. Of course I miss him, but it isn't like it was for my mother in the 60s and 70s.

 

[TLSnell1981]

Hey...can someone tell me how to post a poll?

 

[#1hockeymom]

Its perfect timing. The dog is actually our son's. He got him when he turned 11. With our kids now 15 and 23 if it weren't for the dog, no one would care that we came home! (or at least act like it! )

 

[juligrl]

I'm back! Geez, you all can talk a lot - I have some catching up to do. Disney was great!

 

[wonderlanne]

That sounds a lot like my house. I rescue them and DH gets all the love. Maybe if I wasn't the one giving shots, cleaning ears, triming toenails and other such not-so-fun vet stuff they'd love me more.

true! i can't even give the girls mani/pedis. i have to take them to the vet for that. and medicine! forget it. not only do they act like i'm torturing them, if i manage to get the medicine in them, they then give me the coldest shoulder ever. it just plain hurts my feelings.

 

[#1hockeymom]

Hey...can someone tell me how to post a poll?

I THINK, think being the strongest word there. You write your post, subject and info and hit send... then go back and hit edit

 

[#1hockeymom]

true! i can't even give the girls mani/pedis. i have to take them to the vet for that. and medicine! forget it. not only do they act like i'm torturing them, if i manage to get the medicine in them, they then give me the coldest shoulder ever. it just plain hurts my feelings.

12 pound dog... someone holds him down and I clip as fast as I can. He's a jackrat, so no grooming to speak of. We got off lucky with this last dog!

 

[Michelle67]

Military wife.........the hardest 'job' you'll ever have (and love.)

That's a fact. I'm not one, though. My husband is a Marine because Marines are always and forever Marines...but he is not active duty. He's a civilian and could legally walk away any time he wants. My nephew is over there with the Army. Big difference, I think.

You ARE amazing in that you downplay this so much - I'd be whining like crazy but you take everything in stride...and I have a couple of those big bad dogs myself - they're so big and bad that they'd knock me down trying to hide behind me if trouble ever came my way.

You're sweet, and I'm just lucky. Like I said, I was trained from birth for this sort of thing, and also taught to be very self-sufficient. I can't fix my car...but it has a warranty so I'm good.

As for the dog...well...he might lick 'em to death. I count on the bark though. He does have a big bad bark. I'm just hoping if the situation ever arises the possible intruder or assailant will think he means it. Haha.

I'm back! Geez, you all can talk a lot - I have some catching up to do. Disney was great!

Welcome home! Glad you had a great time.

 

[wonderlanne]

My sweet Roo [not the pup in my avatar] once growled at a young fellow who had come to visit. I was silly enough not to pick up on THAT good advice early on. Roo was right and, if I had listened to him, I would have saved myself from a lot of heartache.

they're so smart, the furry children.

 

[debbieandroo]

Yeah, the "what I want" list tends to get more simplistic as you get older. My biggest thing is the guy has to put his relationship with God and Jesus first, and spirituality would have to be the biggest part of our relationship. I'm one of those who believes a successful relationship for me as a Christian has to be based on a foundation of God and His word. So, as I've gotten older, I've realized I refuse to waste my time with any guy who cannot give me that. That, conservatism, kindness, loyalty, trustworthiness, and responsibility are all things I will not budge on. I'd rather be single forever than settle for less.

Good for you -- I've known lots of folks who 'settled' then regretted that 'settling' .. I remember when I was younger that I wanted someone who was a committed Christian but who also played the guitar, sang beautifully, loved children, loved to cook, loved that I don't love housework, wrote songs about me....

could it be I wanted Barry Manilow?

I have since gotten over myself and, yes, that godliness is still primary - I'm just not as picky about how it is manifested. I've known some really vocal Christians who had no depth and who were anything but 'Christian' in their character. I've also known some quiet, unobtrusive folks who are quite extraordinary in their godliness.

stick to your guns, SD! Or rather, cling to your guns...

 

[wonderlanne]

Yeah, the "what I want" list tends to get more simplistic as you get older. My biggest thing is the guy has to put his relationship with God and Jesus first, and spirituality would have to be the biggest part of our relationship. I'm one of those who believes a successful relationship for me as a Christian has to be based on a foundation of God and His word. So, as I've gotten older, I've realized I refuse to waste my time with any guy who cannot give me that. That, conservatism, kindness, loyalty, trustworthiness, and responsibility are all things I will not budge on. I'd rather be single forever than settle for less.

i've bent the wish list a few times...it really isn't worth the innter conflict. i'll bet anybody you ask would say, "don't settle". besides, it is kind of fun having tons of freedom!

