Test result update & Question (M/C, Preg. related)

[Hillbeans]

I got the bloodwork back from the Dr. and they said that I have nothing in my blood that is making me miscarry. With that said, he told me to wait a bit before trying again so the lining has a chance to build back up after the 16 days. I almost wish they found something, so I could take a "magic pill" and just move foward.

He told me that apparently these M/C's were just bad luck. He also told me that if I do become PG again, he'll monitor me from the start.

I know this isn't up to anyone on the boards, but if you've had two very painful M/C's in a row with no "solution" in sight, what would you do? I know even a healthy person can M/C, but i'm just afraid about blindly trying again because each time is taking so much out of me.

 

[Robmom]

I'm so sorry for your loss. I never had a m/c so I can't help you with that. But I will tell you to go to www.fertilityfriend.com - they have message boards that deal with this. You will meet people in the same situation.

 

[MickeysMommy]

Not in your situation so I can't offer any advice just a

 

[ElizK]

I watched my brother's wife go through two miscarriages, and then deliver a healthy baby girl. She had a horrible, heartbreaking time, just like you are. I'm praying God will send you a healthy baby.

 

[luvmarypoppins]

I see y ou live in central nj, I dont know how central, but this happened to my moms neighbor and she went to a specialist at Robert Wood Johnson Hospital in New Brunswick. I dont know all the details but the pregnancy that was successful to term involved the dr. stitching up the cervix so she wouldnt miscarry because hers was at the same week for each miscarriage. Bless you during the days ahead.

 

[tkyes]

I had to take time off. We took 3 months off before starting to try again. Didn't even think about getting pregnant. I got my body back into shape, we planned things, just had fun again. It's so much physical and emotional stress on your body, you need a break.

How many months apart were your miscarriages? In the past we waited for one normal period and then tried the following month. Our Dr. said (after suggesting that amount of time originally) said that wasn't long enough for my body to heal.

Take as much time off as you need. You'll heal. In a couple of months you'll either feel like trying again or you won't. You'll know when you're emotionally ready to try again.

{{hugs}}

PM if you want to talk.

Tamie

 

[Piglet]

If your doctor doesn't think that there is any medical reason for the M/C, I think I would just give myself some time before making any decision at all. You will need time for yourself to deal with everything and maybe after, you will feel better emotionally to deal with it. It is always scary becoming pregnant after a M/C.

Melinda

 

[llij]

Hillbeans,

First of all.... to you! I had two very terrible miscarriages in a row. After a complete work up on me, they couldn't figure out why I miscarried a second time. (With the first m/c I lost a little girl - she had a genetic disease and her heart stopped.)

The doctors gave me the same advice you recieved. Wait for a little bit and try again. Well, that is what we did and boy was it so very scary to try again. They watched me like a hawk with my third pregnancy and it wasn't without complications, but by the grace of God, I had a little girl who is now 8 years old. About 11 months after my daughter was born, I did go on to m/c a third time. It is painful and scary to keep trying.

All I can say is do what you feel is right for you and when you are ready. It took me a little while before I felt ready again. I'm sure your doctor will monitor you very closely when you do get pregnant so I hope that is a bit of comfort for you. Please pm me if you need anything or have any other questions. I'll keep you in my prayers and again for you! Hang in there.

Jill

 

[Hillbeans]

Originally posted by tkyes

How many months apart were your miscarriages? In the past we waited for one normal period and then tried the following month. Our Dr. said (after suggesting that amount of time originally) said that wasn't long enough for my body to heal.

Tamie

Well, i've had 3 in all....one last June (I was only a week late) and then one in October at 8 weeks and one in September at 8 weeks. The one a few weeks ago lasted a 16 long days, ugh. I think that's why the Doctor wants the waiting period.

 

[BrinxFam]

I am so sorry for your pain and I don't have any first hand knowledge of miscarriages but 2 years ago I watched my little brother and his wife as they went through a miscarriage. Shortly afterward my SIL called to say she had taken a home test and it was positive and the Dr. told her to come to the office right away. They found that her body didn't produce enough hormone to support a pregnancy so they put her on hormones and monitored her levels, weekly I think. She did go into premature labor but my nephew was born only a few days early and healthy.

