Teen Parenting.

[imabrat]

I haven't read all the replies yet, so I apologize if someone already mentioned this.

Personally, I'm against pre-marital sex. JMHO. If you're not emotionally and financially responsible for your actions you have NO reason going and trying to get pregnant.
The girls who have children in their teens and then lean on their parents for help, (ie watching the baby while they go out an party) Shame on you. You are clearly not mature enough to take the consequences of your actions. (It's different if it happens once in a blue moon and the teen needs rest. But everyday? no.) I don't care how "mature" you say you are. You can be the most mature person in the world, but if you can't/won't take care of YOUR child, you need a wake up call.

JMHO.

 

[Cinderelli16]

I haven't read all the replies yet, so I apologize if someone already mentioned this.

Personally, I'm against pre-marital sex. JMHO. If you're not emotionally and financially responsible for your actions you have NO reason going and trying to get pregnant.
The girls who have children in their teens and then lean on their parents for help, (ie watching the baby while they go out an party) Shame on you. You are clearly not mature enough to take the consequences of your actions. (It's different if it happens once in a blue moon and the teen needs rest. But everyday? no.) I don't care how "mature" you say you are. You can be the most mature person in the world, but if you can't/won't take care of YOUR child, you need a wake up call.

JMHO.

I totally agree 100%

 

[imabrat]

Of course.
The love for a child is amazing.
I know what its like to love something, I could imagine what it would be like to love something BEAUTIFUL that *sorry If i damage anyones religious beliefs* god made.

I completely agree with you there.

In the last post I just made I said :

Teenagers are soon to be adults.
Adults are fit for having a child *not all of them, but the general idea*.
When you find out youre having a baby, that grows you into an adult.
By law youre still a teenager, but it prepares you to have a baby.
Naturally something that is a beautiful little miracle you dont HAVE to learn to love it. So caring about something that is your responsibility, just grows into you.


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My point was that, thats not always the case.

I never believe in abortion.
No matter HOW old you or the baby is inside of you.

Having a baby doesn't always guarantee you become more mature. Have you never heard of parents who go out and party and be irresponsible while their child is home alone? Have you never heard of a parent who has given a baby alcohol/drugs?

I have, in fact it was on the news a few months ago.

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I believe in abortion.

What if you had gotten raped by a scumbag, and you KNEW bringing that baby in the world wasn't going to be good for anyone involved?
Yes, you can say you would put it up for adoption, but you don't know for sure. Many a time has a young mother say they would put the child up for adoption, yet once they gave birth and saw the baby they had a part in making, they could'nt do it.

NOTE : First paragraph IS NOT describing ALL young parents.

 

[daughter_of_amid_chaos]

Did anyone hear about that pact that 12 (or so) teenagers made at a MA highschool? They were trying to get pregnant so they could raise their babies together. One of the girls babie's father is a homeless man. (she just wanted the baby so bad)

Being from Massachusetts I just wanted to chime in on the pact comment as I am sure more information is appearing on our news stations than the national news. After an investigation of sorts, the school determined there was no pact made and the principal was mistaken. Also, one of the father's being a homeless man was never proven.

I am 23 and when I was in 6th grade I did a major report on teenage pregnancy. This is not a new topic.

 

[Ms.Squeakers]

Having a baby doesn't always guarantee you become more mature. Have you never heard of parents who go out and party and be irresponsible while their child is home alone? Have you never heard of a parent who has given a baby alcohol/drugs?

I have, in fact it was on the news a few months ago.

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I believe in abortion.

What if you had gotten raped by a scumbag, and you KNEW bringing that baby in the world wasn't going to be good for anyone involved?
Yes, you can say you would put it up for adoption, but you don't know for sure. Many a time has a young mother say they would put the child up for adoption, yet once they gave birth and saw the baby they had a part in making, they could'nt do it.

NOTE : First paragraph IS NOT describing ALL young parents.

Youre still not ready yet, but you change, psychially and emotionally.
You have something growing inside of you, youve got to mature a LITTLE bit.
Its human nature.

 

[Disney.Ears]

if youve never seen juno, you dont get to say it disgusts you. watch the movie. its really not like what you think its like. and if someone is encouraged to get pregnant after watchign juno, they completely missed the message.

Okay okay, I see why I shouldn't say that if I've never seen that. But if it made someone WANT to get pregnant, the message must not be completely clear to everyone and that bothers me.

True, not all teens are bad parents.

But Hazzi mentioned a girl who got pregnant (and had an abortion) at age 12.

Now THAT is just wrong.

Geez. If you don't get say, raped..I don't think abortion should be an option. Heck, I don't think abortion should be an option EVER.

I haven't read all the replies yet, so I apologize if someone already mentioned this.

