Teen Parenting.

[Ms.Squeakers]

I agree.

Teenage pregnancy has always been around, sure maybe not in the big numbers it is now, but history proves that it has. Thanks to better communications and media, stories about this sort of thing get out quicker..

Yep, and my mom has even questioned me on having sex.
She knows I've never done it, but she still is curious at times.
As for other adults, they just assume with even knowing the person, that all teens are having sex. And that is not always the case.

Teen Pregnancy has always been around.
Now its just bringing it up.
Until these shows started coming out sex hadnt even crossed my mind.
Now I cant leave the house and not hear the word "sex" everywhere I go.
Even when I was little the word "sex" made no sense to me...then I went over to my best friends house and her little sister (6) was telling me HOW a baby is born...

I say just keep this stuff to "FLE" and quit making shows about it that "take away the glamour" because in reality they make it seem really cute.

"Oh yeah it sucks, but its totally worth it, i love my baby more then anything, best thing thats ever happened to me, just to snuggle with your own baby..its just..amazing"...in the end they ALWAYS say something like that.

AND.
You don't think that isn't glamorous in the teeniest way?

 

[Jasmine45]

I am SOOOO not ready to have a baby. I mean they are cute but I swear I can not be in the room with an anoying kid for more than 10 minutes.

I do NOT have the patience!

 

[Sparx]

Totally agree with that.

if youve never seen juno, you dont get to say it disgusts you. watch the movie. its really not like what you think its like. and if someone is encouraged to get pregnant after watchign juno, they completely missed the message.

 

[Ms.Squeakers]

if youve never seen juno, you dont get to say it disgusts you. watch the movie. its really not like what you think its like.

I've seen it.
I liked it but I just dont agree with everything following it after, thats over 3 teenage baby things in less then a year.

Even the commercials give off a bad vibe.

 

[life of the party]

This thread got me REALLY frustrated and angry .

I am trying to rationalize what i am trying to say , and UGH sorry im just so mad at some of the things that were said .

My sister got pregnant at 18 and i think she is a great mother , but i have to agree it is not the most convienient time to get pregnant and she does need help when she goes to work ect .

but you cannot say that ALL teenagers are not good parents , just because most of them cannot handle it it does NOT mean that all of them are bad parents .

before i start to vent and get even more mad , i am going to end this post...

 

[Tinkerbell424]

This thread got me REALLY frustrated and angry .

I am trying to rationalize what i am trying to say , and UGH sorry im just so mad at some of the things that were said .

My sister got pregnant at 18 and i think she is a great mother , but i have to agree it is not the most convienient time to get pregnant and she does need help when she goes to work ect .

but you cannot say that ALL teenagers are not good parents , just because most of them cannot handle it it does NOT mean that all of them are bad parents .

before i start to vent and get even more mad , i am going to end this post...

ITA.
Not all teens are horrible parents, of course if a teen got pregnant at say 15/16, I honestly don't believe they would make fit parents. Why? They are still children and probably are immature and childish. JMO.

My cousin got a girl pregnant at 16, and the girl was a wonderful mother. She took care of the baby as much she could, until my aunt and uncle and cousin fought for custody. I think they won.

But if you have ever seen gilmore girls, loralie is an amazing mother to rory. She got her ged, and ran her own inn and was able to provide for her baby both mentally and physically on her own without the father or parents help.

I love the new tv show on abc family It's giving a good message and I like how at the end of each show they make sure to say something to both the kids and parents about sex.
On lifetime and daytime programs, there are a ton of things that talk about sex or about girls getting pregnant and they have been on there for awhile now.

Teenage preganancy is an issue, that should be made more aware. I totally agree with Katie [I think thats your name] that some teen's are able to handle a baby, but some may not. Either way, these shows on abc family and abc are really good to have, since many teens seem to be watching them.

Woah, I hope my post made sense..

 

[KidGoofy]

Well...I have taken care of my little brother a lot since he was born. And I have dealt with all types of kids. So I think I would be a good parent but I don't want a kid yet maybe when I am in my early 30s and starting to settle down. When you are a teen you shouldnt have kids because you will lose a lot of stuff quickly.

