The Bachelor Season 19 Chris - Prince Farming NO SPOILERS

[StephMK]

Yeah, I thought that was quite weird at the time she said it. But here someone afterward said she's some type of counselor? And you bringing up how she "loves her story" again made me think of a technique some therapists use to overcome a traumatic event. We ALL have a story of our lives. For people who've been traumatized, when they retell it over and over, they are often the victim in their story. And they are STUCK in place in the trauma. Therapists who use the "story" technique try to get patients to write a "new story" where they learn to find their strengths, integrate what happened to them into their story, that it's just one chapter in their life and their story hasn't ended. They are not stuck in that story or that role of victim forever. They CAN turn around their story to be a victor over what happened to them. Usually the people who have overcome the most are the most inspiring to others. We all know someone like that. They have been able to rewrite their story (events being exactly the same) with a different interpretation to what happened to them, write a new proactive ending and give some meaning to what happened to them and teach the lessons to others.

I don't know if Kelsey is using that technique, because when she told Chris about her husband, she did sit back, say her DH's full name and certainly launched into a full "story." Only she just is is getting that story technique really wrong. She's too detached from it. Like it happened to someone else. People are supposed to OWN their stories, but not in a detached way. All it is is a weird, creepy story. Maybe she thinks she can rewrite the ending by finding true love again and finally a happy ending with Chris?

Or, 18 months, is just too soon. She is detached because she's still numb. She detached herself from what happened to her and hasn't been letting herself really process what happened. She thinks just saying the "story" will be enough. Maybe she really did have a melt down when she realized Chris won't give her her happy ending and she fell apart because her "story" depends on it?

Or, maybe she got the idea to tell her "story" from her handler, who told her she needs to tell Chris her story, get it out between them (and on air, of course. )

Or she's a good actress.

OR, she's just a narcissistic psycho and this is the "story" of her life that she stars in.




Eww! that was so skeevy when she said that! Really? She wants to admit on national TV that she doesn't shower?

Ok, that makes sense but YES, she told it in a totally creepy, "boil the bunny" crazy way. I feel bad for her DH's family if they are watching this and I'm dying to know what they thought of her when he was alive.

I totally agree! Carly has really grown on me. I like her, Becca, and Whitney.

It's so crazy that the girls are trying to outdo each other with their tragic "stories," as if that's somehow going to guarantee that they stay. Looking back at past seasons, it's never the one with the crazy sad background that gets chosen. I suppose there are a few exceptions to that, but usually it's the one who complains the least who gets chosen.

He is boring and I like those same girls. I can really see Becca being ok in a small town, raising a family. Seriously, the show really needs to spend more time in IA to see if the girls are truly still interested. Sorry but I am not a fan of IA, it is the barrier to most places we want to go through the midwest. Just driving through hours and hours of fields.

Britt has got to go, she is such an ACTRESS. DH just asked if she was ok and I had to show him my response. Waking up in full makeup, not showering, that whole wide eyed bit - reminds me of Claire and I cannot stand her.

We are just now to the part at the end of the group date. They are both idiots.

 

[StephMK]

Ok... awesome ending. hahah.

Can't wait!! Still at end of group date now. UGH.

 

[MomofKatie]

I so, so, so wish we could have seen footage of Ashley and Krazy Kelsey in the same van, leaving the Badlands, rejected. What was THAT ride like???

 

[Kirby]

Ok, that makes sense but YES, she told it in a totally creepy, "boil the bunny" crazy way. I feel bad for her DH's family if they are watching this and I'm dying to know what they thought of her when he was alive.



He is boring and I like those same girls. I can really see Becca being ok in a small town, raising a family. Seriously, the show really needs to spend more time in IA to see if the girls are truly still interested. Sorry but I am not a fan of IA, it is the barrier to most places we want to go through the midwest. Just driving through hours and hours of fields.

Britt has got to go, she is such an ACTRESS. DH just asked if she was ok and I had to show him my response. Waking up in full makeup, not showering, that whole wide eyed bit - reminds me of Claire and I cannot stand her.

We are just now to the part at the end of the group date. They are both idiots.

Can't wait till next week when the girls get to go to IOWA and see where he lives.