The point is, they didn't know that her body didn't produce the hormone until it was too late the first time so maybe that is something you could consider.

Many blessings to you!
M.

 

[mickeyboat]

Have you thought about speaking to a specialist? I think three m/c's are more than enough to consider delving further into your case. Waiting lists are long to see a reproductive endocrinologist. Maybe you could make an appointment, start trying again when you are ready, and hope you don't have to go to the appointment.

A note of caution about R/E's: The first time I saw someone, I was very intimidated. He rushed me into a series of tests and treatments and I felt overwhelmed. The second time, I took more control over what was happening to me, got all the information I could find, and felt a lot better.

I think you will know when you are ready to try again. A m/c is a loss. Give yourself time to grieve.

Denae

 

[noel]

Have you thought about speaking to a specialist? I think three m/c's are more than enough to consider delving further into your case. Waiting lists are long to see a reproductive endocrinologist. Maybe you could make an appointment, start trying again when you are ready, and hope you don't have to go to the appointment.

That is a great suggestion.

I don't know if you've done this already or not....but when you are feeling ready to try again, ask your Dr if they can perform a regular fertility work up. Explain that the emotional and physical pain of the miscarriages are just horrible for your to bear and that perhaps the tests could help rule out any other problems.
If your Dr brushes you off or dismisses you questioning their motives, seriously consider getting another opinion....which I know is easier said than done and will just prolong all the waiting you've already done.

The reason I say this is my SIL was told for over 2 years that there was no reason she had 2 miscarriages and to just be patient and keep trying. She was 36 when the 1st one happened and the Dr kept hinting that was playing a big factor in all of it. She saw a fertility specialist in Aug 2003, had a minor procedure to remove a polyp from the outside of her uterus in Sept 2003, went thru artifical insemination in Oct 2003 and on July 22, 2004 my beautiful niece Samantha Jean was born.

Although I've never had a miscarriage, as someone who's not been able to conceive for 8 years, I can relate to a lot of the pain you share in your longing for a child. It's horrible and I truly hope and pray you end up with an easy pregnancy and healthy baby....SOON.
((hugs))

 

[EsmeraldaX]

No advice, just a

 

[tinaluis]

Did they do an HSG? I had one done after two M/Cs and my OB said it was to check for abnormalities of the uterus that might cause an M/C. It was normal, she gave us the "go ahead" and we went on to have a successful term pregnancy.

 

[Hillbeans]

They did a full blood work up over the last few weeks. I know an HSG and a test for antibioties from my first child's Placenta were done, as well as a few more things. They all came back normal. I was told by my OB to take 1 baby asprin a day which will help blood flow, etc. If I do get PG, I am to call right away.

I thought about an RE, however my doctors have an internal RE specialist as part of their group. I haven't seen him yet though.

Thanks everyone for the great advice.

 

[mickeyboat]

Hillbeans - An HSG is an hysterosalpinogram - when they inject dye into your cervix, let it flow through your uterus and through your fallopian tubes. They use an x-ray type machine to track its progress to determine if there are any abnormalities. I had one when I was trying to get PG and they found scar tissue in my uterus which they later removed (scarring from a d & c when I had an ectopic pregnancy). They told me if the placenta had attached to the scar tissue instead of the uterine wall, I could have had major problems. Is this the test you had done after your DS was born? Maybe there has been a change since then (ie scarring from your other m/c's) which would make them want to take another look.

Denae

 

[Jenn Lynn]

I have only had one miscarraige, but we stopped "trying" in March. I couldn't take the stress every month. I was not emotionally ready AT ALL! It was affecting my family and myself very badly.

I think I am finally ready to start "trying" again. I am at a place where I am not putting so much pressure on myself.

Even if your body is physically ready, you might not be ready emotionally. Please take that time to heal your mind and your heart (although never completely I'm sure ).