 

[Natalie_89]

This thread got me REALLY frustrated and angry .

I am trying to rationalize what i am trying to say , and UGH sorry im just so mad at some of the things that were said .

My sister got pregnant at 18 and i think she is a great mother , but i have to agree it is not the most convienient time to get pregnant and she does need help when she goes to work ect .

but you cannot say that ALL teenagers are not good parents , just because most of them cannot handle it it does NOT mean that all of them are bad parents .

before i start to vent and get even more mad , i am going to end this post...

i agree im a great mum if i do say so myself i always put my boy first and yeh i agree to it was young to have him (i got pregnant just b4 my 17th bday) but it happened and i hate it wen people always judge assums *** were young we cant cope.i get funny looks if my son has a tantrum people lookin like "look at her young mum, cant cope" but if a say 30 year olds kid was havin a tnatrum they woodnt be so disapprovin all kids have tantrums and cry dosnt mean cosim young hes cryin *** im mistreatin him...i hate it wen people stero type

 

[AmandaSparks730]

True, not all teens are bad parents.

But Hazzi mentioned a girl who got pregnant (and had an abortion) at age 12.

Now THAT is just wrong.

 

[Ms.Squeakers]

I hope those posts about "teens arent bad parents" were directed at me, because thats not what I meant at ALL.

Read this only if there's a promise not to bash my opinions.


I just feel its right to wait until schools done, until you BOTH want a baby.


Teen parenting has ALWAYS been around. Theres nothing you can do about that.

My terrible angriment is about all of the shows they have come out with ABOUT teen parenting.

I think its just WRONG and SICK.

Teenagers are soon to be adults.
Adults are fit for having a child *not all of them, but the general idea*.
When you find out youre having a baby, that grows you into an adult.
By law youre still a teenager, but it prepares you to have a baby.
Naturally something that is a beautiful little miracle you dont HAVE to learn to love it. So caring about something that is your responsibility, just grows into you.

No, ive never had a baby, so there is a lot I do not know.
Thats just the way I see it.

Im not saying teenagers are bad parents, it depends on how you mature wile the baby is inside you.



The thing that makes my head REALLY explode about this, is all the shows just randomly popping out like that.


There 3...3! (that I know of, there could be more) Show/Movies, about some teenager with a baby, that came out just in this year alone.

Is THAT what the world is turning into?

 

[Natalie_89]

"Oh yeah it sucks, but its totally worth it, i love my baby more then anything, best thing thats ever happened to me, just to snuggle with your own baby..its just..amazing"...in the end they ALWAYS say something like that.

that part u rote is true tho, it does suck havin so much taken away but once u have a child u cant explain the love you have for them and u woodnt change it for anythin thats why everyone always say somethin like that because its true.

 

[Ms.Squeakers]

that part u rote is true tho, it does suck havin so much taken away but once u have a child u cant explain the love you have for them and u woodnt change it for anythin thats why everyone always say somethin like that because its true.

Of course.
The love for a child is amazing.
I know what its like to love something, I could imagine what it would be like to love something BEAUTIFUL that *sorry If i damage anyones religious beliefs* god made.

I completely agree with you there.

In the last post I just made I said :

Teenagers are soon to be adults.
Adults are fit for having a child *not all of them, but the general idea*.
When you find out youre having a baby, that grows you into an adult.
By law youre still a teenager, but it prepares you to have a baby.
Naturally something that is a beautiful little miracle you dont HAVE to learn to love it. So caring about something that is your responsibility, just grows into you.


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My point was that, thats not always the case.

I never believe in abortion.
No matter HOW old you or the baby is inside of you.

 

[Natalie_89]

Of course.
The love for a child is amazing.
I know what its like to love something, I could imagine what it would be like to love something BEAUTIFUL that *sorry If i damage anyones religious beliefs* god made.

I completely agree with you there.

In the last post I just made I said :

Teenagers are soon to be adults.
Adults are fit for having a child *not all of them, but the general idea*.
When you find out youre having a baby, that grows you into an adult.
By law youre still a teenager, but it prepares you to have a baby.
Naturally something that is a beautiful little miracle you dont HAVE to learn to love it. So caring about something that is your responsibility, just grows into you.


