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[Jumpin'Jellyfish]

Hello everyone!

As you all know weddings are expensive. My fiance and I have decided to invote only close family and a few friends totally 150 (we have large families).

My question is: How do say tho our other friends that they aren't going to be invited when they ask???? We don't want to hurt anyone's feelings but ITS EXPENSIVE!!!

Thanks!
Erica

 

[PirateKitty]

I understand your dilemma. I think people will understand if you tell them that you are only able to invite family and a few close friends. I don't think you have to justify your reason to them either. Weddings cost a fortune these days, and if you invited everyone you know, you'd go broke! If they are truly your friends, they will understand that you have a budget, and although you would love to have all of them present, it simply cannot happen. Perhaps you could have a less formal party when you return from your wedding and invite those who weren't able to attend the actual wedding. That way no one will be offended, and you get to have "two" receptions!

 

[Disney-For-Life]

Hi Erica,

I know exactly what you mean. We looked at all of our options for our wedding and reception, and proposed them to our family. It didn't take long for us to decide on a destination wedding - and it was mainly because it didn't matter who we invited, even if we invited everyone we ever know, someone, somewhere would be offended that they were not invited. The media sells you on how much fun wedding planning is, but in reality, its hard to make decisions and people WILL get offended. In the end, just be tackful in your explaination, consider the needs of your parents to some degree, and do what YOU WANT. Good-luck!

 

[dznystar]

I understand what you're going through. We have a similar issue, but our max will be about 50 people. Since it is a destination wedding, they are usually smaller. There will be some people that are not willing to/ or cannot travel. DF is from Orlando and has a lot of family friends (church,school, work). We are having a seperate reception down there. And since I grew up in Atlanta (where we now live) there are people here that cannot make it, so we will be having another reception here. They won't be terribly large, maybe just cake and champagne, but a way for us to celebrate our marriage with friends.

 

[pooh98378]

We also are only going to have about 40-50 people at our wedding. Our wedding is still about one year away. When people started asking about wedding plans, etc., my DF and I just say that we are thinking about WDW, but we aren't sure because only family will be able to come (even though we are 99.99% certain we will be having it there). Then we say that we will probably be having a small reception at home when we get back. That way, everyone understands that we would like to have them there, but it just would not be financially possible at WDW.