"Thank you, Sweetie."

[Ceila]

Definitely not something that I would let bother me. I try not to take well-meaning gestures and turn them into negatives. Makes my days much better.

 

[missypie]

Next time, refer to her as darling or dollbaby or lovey....

 

[Magic Mom]

I understand that her intent was probably not to offend, and that's why I don't say anything to people who do it. I still think it's rude and disrespectful. I mean, they wouldn't say that to a bank president who they're asking for a loan.

But you aren't a bank president, you're just some lady at Arby's.

 

[Family Fun Mom]

It sounds like she is a pleasant young woman. Nicely calling someone sweetie is not rude. I've had cashiers treat me as if I ruined their day by stepping into their line. Now that's rude. Being called sweetie would be pretty nice.

 

[AustinTink]

LOL, there was a standup routine many years ago, I think it was Ellen. She was talking about when sales people call you ma'am they really mean the word that rhymes with witch.

I still think of it to this day when someone calls me ma'am... especially, the snarky ladies at the Clinique counter.

 

[Muggle-born]

I think it's so weird that people get bothered by sir or ma'am. To me, it's something said because of respect for that person and nothing else.

 

[Liberty Belle]

But you aren't a bank president, you're just some lady at Arby's.

Yes, but I (and everyone else) deserves the same amount of respect as a bank president. But, again, she probably isn't intending to show disrespect. It just annoys me and I wondered how many other people are bothered by it.

 

[Liberty Belle]

LOL, there was a standup routine many years ago, I think it was Ellen. She was talking about when sales people call you ma'am they really mean the word that rhymes with witch.

I still think of it to this day when someone calls me ma'am... especially, the snarky ladies at the Clinique counter.

Oh I think I remember that.

Yeah, I don't think I'd like to be called ma'am by the Clinique ladies, either, but better than that Sweetie.

 

[MrsJackSparrow4Life]

definitely not something that i would let bother me. I try not to take well-meaning gestures and turn them into negatives. Makes my days much better.

mte!

 

[Robinrs]

Wow, I call people "sweetie" all the time! And it's only the ones I really like AND respect!!

As for ma'am, never said it, probably never will. And yes, I live in Georgia. Somehow "ma'am" doesn't sound right with a Brooklyn accent...

Sorry you felt bad about it, LB, I'll think twice before I say it again!

 

[Jane-in-PA]

It sounds like she is a pleasant young woman. Nicely calling someone sweetie is not rude. I've had cashiers treat me as if I ruined their day by stepping into their line. Now that's rude. Being called sweetie would be pretty nice.

Exactly! At least she wasn't on her cell phone or texting and not even acknowledging you. I've had that happen. Give me "Sweetie" any day over being ignored.

 

[Liberty Belle]

Wow, I call people "sweetie" all the time! And it's only the ones I really like AND respect!!

As for ma'am, never said it, probably never will. And yes, I live in Georgia. Somehow "ma'am" doesn't sound right with a Brooklyn accent...

Sorry you felt bad about it, LB, I'll think twice before I say it again!

To be fair, if it's someone my age or older, it doesn't bother me that much, but from someone younger, it just makes me cringe. And, if someone a lot older than I says it, it make me feel kinda warm and cozy.

 

[Ceila]

To be fair, if it's someone my age or older, it doesn't bother me that much, but from someone younger, it just makes me cringe. And, if someone a lot older than I says it, it make me feel kinda warm and cozy.

Age discrimination!

j/k!

 

[ilovepcot]

I don't think calling anyone "sweetie" is rude or disrespectful. I think it merely shows the person is "attempting" to be nice and hasn't been taught the proper way to address the public. Feel a bit of sympathy for them if anything.

And....has anyone here got skin smoother than a catfish? I do! Was told that by a boy in the 9th grade.

 

[eliza61]

I'm soo guilty of this. You guys have permission to beat me with a virtual pixie wand.
I am famous for saying "Darlin" to every thing. Hello Darlin, take care Darlin. Drives my dh nutzy.
I don't take it very seriously. We are a much looser society than when I was younger. Personally, I'm pretty happy if the sales girl (whoops is that a no-no) is not rolling her eyes at me because I had the nerve to make her get off her cell phone to attend to me.

I went to coldstone creamery last Friday and the young lady behind the counter was actually pissed because I asked her was she working. She was the only person behind there and was on the cell phone when I walked in. Silly me for expecting her to get off and say "May I help you"

 

[luvmy3]

Wow, I call people "sweetie" all the time! And it's only the ones I really like AND respect!!

As for ma'am, never said it, probably never will. And yes, I live in Georgia. Somehow "ma'am" doesn't sound right with a Brooklyn accent...

Sorry you felt bad about it, LB, I'll think twice before I say it again!

I bet if you said it they would think you were really calling them a witch or old

 

[MIGrandma]

I'm with you, OP. I don't really like it either. If you don't know me, save the terms of endearment for someone you do know.

I used to work as a waitress and I never called my customers names like that. One co-worker did though and I hated hearing her say it. And I hated it when my customers called me sweetie, or hon, etc. But then I would just grit my teeth and smile because I did want that tip.

 

[Sarah_Rose]

Sweetie wouldn't bother me. It took me a long time to get used to being called "love" by random service industry workers, when I lived in England, though. I had a game I played with myself to see how many different names I could get from the guy who ran the fruit stand next to my office in London - I would consider it a failed day if I didn't get at least a "love", "ducky", and "sweets" during my 30 second transaction to buy a pound of grapes.

 

[Liberty Belle]

It sounds like she is a pleasant young woman. Nicely calling someone sweetie is not rude. I've had cashiers treat me as if I ruined their day by stepping into their line. Now that's rude. Being called sweetie would be pretty nice.

It's rude to me. But that's why I posted this...to see if it is rude to other people.

 

[Angelhalo]

I just think it's courteous. Better than them handing you something with no smile, saying nothing at all like they hate their job. But then, I live in the south, so everyone calls everyone sweetie, honey, darlin', etc etc etc