Personally, I'm against pre-marital sex. JMHO. If you're not emotionally and financially responsible for your actions you have NO reason going and trying to get pregnant.
The girls who have children in their teens and then lean on their parents for help, (ie watching the baby while they go out an party) Shame on you. You are clearly not mature enough to take the consequences of your actions. (It's different if it happens once in a blue moon and the teen needs rest. But everyday? no.) I don't care how "mature" you say you are. You can be the most mature person in the world, but if you can't/won't take care of YOUR child, you need a wake up call.

JMHO.

Totally agree.
There was this girl on Divorce Court that I watched, and she had a 5 month old, and a 19 month old that lived at her parents because all she did was party with her husband's mom? It was super weird. And she never even fought for her children! It's like, she didn't want them?!

Being from Massachusetts I just wanted to chime in on the pact comment as I am sure more information is appearing on our news stations than the national news. After an investigation of sorts, the school determined there was no pact made and the principal was mistaken. Also, one of the father's being a homeless man was never proven.

I am 23 and when I was in 6th grade I did a major report on teenage pregnancy. This is not a new topic.

Ohh okay. Thanks for the information. That pact thing was so...wrong. Just so so wrong.

 

[life of the party]

IMO it comes down to this :

If you are fit to be a parent, you are fit to be a parent no matter your age .

There are full grown adults that dont know how to raise children!

The sterio-type that is put uppon young mothers is NOT fair, weither the birth was planned, or an accident.

Sometimes it is true (the sterio-type) but at the same time, sometimes its not .

You cant judge a parent by their age, but by how they conduct themselves and raise their children, JUST how you would (should) judge an adult parent.

 

[tinkerbell12]

I think that some teens could handle a baby and do well with it.
Others I think not.

Birth control pills really should be taken more often.
But I'm not gonna judge anyone on anything unless I get to know them well.
Otherwise, they could be the best parent in the world, who knows.

I also do feel bad for teens who have to make decisions like that.
It's just a really hard thing to do and I just always hope they make the right decision.
And even I don't know which one is the right decision.

 

[life of the party]

I think that some teens could handle a baby and do well with it.
Others I think not.

Birth control pills really should be taken more often.
But I'm not gonna judge anyone on anything unless I get to know them well.
Otherwise, they could be the best parent in the world, who knows.

I also do feel bad for teens who have to make decisions like that.
It's just a really hard thing to do and I just always hope they make the right decision.
And even I don't know which one is the right decision.

 

[Ms.Squeakers]

Just because someone is psycically ready to have a baby, doesn't mean they should.

 

[Natalie_89]

IMO it comes down to this :

If you are fit to be a parent, you are fit to be a parent no matter your age .

There are full grown adults that dont know how to raise children!

The sterio-type that is put uppon young mothers is NOT fair, weither the birth was planned, or an accident.

Sometimes it is true (the sterio-type) but at the same time, sometimes its not .

You cant judge a parent by their age, but by how they conduct themselves and raise their children, JUST how you would (should) judge an adult parent.

thanks for sayin that, im glad not all people think teen parents cant handle it i have my days and yeh my boy is bloody hard work sometimes but theres nothin in htis world thats too much for him and i will give him everthin he needs not just materially. its nice to no thats people think like u

 

[Natalie_89]

I'm a 40 something year old mom of a 12 yo DD and I just had to chime in:

(1) this is exactly why teens are not able to handle being parents. If you're stupid enough to see something like pregnancy in a movie and think it's cool, then try to get pregnant yourself, you're obviously not mature enough to make wise decisions for yourself, let alone a baby;

(2) You believe you could handle it? Not good enough. There's a helpless person who needs you every moment of every day. (BTW, I had my DD when I was in my late 20's and I still wasn't ready some days!)

(3) I'm sorry -- did you say "level headed teenager"? Probably aren't too many of them around and for good reason. You shouldn't have to be level headed enough to raise another human being at that age. Go enjoy yourself, find out who you really are and live life to the fullest. There's plenty of time to be a "level headed" adult later on. It's really not all it's cracked up to be some days. I think what most teens don't realize is, it's highly unlikely (but not impossible) for you to raise a child without the support of your family, the dad's family, etc. It truly does take a village to raise a child (in most instances) and it's great to have that support to fall back on.

(4) This pact you mention again just goes to show how absolutely immature and ill prepared these teens are. And sleeping with a homeless guy, come on. If she did it just to get pregnant, I think that child should be removed IMMEDIATELY after birth. This kid's not playing with a full deck.

its not just teens that sometimes cant handle it adults are exactly the same just *** there older dont mean they can cope any better.im a young mum with a 2 year old and i know im a good mum i have my days when its tough and im not gunna say its easy but i do everythin i can to make sure my son has a good life and i have to keep a level head and i think im doin well.i dont think people plannin babies this young is a good idea in fact its a stupid idea its not a accsessory a baby but if it just happens it happens and the majority of young parents do the best they can and do as good a job as say a 30 year old.

