I totally feel for ya. That's why we moved to Texas from California last year, which I'm still pretty angry about. DH's job moved to Bangalore, India, and there just weren't that many other jobs at his level available in our part of Northern California, so we left our lives there and had to start over here.
I hope your dh's long commute is a short-term situation. I know how it can mess with your life!
Sue in Texas
...who went to college in FLINT, MI, when the local unemployment rate was 26%...