Tacky Wedding is tonight

[BeefJerky]

Talk about tacky. I never understood this. Bring me an engagement gift (sometimes), bring me a shower gift, bring me a wedding gift, and oh, BTW, bring some dollar bills to give me while I dance with you.

Actually, not as tacky as you think. In my culture this is done out of good fun. It's not a requirement for some and not a "begging" thing. If you want to give the bride and groom a dollar or more it's your choice. Just because you don't practice it, other cultures do.

 

[PrincessKsMom]

Actually, not as tacky as you think. In my culture this is done out of good fun. It's not a requirement for some and not a "begging" thing. If you want to give the bride and groom a dollar or more it's your choice. Just because you don't practice it, other cultures do.

To each his own. To me it's tacky, to you it's tradition.

 

[monkeybug]

Actually, not as tacky as you think. In my culture this is done out of good fun. It's not a requirement for some and not a "begging" thing. If you want to give the bride and groom a dollar or more it's your choice. Just because you don't practice it, other cultures do.

Yeah, I'm beginning to think that "tacky" means "anything I wouldn't do" and that "etiquette" is thinly veiled snobbery.
It certainly doesn't seem to have anything to do with having class or morals.

The Italian side of my family does the dollar dance thing.

 

[MrsJackSparrow4Life]

Yeah, I'm beginning to think that "tacky" means "anything I wouldn't do" and that "etiquette" is thinly veiled snobbery.
It certainly doesn't seem to have anything to do with having class or morals.

The Italian side of my family does the dollar dance thing.

Yep

Which is why I see no reason to follow the DISers version of "etiquette." Life is too short to deal with their attitudes. My family and I will continue doing our parties and invitations the way we want to and if people have an issue with it then they can not come to the party and keep their snobby attitude at home.

 

[sasywtch]

My dad's huge family owned a dairy and were very hard working. For some reason, most of the men married very snobby women. My dad married my english mom who was a SAHM. My dad did very well co-owning a business and made more $$ than the others yet my dad and mom were the Sunday drive stop at Burger King type of people and not the dress up restaurant type.
At my wedding of which I was 4 month pregnant (oops--first faux paux), the immediate family drove to Lake Tahoe and then back home for a reception at my parents house. Home made buffet, maid of honor's sister made the cake (which was beautiful with 3 layers, different colored flowers). I'm sure we were the "talk" of the family. And then it happened, my maid of honor who was my best friend since grade school and who had grown up with little money suggested the dollar dance. I heard a smirk from one aunt but oh well. There wasn't really any dancing so she passed around the shoe. Oh no! I'm sure that's a major no no. It paid for our 2 nights in a motel and then my now ex husband had to go back to work since his boss wouldn't give him more time off (my dad)

After all these years, who cares? I enjoyed my day. It's their problem if they think something isn't their way of doing things.

Just remembered, one of the snobby aunts paid for her daughter's 3 marriages with sit down steak dinners, her son had a reception at a fancy hotel where people were so crammed in with little seating that my ex and I took off with the groom's sister/and then 2nd husband to a restaraunt to eat.

Having been married to someone in the military, I definitely would not be offended if they asked for cash. Packing and unpacking is not fun. I gave my son Disney Dollars and a penny book for their WDW honeymoon. They had lived together so didn't need more dish towels or blenders or china and still aren't the china type. To each their own. I've never been invited to a wedding or party that surprised me because I usually know the person well enough to know their "customs" or how they enjoy themselves and wouldn't want them changing themselves to throw something that isn't their style. Heck my best friend had a homemade buffet and asked my sister to make her famous macaroni/shrimp salad in leiu of a wedding gift. I guess I'm with others who don't know what the big deal is.