Sympathy Card... Appropriate?

[AKL_Megs]

Thankfully, I don't have to do this often, so I have a question...

My DH's uncle lost his life over the weekend. The man was like a father to my DH, and his poor wife is like a second mother to him as well.

I am not even sure if we, as family, are to give a sympathy card since we are so close and grieving as well. I didn't know if it was an appropriate thing to do. This is a really confusing time... But, I was at Hallmark when my mother was picking out a card, and I found a beautiful one and thought it a nice card to be from DH and me.

DH's uncle leaves behind a wife, son and daughter, daughter-in-law and son-in-law, two grandchildren, and two parents

I'd like to address the card not only to the wife, but to everyone.

If it IS appropriate to send a card, do I address it to the "Smith Family" (that seems too casual... we are family) or name each person (that seems like overkill)?

How do I address the card?

Thanks.

 

[okeydokey]

Even though you are grieving too, it is very appropriate to send a sympathy card to the immediate family. If they live at the same address, one card, but if they live at different addresses, one for each address. So sorry for your loss.

 

[NMAmy]

I'm sorry for your loss.

And, yes, it's absolutely appropriate to send a sympathy card. When my dad passed away, several relatives sent cards that included their favorite memories of my dad. Some were from before I was born--others were just another side of my dad that I didn't know about. Those were my very favorite cards and a wonderful gift to us.

Many of the cards we received were sent to my mother but addressed to the family even though none of us live with Mom. She made sure that we got to read every one.

 

[Disney Doll]

It's never bad to send a sympathy card, especially if you have found one that appropriately expresses your sentiments about DH's uncle.

You could address it to "The Family of John Smith" so that all will know it was meant for all.

 

[minkydog]

It's never a bad thing to send a sympathy card. I would address it to "The Smith Family." They know who they are. I'm sending you hugs because i know this is a difficult time for you and everyone in the family. Be gentle with yourself.