Tell me your thoughts about "The Secret"

[DreaminDisney]

Another good one I think..............

All that we are is a result of what we have thought.
- Buddha

 

[Imzadi]

Another good one I think..............

All that we are is a result of what we have thought.
- Buddha

That one is great. Very circular and true.
BTW, Buddhism believes there is suffering, but that we don't have to wallow in it, or cause ourselves needless suffering. It goes with the theme I've been noticing in this thread - a need to learn Emotional Management.

Most of this Positive Thinking focuses just on the thinking. But, there is more than learning to change one's focus and attitude. One has to learn Emotional Management, too. They go hand in hand, and all effect each other. If a person allows himself to go into negative emotional states, guess where his focus and attitude go, too? Right into the gutter with those crappy feelings. It's also circular.

When a friend has to lift you up every couple of days, and finally says stop being a drama queen, they are gently saying, "Hello! You are causing this to be worse than it is by your emotional state. Pull yourself out of it." You are also becoming an negative drain on them. An energy suck. Negative feelings can be a habit just as constant negative thoughts are. We can change how we feel, feelings don't rule us. When our friends call us on our own crap, it is an acknowledgement that we do have power to change things. We create our own realities.

 

[Imzadi]

I'm watching Brothers and Sisters on ABC. Talk about a family that is a perfect example of being drama queens. They are always hyping things up and making them more emotionally dramatic than they need to be.

 

[Disneynutbsv]

I'm watching Brothers and Sisters on ABC. Talk about a family that is a perfect example of being drama queens. They are always hyping things up and making them more emotionally dramatic than they need to be.

lol, sometimes I watch that show, but I stayed up for Desperate Housewives (total frou frou drama).


There are really only two conditions of the human mind: Very, very happy. Or about to become very, very happy.

Which are you today?

both

 

[Disneynutbsv]

When you think a new thought, entertain a new dream, or mentally choose a new goal, your thoughts "leave" you and go out - in every direction, to the farthest corners of the planet. They carry a life force all their own, like ripples created when a pebble is tossed into a pond.

You can't change this, but you can use it.

 

[starrzone]

Yes, I know, another one of those forwards; however, I've kept this one for nearly 4 months because I think it gives some valid advice.

*******

Twenty-One Tips to Live Your Life

ONE . Give people more than they expect and do it cheerfully.

TWO. Marry a man/woman you love to talk to. As you get older, their conversational skills will be as important as any other.

THREE. Don't believe all you hear, spend all you have or sleep all you want.

FOUR. When you say, 'I love you,' mean it.

FIVE. When you say, 'I'm sorry,' look the person in the eye.

SIX..! Be engaged at least six months before you get married.

SEVEN. Believe in love at first sight.

EIGHT. Never laugh at anyone's dream. People who don't have dreams don't
have much.

NINE. Love deeply and passionately. You might get hurt but it's the only way
to live life completely.

TEN . In disagreements, fight fairly. No name calling.

ELEVEN. Don't judge people by their relatives.

TWELVE. Talk slowly but think quickly.

THIRTEEN. When someone asks you a question you don't want to answer, smile and ask, 'Why do you want to know?'

FOURTEEN. Remember that great love and great achievements involve great
risk.

FIFTEEN. Say 'God bless you' when you hear someone sneeze.

SIXTEEN. When you lose, don't lose the lesson .

SEVENTEEN. Remember the three R's: Respect for self; Respect for others; and Responsibility for all your actions.

EIGHTEEN. Don't let a little dispute injure a great friendship.

NINETEEN. When you realize you've made a mistake, take immediate steps to
correct it.

TWENTY. Smile when picking up the phone. The caller will hear it in your
voice.

TWENTY- ONE . Spend some time alone.

 

[DreaminDisney]

Starrzon that's good!!

 

[DreaminDisney]

Hi Everyone,

It's a beautiful day here today!

I just wanted to add another quote I liked......

By believing passionately in something that still does not exist, we create it. The nonexistent is whatever we have not sufficiently desired.
- Franz Kafka

Becky, How's new job? Getting better for you?

