People who insist on having a "spontaneous" holiday, who refuse to plan, make reservations or itineraries, just do NOT get it. All the planning, plotting, and preliminaries are a joy in themselves and allow you to stretch a vacation from mere days to months (or years!). Well done, you two. And listen, about your menfolks--they can afford those nonchalant attitudes because they know you're taking care of all the details for the things they're planning to enjoy. (Joh, please, tell Gary I said hi.) Continue having vacation fun.