I am with you there. Joshua will probably be in HS till he is 21 which means that he and Sarabeth will graduate together. Not sure if that is good or bad
My brother stayed with MOM till she had her accident that took her life 2 1/2 months later. I had to place him in a care house,for which I caught HECK
( and I do not mean heck) from MOM for it. I had my two babies( ages 3 and 7) with me that summer. If Terry was placed then I could visit her more in the hospital and the Nursing home. Oddly or maybe not so... Terry died just short of two months after Mom died and I buried him next to Mom exactly 2 months after she died.
I worry what type of conditions Joshua would face at one of "THOSE" places, so most likely he will be with us forever. But we will cross that bridge when I get to it.