 

[starrzone]

To my fellow Canadians:

Have a great Thanksgiving long weekend! I know we all have a lot to be thankful for .

 

[DisTeach1]

I'm just back from my WDW vacation and was checking this post. I had posted about not being able to let go of somethng and how do I use the secret to do that...I was checking to see if Imzadi had any advice.

I read the New Earth while on vacation, and while I like it, parts of me are a bit confused, I guess.

I understand about what he says that our thoughts create the situation...the situation is just neutral. I feel like he's telling us to never be sad, never be angry or melancholy...and that's just not human. I'm very sad about a situation that I know I have to let go of, and it doesn't feel right for me to repress that sadness...Yet, I know I have to move on from this situation. I don't want to be all doom and gloom, yet I AM sad...Any advice?

 

[starrzone]

How do you let go of something you can't have and that really isn't good for you anyways, but you really, really want? How do you use the Secret in that situation? I feel like I am stuck in an unhealthy situation because I can't let go.

I had posted about not being able to let go of something and how do I use the secret to do that... I feel like he's telling us to never be sad, never be angry or melancholy...and that's just not human. I'm very sad about a situation that I know I have to let go of, and it doesn't feel right for me to repress that sadness...Yet, I know I have to move on from this situation. I don't want to be all doom and gloom, yet I AM sad...Any advice?

I don't know the answers, but I think I might somewhat understand what you're feeling. Letting go is very, very hard, especially when people are telling you that you need to let go, and you're telling yourself the same thing. I try to let the sadness out, but whenever I go to friends, I basically get the "Get over it" speech. They think they're helping, but it doesn't help, really. But on the other hand, you can't keep the sadness inside you...it's a vicious cycle.

As for advice, just getting it out to someone helps me a whole lot. Since my friends are great people but sometimes their advice isn't quite what I need, I write it all out here or in my journal. If there is a certain specific person involved in your situation, try writing a "letter" (for your eyes only) to him/ her. Tell them how much their actions or decisions hurt you. Tell them how content you were before the situation happened and how miserable (or whatever emotion you are feeling) you were afterwards.

Wow, what bad advice . I don't know if I've helped you at all, considering that I'm having an incredibly difficult time moving on from my own situation. Ugh.....this is so hard, eh? Tomorrow is another day!

 

[JodyLynC]

I'm just back from my WDW vacation and was checking this post. I had posted about not being able to let go of somethng and how do I use the secret to do that...I was checking to see if Imzadi had any advice.

I read the New Earth while on vacation, and while I like it, parts of me are a bit confused, I guess.

I understand about what he says that our thoughts create the situation...the situation is just neutral. I feel like he's telling us to never be sad, never be angry or melancholy...and that's just not human. I'm very sad about a situation that I know I have to let go of, and it doesn't feel right for me to repress that sadness...Yet, I know I have to move on from this situation. I don't want to be all doom and gloom, yet I AM sad...Any advice?

Oprah had some chapter worksheets on her website and well as weekly classes from each chapter. If she still has them on her website, I suggest checking them out as he clarifies much of this.

There are many times in people's lives in which you will grieve. Sometimes though, we use grief as a crutch to keep us from moving on in our lives.
For example, it is okay to mourn a breakup, but don't use it to make negative junk. "I only attract losers" or "I'm such a loser. I can't keep anyone in my life." Allow yourself to be sad over the event. Do not use the event to push yourself into a negative place or make yourself sick.

Another thing we do is "If only.." If only I did A, B wouldn't have happened. Don't do that. It only adds fuel to the fire. Grieve for the event, give yourself some time, then say "What can I do about this right now?" That will shift your focus to the present. Only by being present, can you heal and move on.

Keep us posted.

 

[beckmrk04]

DisTeach1- I agree with JodyLynC.

I read "A New Earth" and did all the Oprah classes and workbook. IN the classes Tolle says there is nothing wrong with emotions, you're human! But, allowing your emotions to control your life is a whole other story.