Would have loved to see Ashley's expression when she realizes that Chris sent Kelsey home too. Was so hoping that they would show it.

 

[robinb]

I so, so, so wish we could have seen footage of Ashley and Krazy Kelsey in the same van, leaving the Badlands, rejected. What was THAT ride like???

I was thinking the same thing!

 

[Amy]

I missed the 2nd hour of the show (was watching Scorpion on CBS). Can someone give me a quick run-down of how the date with Ashley and Kelsey went? I was flipping back to the Bachelor during commercials, and I saw Chris flying in a helicopter and he had the rose, and then I saw Ashley and Kelsey still in the Badlands, so I assume he sent both of them home. What happened?

 

[Amy]

I found and read Samantha's recap from Entertainment Weekly: http://www.ew.com/recap/the-bachelor-season-19-episode-6. Oh my.

What's happening next week? Is there an extra episode or something? It's not time for The Women Tell All, is it?

 

[NAB]

I missed the 2nd hour of the show (was watching Scorpion on CBS). Can someone give me a quick run-down of how the date with Ashley and Kelsey went? I was flipping back to the Bachelor during commercials, and I saw Chris flying in a helicopter and he had the rose, and then I saw Ashley and Kelsey still in the Badlands, so I assume he sent both of them home. What happened?

He asked Ashley how things were going in the house. He said Kelsey was not getting along with anyone. So he turned around and told Kelsey what Ashley said. So Ashley got upset with him saying how could he tell Kelsey what she told him and went off crying. Kelsey looked Ashley in the face while Chris wasn't there and said I know what you did.

Chris told Ashley that they were in different places in there lives , sent her home so Kelsey was all happy until he sent her home too. Can't remember who he told that he has lots of friends and Kelsey has to get along in a group setting.

The girls were partying after the second suitcase left.

Thought it was so unfair to take Britt to see the band alone on his group date. I would have been mad too. Wonder how long they were gone for.

Next week should be good when he takes them all to his home town to see if they truly could live there.

 

[NAB]

No they are just having an extra episode on Sunday. It is strange that they are going to be talking to Chris about how it is going so far and then they have Kelsey back to talk too. Weird , Chris Harrison said he can't wait until she does the Woman Tell All right to her .

 

[Psychodisney]

I so, so, so wish we could have seen footage of Ashley and Krazy Kelsey in the same van, leaving the Badlands, rejected. What was THAT ride like???

Jimmy Kimmel had Ashley on skype last night! She said they had different vans....thank God! She was actually pretty normal on Kimmel except for her eyelash extensions!

 

[piglet too]

What's happening next week? Is there an extra episode or something? It's not time for The Women Tell All, is it?

On Sunday there is a "Chris Tells All" episode and then an episode with the final six going to Iowa where one will go with Chris to his hometown to watch a high school football game. Some of the ladies also take a trip to his hometown and see how small it really is. (They show Britt having a meltdown of sorts too). On Monday it is the final four and a trip to their hometowns.

 

[jmedrew]

Oh yay! So glad I found his thread!

Kelsey is crazy...seriously, like scary crazy. Mentally she was not ready for the show. I really wonder what her dead hubbys family is thinking watching this! Her "story" is unfortunetly not that unique. And really its not about her that much. Ugh.

I like Carly. I could party with her...and Kaitlin too. They seem like fun girls. I really dont see any of them as farm girls. He should have kept the fishergirl from Florida for that.

Also, I liked Chris last season but he is so damn boring as the bachelor. Not sure if he is just totally out of his element or what. Every date he talks to them for 5 secs then makes out. The best date was the one with Jimmy Kimmel. I thought him and Kaitlin should have left him there and did their own date.

Cant wait until they see where he is from next week. Im from Minnesota and I love the midwest but Iowa...just no.

 

[Amy]

No they are just having an extra episode on Sunday. It is strange that they are going to be talking to Chris about how it is going so far and then they have Kelsey back to talk too. Weird , Chris Harrison said he can't wait until she does the Woman Tell All right to her .

Maybe they're having Kelsey on alone before the Women Tell All episode because they're afraid all the girls will gang up on Kelsey and she won't get a chance to remind everyone that she's a widow and has such a "tragic story"?