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My point was that, thats not always the case.

I never believe in abortion.
No matter HOW old you or the baby is inside of you.

u couldnt be more right, i dont believe in abortion either

 

[Ms.Squeakers]

u couldnt be more right, i dont believe in abortion either

BUT,

I think it should be legal, because thats not going to stop abortions and it will be very unsafe.

If its illegal, then people will get it done in back allys, and its not clean or safe, and could really damage the female.

So it should be legal, but I dont believe in it at all.

 

[Natalie_89]

BUT,

I think it should be legal, because thats not going to stop abortions and it will be very unsafe.

If its illegal, then people will get it done in back allys, and its not clean or safe, and could really damage the female.

So it should be legal, but I dont believe in it at all.

i especially dont think people should be able to have a abortion up to 24 weeks a baby can live from then,

 

[Cinderelli16]

u couldnt be more right, i dont believe in abortion either

Me either.
Just the fact that you are killing a little helpless human being inside of you is absolutely WRONG!
It makes me sick when I hear about someone getting an abortion.
How could you honestly do that, and then live with yourself after that.
I mean I could understand if you were raped by a family member or something.
But if it was rape by another person, you could just give the baby up for adoption, and you wouldn't even have to see them after they were born if you don't want to. Atleast the baby would have a chance to live.

 

[Babyjustrun]

The idea of abortion, I'll admit, does sicken me at points.
But I do know, that if I was raped, especially at a young age, I could not go through, even if I was letting the baby be adopted.
It would be like for 9 months, I'd look down and constantly remember that I was raped, I had this child formed inside of me without my permission. It'd be a constant reminder, and I don't think that would be healthy for me.
And what's not healthy for a pregnant woman, most often times, is not healthy for the baby inside.

 

[PrincessKsMom]

Hmmm Im not sure the movies are surving their purpose. I know one of my friends, who after seeing Juno, was trying to get pregnant because she thought she could handle it.

Either way teen pregancy is out of control right now. Personally if I had an unplaned pregnancy I believe I could handle it. However, I would never TRY to get pregnant at my age! I hope Secret Life...Teenager discourages teen pregnancy.

As for that show Baby Borowers.....Im sorry those teenagers are SO dislikable I can't even watch it. Some of them are SOOOO stuck up. The show should have chosen a few more level-headed teenagers to see how they could handle a baby.

Did anyone hear about that pact that 12 (or so) teenagers made at a MA highschool? They were trying to get pregnant so they could raise their babies together. One of the girls babie's father is a homeless man. (she just wanted the baby so bad)

I'm a 40 something year old mom of a 12 yo DD and I just had to chime in:

(1) this is exactly why teens are not able to handle being parents. If you're stupid enough to see something like pregnancy in a movie and think it's cool, then try to get pregnant yourself, you're obviously not mature enough to make wise decisions for yourself, let alone a baby;

(2) You believe you could handle it? Not good enough. There's a helpless person who needs you every moment of every day. (BTW, I had my DD when I was in my late 20's and I still wasn't ready some days!)

(3) I'm sorry -- did you say "level headed teenager"? Probably aren't too many of them around and for good reason. You shouldn't have to be level headed enough to raise another human being at that age. Go enjoy yourself, find out who you really are and live life to the fullest. There's plenty of time to be a "level headed" adult later on. It's really not all it's cracked up to be some days. I think what most teens don't realize is, it's highly unlikely (but not impossible) for you to raise a child without the support of your family, the dad's family, etc. It truly does take a village to raise a child (in most instances) and it's great to have that support to fall back on.

(4) This pact you mention again just goes to show how absolutely immature and ill prepared these teens are. And sleeping with a homeless guy, come on. If she did it just to get pregnant, I think that child should be removed IMMEDIATELY after birth. This kid's not playing with a full deck.

 

[CrazySteph]

I think it's stupid that a lot of teens are too embarressed to at least go to the doctor, ask about sex, birth control, condoms etc.

if they're embarressed, then they shouldn't be having sex anyways. You have to take those responsibilities.

 

[pigletgirl]

I know there are some teens who could handle a baby, but most of the time they have no idea how much work a baby actually is. They just want 'unconditional' love.