 

[DramaQueen]

its not just teens that sometimes cant handle it adults are exactly the same just *** there older dont mean they can cope any better.im a young mum with a 2 year old and i know im a good mum i have my days when its tough and im not gunna say its easy but i do everythin i can to make sure my son has a good life and i have to keep a level head and i think im doin well.i dont think people plannin babies this young is a good idea in fact its a stupid idea its not a accsessory a baby but if it just happens it happens and the majority of young parents do the best they can and do as good a job as say a 30 year old.

i'm really proud of you and the fact that you're doing all you can for your son.
seriously--good for you!!

though teens may not be 'level-headed' enough for a baby, and though they may not be mentally prepared/mature enough a baby, doesn't mean that once they have their baby they won't LEARN to be level headed and mature enough to handle a baby.
just because someone is a teen mom, doesn't mean they are a bad mom.
i'm sure even 30-yr old moms learn as they go.

 

[Natalie_89]

i'm really proud of you and the fact that you're doing all you can for your son.
seriously--good for you!!

though teens may not be 'level-headed' enough for a baby, and though they may not be mentally prepared/mature enough a baby, doesn't mean that once they have their baby they won't LEARN to be level headed and mature enough to handle a baby.
just because someone is a teen mom, doesn't mean they are a bad mom.
i'm sure even 30-yr old moms learn as they go.

thank you that means alot you sayin that

 

[Disney.Ears]

Today my mom and I got in a discussion about Jamie Lynn Spears. (We were at the grocery store and saw the OK! Magazine article with her and her new baby pictures).

She says that even though Jamie can afford the child and support it, and will be able to provide a good life for her she still screwed up her life.

While I think Jamie will miss out on maybe a few things in her life, she's still able to provide a better life many other teen mothers.

I don't know if that made sense...But yeah. I didn't agree with my mom? Hahha.

 

[Sparx]

you all are acting like teenage pregnancy is a new idea. 100 years ago, girls were barefoot, pregnant and making dinner at 15.
the idea of 'teenager' is a recent one.
the idea of women being more than child bearing machines is a recent one.

teenage pregnancy has been around since the beginning of the human race.

i am sixteen years old. i am physically capable of raising a child.
but in today's society, i am economically unable to support one.
hence, i would not be a good mother.
and that is the idea with most teenage parents.

 

[Ms.Squeakers]

you all are acting like teenage pregnancy is a new idea. 100 years ago, girls were barefoot, pregnant and making dinner at 15.
the idea of 'teenager' is a recent one.
the idea of women being more than child bearing machines is a recent one.

teenage pregnancy has been around since the beginning of the human race.

i am sixteen years old. i am physically capable of raising a child.
but in today's society, i am economically unable to support one.
hence, i would not be a good mother.
and that is the idea with most teenage parents.

Yes!
Exactly!

Just because you are capable of having a baby, doesnt mean you should.

 

[EeyoreFan1]

Secret Life of the American Teenager is an amazing show, and will hopefully help open the eyes of teens. Granted it's not going to stop them from having sex, but maybe it will knock some sense into their heads about the risks.

And Juno is a great movie, with a great message.

 

[PrincessKsMom]

its not just teens that sometimes cant handle it adults are exactly the same just *** there older dont mean they can cope any better.im a young mum with a 2 year old and i know im a good mum i have my days when its tough and im not gunna say its easy but i do everythin i can to make sure my son has a good life and i have to keep a level head and i think im doin well.i dont think people plannin babies this young is a good idea in fact its a stupid idea its not a accsessory a baby but if it just happens it happens and the majority of young parents do the best they can and do as good a job as say a 30 year old.

You're absolutely right. And I'm sure you're a wonderful mom to your son. I'm sure you wouldn't trade him for anything in the world, but, if given the chance, you might do things differently if you could do it all over. I would just like to see more people think about the reality of what it means (teens and older people). It still overwhelms me sometimes, especially since my daughter is hitting her teen years! If you look closer at my previous post, I mention more than once that even at almost 30, I wasn't completely prepared for what being a parent entailed, and we tried for months to become pregnant, so it was definitely planned. I just feel like even though I wasn't 100% prepared (and I don't think anyone ever is, regardless of age), I'm glad I waited until I was a little bit older.
FWIW, my best friend since 6th grade became a single mom at 16 and again at 18 and she did a wonderful job with her boys but it really was a rough road sometimes, and she was fortunate enough to have family that helped her. I know all about how hard being a single mom was for her. As you say, teens shouldn't plan it, but if it does happen, embrace your little one and hold them close. It's the best, most rewarding job in the world!

 

[Tinkerbell424]

Yes!
Exactly!

Just because you are capable of having a baby, doesnt mean you should.

Some teenager's have babies because they want to be loved by someone. Maybe some teenage pregnant issues go back to family problems.