 

[debbieandroo]

I'm back! Geez, you all can talk a lot - I have some catching up to do. Disney was great!

Welcome back!

I'm signing off -- good night, everyone...

 

[#1hockeymom]

Good for you -- I've known lots of folks who 'settled' then regretted that 'settling' .. I remember when I was younger that I wanted someone who was a committed Christian but who also played the guitar, sang beautifully, loved children, loved to cook, loved that I don't love housework, wrote songs about me....

could it be I wanted Barry Manilow?

I have since gotten over myself and, yes, that godliness is still primary - I'm just not as picky about how it is manifested. I've known some really vocal Christians who had no depth and who were anything but 'Christian' in their character. I've also known some quiet, unobtrusive folks who are quite extraordinary in their godliness.

stick to your guns, SD! Or rather, cling to your guns...

Excellent advice. Dh and I line up on most things, but some we're total opposites. Through being opposites, we've learned from each other, which is a great thing! Some of the things I am most vocal about are things I learned to appreciate through DH.

 

[wonderlanne]

Its perfect timing. The dog is actually our son's. He got him when he turned 11. With our kids now 15 and 23 if it weren't for the dog, no one would care that we came home! (or at least act like it! )

 

[Michelle67]

Excellent advice. Dh and I line up on most things, but some we're total opposites. Through being opposites, we've learned from each other, which is a great thing! Some of the things I am most vocal about are things I learned to appreciate through DH.

Good point. I thought I was a liberal until my husband informed me that I was actually a closet conservative. I'm out of the closet now. Truly, though, I'm fairly liberal socially. Drives him nuts.

 

[#1hockeymom]

TLS>> I did a poll.... click new thread.. put in subject/stuff... at the very bottom click the "poll" box. On next screen fill it out.

 

[wonderlanne]

12 pound dog... someone holds him down and I clip as fast as I can. He's a jackrat, so no grooming to speak of. We got off lucky with this last dog!

it is sooooo funny when you think of what we will go through for the precious pets. if they're on your lap, you can't stand up. if they're sleeping on the bed, you have to sleep in a two-inch space to keep from waking them. if they're on the chair, you stand.

 

[SorcererDonald16]

i have on occasion thought, "terminally-ill, 98 year old billionnaire", but that's horribly coarse. it is coarse, right?

in 2007 i went on two trips to wdw. one with just me (flower and garden festival) and one with the boyfriend. guess which one felt more like a fun vacation?

To your first statement: To your second statement: Methinks the former.

I'm back! Geez, you all can talk a lot - I have some catching up to do. Disney was great!

WB, juligirl! I'm glad you had fun!

Good for you -- I've known lots of folks who 'settled' then regretted that 'settling' .. I remember when I was younger that I wanted someone who was a committed Christian but who also played the guitar, sang beautifully, loved children, loved to cook, loved that I don't love housework, wrote songs about me....

could it be I wanted Barry Manilow?

I have since gotten over myself and, yes, that godliness is still primary - I'm just not as picky about how it is manifested. I've known some really vocal Christians who had no depth and who were anything but 'Christian' in their character. I've also known some quiet, unobtrusive folks who are quite extraordinary in their godliness.

stick to your guns, SD! Or rather, cling to your guns...

I'm just a bitter clinger here in Ole Virginny!

In seriousness... I remember a list I wrote when I was in HS about what I wanted in a guy. I think it went something like "loves to travel, is a Braves fan, loves Elvis Presley music, loves dogs, loves Disney, likes to read, and likes politics." Basically I wanted a male version of me! There are plenty of traits I'd like to find in a guy, but they aren't "musts" for me anymore. I started figuring out what the most important things to me were, and then it all made more sense to me in terms of what exactly I wanted.

I really have two of my friends from grad school to thank for my outlook now. I was trying to talk myself into thinking during our first year that it would be okay to date someone who was a Christian, but it wasn't a big part of his life. This was based on a crush I had at the time. I mentioned what I was thinking to one of those friends, and she talked to me for a good hour about it and really got me rethinking what faith and Christianity really meant in terms of relationships. My other friend recently got married, and she'd talk to me about the subject several times. Their marriage is completely founded on their shared faith. Lots of other things they have in common complement that. But I look at those two in their marriages, and my parents and one set of grandparents, and I say to myself that's what I want.

 

[wonderlanne]

I'm back! Geez, you all can talk a lot - I have some catching up to do. Disney was great!

ooh...please tell us all about the weather, the xmas decor, your favorite new-found treats, etc.