I would suggest sitting in a quiet space and really focusing on what you are feeling (not your thoughts, but the actual physical feeling of sadness). Just allow it to be. Because that is where you are right now. By being upset about being sad, you are fighting what IS.

But, also- recognize that this is how you feel now, and be ok with it. Don't fight it or wish it was different, because it is what it is. Make peace with Now.

 

[JodyLynC]

Here is some outstanding advice!!! I'm taking it today!

Saturday, October 11, 2008
Beyond dissatisfaction
Things will begin to get better when you define precisely what better means to you. The pains and frustrations will start to ease when you have something solid and positive with which to replace them.
To successfully move away from an undesirable situation, decide exactly where you wish to go. Create a powerful intention for yourself, and feed that intention with the energy that's in your desire for change.

It is not enough to complain about how things are. That can get the ball rolling, and yet it won't take you very far.

Move quickly to create a vision of how the world can be. Give yourself a compelling goal to move toward.

Enthusiasm is a key ingredient of success. And you'll always have a more productive kind of enthusiasm when you're focused on a positive future.

Go beyond your dissatisfaction with what is, and put your energy into imagining the best of what can be. Clearly know where you wish to go, and you'll naturally make the effort that gets you there.

-- Ralph Marston

 

[Disneynutbsv]

Here is some outstanding advice!!! I'm taking it today!

Saturday, October 11, 2008
Beyond dissatisfaction
Things will begin to get better when you define precisely what better means to you. The pains and frustrations will start to ease when you have something solid and positive with which to replace them.
To successfully move away from an undesirable situation, decide exactly where you wish to go. Create a powerful intention for yourself, and feed that intention with the energy that's in your desire for change.

It is not enough to complain about how things are. That can get the ball rolling, and yet it won't take you very far.

Move quickly to create a vision of how the world can be. Give yourself a compelling goal to move toward.

Enthusiasm is a key ingredient of success. And you'll always have a more productive kind of enthusiasm when you're focused on a positive future.

Go beyond your dissatisfaction with what is, and put your energy into imagining the best of what can be. Clearly know where you wish to go, and you'll naturally make the effort that gets you there.

-- Ralph Marston

Wow Jody, I need to print this one out, that's a good one

 

[DreaminDisney]

Wow Jody, I need to print this one out, that's a good one

ditto. Thanks Jody

 

[DreaminDisney]

Hi everyone, did everyone stop posting on this thread??

Anything new to report from anyone??

 

[DisTeach1]

I check daily for this thread...I just never have anything great to add! I'm still reading New Earth and have downloaded lesson 2.

 

[Disneynutbsv]

Hi! I'm here. I was given a ton of stuff today for cake decorating, I've been sorting through it

On another note, I've got an appointment with the Esthetic School on Tuesday. They have offered me a $1500 scholarship, plus I can pay a monthly payment with no interest! So, we'll see, I need to discuss the hours and such with them because that would be a deal breaker for me, I can only go two hours a week.

I tried to read A New Earth and frankly, I just couldn't get into it....I've been reading the 7 habits of highly effective families...

 

[JodyLynC]

Hi! I'm here. I was given a ton of stuff today for cake decorating, I've been sorting through it

On another note, I've got an appointment with the Esthetic School on Tuesday. They have offered me a $1500 scholarship, plus I can pay a monthly payment with no interest! So, we'll see, I need to discuss the hours and such with them because that would be a deal breaker for me, I can only go two hours a week.

I tried to read A New Earth and frankly, I just couldn't get into it....I've been reading the 7 habits of highly effective families...

Hi, Brenda! Congrats on the scholarship!! Sometimes you manifest the actual cash. Sometimes you manifest a better situation to afford an item you want.

A New Earth is tough. Even Oprah said she couldn't read more than 5 pages a day. After I finish my Science of Mind class, I plan on going back to it. I have the worksheets from the Oprah website. http://www.oprah.com/article/oprahsbookclub/anewearth/pkganewearthwebcast/20080130_obc_webcast_syllabus
Watching the discussions between Oprah and Tolle make it a lot easier to understand. They break the classes down into chapters. It helps a lot!