"Thank you, Sweetie."

[mhsjax]

Professional? In a place of business? You're kidding right?

NOpe not kidding, we are talking about fast food places, grocery stores places like that. I am sorry but i don't need all business and no pleasantries when shopping or picking up fast food.

I guess you think that my Dr who was about to preform a major surg on me was out of line when he patted me on the leg and said don't worry honey, I will take good care of you and then even more shocking, he hugged me and gave me a quick kiss on the cheek. It made me feel so much better and even hubby thought it was sweet. I didn't need some Dr to be all cold and totally professional, just incase it was the last voice I heard.

 

[Tarheel Tink]

wouldn't bother me.
Here in Texas I've been called sweetie, darling, and honey numerous times by female store employees. It's just the way some people talk and I've never thought it was rude or meant to be for that matter either. People here of all ages also call people ma'am or sir here a lot as well. I don't see that as rude either, just the way people have always talked here so I am extremely used to it.

It happens here all the time. I think it's a southern thing. It doesn't bother me at all.

Same here. DH tends to call women he is fond of or older women "Dear". I also could never as a child call an adult by their first name even if the adult asked me to scared1: my parents would have nipped that in the bud!). It had to be Miss, Mrs., Mr. or professional title unless it had Aunt or Uncle in front of it. Sir and ma'am are a given in any situation and any age according to my parents!

 

[Liberty Belle]

Same here. DH tends to call women he is fond of or older women "Dear". I also could never as a child call an adult by their first name even if the adult asked me to scared1: my parents would have nipped that in the bud!). It had to be Miss, Mrs., Mr. or professional title unless it had Aunt or Uncle in front of it. Sir and ma'am are a given in any situation and any age according to my parents!

To me, they're two different things. I taught my children to call adults Mr. and Miss/Mrs., too. My oldest always calls adults ma'am and sir. My youngest doesn't, but he's respectful.

As far as your husband calling women he's fond of "Dear," I think that's fine. Obviously he knows them and fairly well or he wouldn't know if he was fond of them. I think that's sweet as long as they don't object to it.

 

[sbell111]

To me, they're two different things. I taught my children to call adults Mr. and Miss/Mrs., too. My oldest always calls adults ma'am and sir. My youngest doesn't, but he's respectful.

As far as your husband calling women he's fond of "Dear," I think that's fine. Obviously he knows them and fairly well or he wouldn't know if he was fond of them. I think that's sweet as long as they don't object to it.

The girl that handed you your shakes at Arbys may take exactly the same stand.

 

[Liberty Belle]

The girl that handed you your shakes at Arbys may take exactly the same stand.

Sure. I said it was probably not intended to offend, but it's different because she does not know me. The poster's husband does know the women he calls Dear. Or are you suggesting I should say something to them?

 

[NY Disney fan]

NOpe not kidding, we are talking about fast food places, grocery stores places like that. I am sorry but i don't need all business and no pleasantries when shopping or picking up fast food.

Using your logic, I then don't have to say "please" & "thank you" when interacting with someone. However, that being said, I agree with you to a certain extent but its better to err on the side of caution and be courteous in a professional way. I'm sure if I met you in real life you'd be all down-home and I would like you very much.

 

[MrsJackSparrow4Life]

She also said her husband calls women that are older than him "dear."

 

[Liberty Belle]

She also said her husband calls women that are older than him "dear."

Oh, I misread that. So I guess if her DH is 30, he'd call me Dear even if he doesn't know me. I would hate that.

 

[mhsjax]

Using your logic, I then don't have to say "please" & "thank you" when interacting with someone. However, that being said, I agree with you to a certain extent but its better to err on the side of caution and be courteous in a professional way. I'm sure if I met you in real life you'd be all down-home and I would like you very much.

I think you should always use please and thank you. Also for the record, I never call someone sweetie or honey or dear, but it doesn't bother me when people do it to me. I also understand that people may not like it, I just don't think it is meant to be anything but nice, well most of the time anyway. Now if you get a bless your heart, well, then we all know what that means.

And yes I hope you would like me and I am sure I would like you to.

 

[MIGrandma]

The dichotomy in your post is amazing. On one hand, you state that it's perfectly fine for someone you post about life's little annoyances. On the other hand, you are quick to tell other people that they shouldn't post about things that bother them.

Excuse me, but I think I said we all post about our little annoyances, and I didn't tell people that they shouldn't post about what bothers them. I guess I don't see where you're getting that out of what I said. What I said was if, when someone posts about something that annoys them, maybe they (not the OP, but others who come on to post after) should just back away and not put the OP down for her/his annoyance. If someone is just going to say "get over it" or "is that a hill you want to die on" or "you have to much time on your hands", etc. etc. then maybe they should just back away. THAT is what I meant. Oh, almost forgot to add, and bless your heart!!

 

[sbell111]

Excuse me, but I think I said we all post about our little annoyances, and I didn't tell people that they shouldn't post about what bothers them. I guess I don't see where you're getting that out of what I said. What I said was if, when someone posts about something that annoys them, maybe they (not the OP, but others who come on to post after) should just back away and not put the OP down for her/his annoyance. If someone is just going to say "get over it" or "is that a hill you want to die on" or "you have to much time on your hands", etc. etc. then maybe they should just back away. THAT is what I meant. Oh, almost forgot to add, and bless your heart!!

I think that anyone who posts in a public forum should understand that his/her post is likely to elicit the opinions of others and that these opinions will often not agree with his/her handling of the situation.

 

[angie@dvcstore]

It doesn't bother me at all , cuz no in days to even get a "Thank You" is hard enough

 

[Liberty Belle]

I think that anyone who posts in a public forum should understand that his/her post is likely to elicit the opinions of others and that these opinions will often not agree with his/her handling of the situation.

I agree. I don't think people should be rude, though, a la "you've got too much time on your hands," and "geez, get over it," etc, but whatever. It's not a huge deal.

But, wait...my handling of the situation? How exactly did I handle it?

Again, I was not annoyed more than a few seconds and I posted it on here to get other's opinions and because I was bored.

 

[Tarheel Tink]

Oh, I misread that. So I guess if her DH is 30, he'd call me Dear even if he doesn't know me. I would hate that.

I should have stated that more clearly; some older women that he knows and is fond of. He's 51.

 

[Liberty Belle]

I should have stated that more clearly; some older women that he knows and is fond of. He's 51.

In that case, he could never call me Dear, even if he knew me. lol

 

[C.Ann]

I think that anyone who posts in a public forum should understand that his/her post is likely to elicit the opinions of others and that these opinions will often not agree with his/her handling of the situation.

I think most people are very aware of that.. Differing opinions are fine - posting them in a rude manner is not..