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[LOVEDISNEYLAND]

Thank you for your suggestions. I think I'm going to close this thread. How do you delete your postings?

 

[JessicaR]

As his foot hits your doorway you tell him you were just on your way out! My SIL used to do this all the time because her husband worked late. She showed up at my house with her daughter right before dinner. It got old fast.

 

[MinnieMe87]

Don't answer the door. Doesn't matter if you're home or not, lock the door and don't go to it if they knock. That's what my grandma used to do with the Jehovah Witnesses that came to her door every week.

 

[Stacerita]

Become very busy.

 

[DisneyBamaFan]

Tell him that today is not a good day. Do not elaborate. Repeat as necessary. Can't be subtle with men. We don't get subtle...

 

[Grumpy's Gal]

we need more info.....

does this person possibly want to date you?

is this person an extended family member?

is this person recently divorced or otherwise recently single? (lonely)

do you have a family?

do they have a home to go to?

 

[Stacerita]

Tell him that today is not a good day. Do not elaborate. Repeat as necessary. Can't be subtle with men. We don't get subtle...

 

[JMD]

Tell him that today is not a good day. Do not elaborate. Repeat as necessary. Can't be subtle with men. We don't get subtle...

 

[ToddyLu]

Tell him the TV is broken and reprimand the kid yourself. It is your home and people shouldn't act like that. Tell him to make his kid mind. Put him to work painting a room or folding laundry. He can do that while he watches TV. Like the previous poster there has to be something else that is keeping him at your house. He sounds lonely, which is sad. I bet you have a really nice house and TV with lots of goodies in the fridge--you are a potato (as in couch potato) magnet!!!!

Don't you just love getting advice from people who have no kids and few house guests. Maybe I could be your mentor-I will be the "teacher and you will by my student-grasshopper"

Seriously though--let us know how it works out!!

 

[ToddyLu]

Hey is he going to Disneyland with you?? I see you are going in 2 days.......what will he do??

 

[Jillpie]

we need more info.....

does this person possibly want to date you?

is this person an extended family member?

is this person recently divorced or otherwise recently single? (lonely)

do you have a family?

do they have a home to go to?

I have to ask the very same questions. Why would a MAN just come over to visit another woman's home like that in the evening?? Doesn't sound right to me. We need more details please. Is he married, are you married? What IS the situation here?

 

[All American]

I knew of someone who had trained their dog to sit in front of the guest and yawn. After a few times, the person/people would get the hint.

Don't have a dog? Don't answer the door.

 

[Dizzy4Disney90210]

Hide the remote and start watching soap operas in spanish

 

[Keira1387]

I agree... Shut the blinds and don't answer the door!

 

[Cool-Beans]

When greeting him at the door, say the following with the same conviction you'd have if you were sitting at your mother's deathbed and had to tell the lottery people that you can't come get you ten million dollar check right now...

"I would love to invite you in, but I'm right in the middle of something. Can we do it another time?"

 

[Stacerita]

When greeting him at the door, say the following with the same conviction you'd have if you were sitting at your mother's deathbed and had to tell the lottery people that you can't come get you ten million dollar check right now...

"I would love to invite you in, but I'm right in the middle of something. Can we do it another time?"

I think that response will work in a number of situations. I must remember.

 

[Tink888]

Hide the remote and start watching soap operas in spanish

 

[dismom2]

When greeting him at the door, say the following with the same conviction you'd have if you were sitting at your mother's deathbed and had to tell the lottery people that you can't come get you ten million dollar check right now...

"I would love to invite you in, but I'm right in the middle of something. Can we do it another time?"[/QUOTE]

Except leave off the "Can we do it another time" part.....

 

[NotUrsula]

My mother was scrupulously polite about this, but brutally direct. She would get up briskly and say, "It was just lovely seeing you, and it's a shame that you have to leave so soon, but it can't be helped now, can it? Here, I'll get your coat. Bye!" All said in a VERY cheery voice while literally sheparding the person out the door.

The trick to it was that she acted as if the person had actually said that they had to be going, and then never let them get another word in edgewise to contradict her. They always looked a bit confused, but went quietly.

 

[LOVEDISNEYLAND]

Thank You For Everyones Suggestions!