 

[Imzadi]

I did not like her in the beginning, but she is growing on me.
But the whole, "Her story is better then my story" whiners are too much!

Okay, the fact that each of them had to come up with "stories" means that Kelsey is not using some psychological technique. It seems that the producers are having them come up with the story of their lives to use as filler for the fact that there is so much dead air time this season.

Wasn't there a time back in the beginning of this whole series that they actually tried to find a good match for a bachelor?

Yes, the first 3 seasons were rather genuine. And the first Bachelorette, Trista Rehn, truly did find her love, Ryan, and they've been married now for about 10 years and have 2 kids.

....oh no, don't get me wrong...it CAN be done - she just doesn't appear to be the 'country-girl' type...

No, Alleged Virgin Ashley's so friggin emotionally high maintenance that there is no way she'd last on a farm or is a suitable emotional match for Chris. He'd go plow the field and come back to find her having some hysterical meltdown that he'd have to deal with. She'd be responsible to go milk the goats and instead have another melt down. Stuff like that doesn't fly on a farm.

This might just be the worst season ever. I cannot stand Chris…he's a huge bore

The producers are definitely having to come up with more created drama to fill the airtime.

 

[robinb]

I felt sorry for Kelsey IRL last night. It must have been hard to watch all the other women celebrate when she didn't come back. Even if she was a plant, that's gotta hurt.

 

[Imzadi]

This week is a little better. Am I the only one watching?

I won't be watching live till two weeks from now. (Except on Sunday.) The finale of The Celebrity Apprentice is on, I think, next Monday.

Sorry but I am not a fan of IA, it is the barrier to most places we want to go through the midwest. Just driving through hours and hours of fields.

Yeah, I drove through on the Interstate, cross-country, and man that was a lonely, boring, straight stretch of road that seemed to go on for days.

(Sorry Deb in IA! )

Jimmy Kimmel had Ashley on skype last night! She said they had different vans....thank God!

That's probably because the tech guys knew there'd be a chick fight they couldn't stop.

I felt sorry for Kelsey IRL last night. It must have been hard to watch all the other women celebrate when she didn't come back. Even if she was a plant, that's gotta hurt.

She'll just add it to her story later on.

 

[Robinrs]

Jimmy Kimmel had Ashley on skype last night! She said they had different vans....thank God! She was actually pretty normal on Kimmel except for her eyelash extensions!

Ashley's kind of cow...

 

[BadgerGirl84]

Just watched the most recent episode today.

I'm really going to miss the two nuts he sent home...it was fun to watch their meltdowns. Was it just me or were Ashley's eyelash extensions the longest EVER on her final date??

 

[FINFAN]

ok so while Kelsey and Ashley were both doomed to go eventually and Kelsey is seriously disturbed~does anyone else think Chris was scum for using them as informants on their date? He brings them on the date, and immediately starts asking about the other girls getting along etc.Gets his info and dumps them.I mean, clearly there was no actual date planned..a bed in the middle of nowhere and a blanket to go sit on a rock I know all the editing etc., but it was such a blatant "yeah, you're both outta here but gonna use you first" and then bolt like a coward leaving you in the barren Badlands.Really? I know the show calls the shots but there is no way I would have gone along with that exit if I were him. Man up , dude.
Now Carly...she's too good for him..actually all the remaining girl's (minus Britt) are too good for him. He's just getting all the Britt he can now as I'm pretty sure there's not many like her on/near the farm maybe her lack of showering is a familiar scent he is used to out on all that land? but you know, what ever gets your tractor going Oh well~I have been enjoying seeing places I hope to road trip to so that has been a plus this season!(petty sure that's going to end with Iowa tho.. here in Illinois it isn't much better)

Team Carly for the next Bachelorette!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Anyone agree?

 

[FINFAN]

Just watched the most recent episode today.

I'm really going to miss the two nuts he sent home...it was fun to watch their meltdowns. Was it just me or were Ashley's eyelash extensions the longest EVER on her final date??

they DID have a life of their own. Kelsey calling her a Kardashian,lol..... I kept expecting to see Kelsey pop up in the helicopter, all "Here's Johnny!" i won't miss that laugh of here's tho~ DS walked in, heard that and said, "Nope! Someone get a bucket of water" (as in The Wizard of Oz, lol)