Swear Words?

[NFLDERS]

My DGSon told me when he was in SK that, I had just said a swear! The most wonderful DGSon in the world, (I'm bias); going into Grade 2 in Sept. Has told me more recently that, I'm forgiven.

This forgiveness, comes from his understanding of why, his Dpa and I, still make this mistake; it was okay in the "olden days!". We did discuss the use of the word, (bad) when referring to a person. That place or thing is my only time of use.

The swear word "Stupid" the attempts to replace it with "silly" allude me.
Yesterday, the last time I swore, I'd just cut my finger, the fault was the "stupid" knife! Quickly replaced with "silly", which brought out a smile from him.

Are there other unusual swear words, in your neck of the woods?.

 

[sunshinehighway]

My DGSon told me when he was in SK that, I had just said a swear! The most wonderful DGSon in the world, (I'm bias); going into Grade 2 in Sept. Has told me more recently that, I'm forgiven.

This forgiveness, comes from his understanding of why, his Dpa and I, still make this mistake; it was okay in the "olden days!". We did discuss the use of the word, when referring to person. That place or thing is my only time of use.

The swear word "Stupid" the attempts to replace it with "silly" allude me.
Yesterday day, the last time I swore, I'd just cut my finger, the fault was the "stupid" knife! Quickly replaced with "silly", which brought out a smile from him.

Are there other unusual swear words, in your neck of the woods?.

I think kids are just taught everything negative is a swear.

 

[Conservative Hippie]

I say stupid way too much in front of my kids! But the biggest problem I've had with "bad words" is "oh my g-d." In my house that one is worse than the ****, and yet you can't go anywhere without hearing it. We even heard a kid yell it when I was dropping DD off at bible camp last week.

 

[ten6mom]

I told my kids when they were younger that I didn't like them to use the word "stupid.". They thought it was a swear word for a couple of years. Oops.

 

[clarkshel]

We tell our kids not to use the word stupid because it is not a nice word. We also don't like them to use the word fart. My wife makes them say toot. LOL

Our kids bust my wife and I the most for saying those words or for swear words. They will say "oh, mommy said a bad word".

 

[NFLDERS]

I say stupid way too much in front of my kids! But the biggest problem I've had with "bad words" is "oh my g-d." In my house that one is worse than the f word, and yet you can't go anywhere without hearing it. We even heard a kid yell it when I was dropping DD off at bible camp last week.

When I was a younger women, I'm olderrr then that now. . Before it was heard anywhere, I said OMG quite often. This disturbed a DSIL, tried as I did, I could not replace it with goodness. (her wish)

Troubled, I went to my Minister, discussed it. He said, as long as I was not taking "God's" name in vain, in my use of it, not to be troubled. DSIL and I talked about it, she still cringed, if I did, I'd apologize.

Today, we laugh about it, as like you said it is used everywhere!

 

[sesame_123]

We don't like to use "stupid" at our house either. There is another one that I didn't even know about but we were driving into Milwaukee and passed the baseball stadium. I pointed out to my 2 1/2 year old the parking lots and she told me I said a naughty word. I was confused so I asked her what word. It was Dumb. I had to think for a bit until I remembered I had said something about all the dumpsters. Lol. Kids

 

[cobright]

When our first kiddo started talking we decided on a different approach.

The rapper Ice-Cube said something interesting in an interview on npr about the language in his music and his kid repeating it. He said, "we don't have 'bad' words in our house. All words have a place within their appropriate context. Maturity doesn't come from abiding by a list of words that can't be used, it comes from knowing when it is appropriate to use them."

This makes a lot more sense to me, and my kids are growing up well with civil tongues, knowing that it is perfectly appropriate for Kanye to use that word even though there are very few contexts in which they or I should attempt it.

From my perspective, I have always said that when people complain about my language they are usually really complaining about my thoughts. If I use a swear word it is because that is the best word available to convey my though (the purpose of words is to convey thought).

 

[ckay87]

Stupid is not a swear word. In my opinion, it's not even a bad word. It's not even remotely a "wrong" word. You know what? People get frustrated and need to express frustrations in words. I'm not sure why it's okay to call an inanimate object "silly" and not "stupid." The thing is technically neither.

Now it's wrong to call a person "stupid" but that's common sense. In many cases it's wrong to call a person "silly." You just don't call people names, period. That's a good rule. Putting a blanket rule on a perfectly acceptable word is confusing.

But that's just my opinion. Frankly, if I stub my toe on the bed and call the bed "stupid" I'm having a great day!

 

[mamacatnv]

When our first kiddo started talking we decided on a different approach.

The rapper Ice-Cube said something interesting in an interview on npr about the language in his music and his kid repeating it. He said, "we don't have 'bad' words in our house. All words have a place within their appropriate context. Maturity doesn't come from abiding by a list of words that can't be used, it comes from knowing when it is appropriate to use them."

This makes a lot more sense to me, and my kids are growing up well with civil tongues, knowing that it is perfectly appropriate for Kanye to use that word even though there are very few contexts in which they or I should attempt it.

From my perspective, I have always said that when people complain about my language they are usually really complaining about my thoughts. If I use a swear word it is because that is the best word available to convey my though (the purpose of words is to convey thought).

I agree with this. There are few taboo words in our home and we do stress context.

 

[wiigirl]

I told my kids when they were younger that I didn't like them to use the word "stupid.". They thought it was a swear word for a couple of years. Oops.

Mine too!!

 

[RadioNate]

When our first kiddo started talking we decided on a different approach.

The rapper Ice-Cube said something interesting in an interview on npr about the language in his music and his kid repeating it. He said, "we don't have 'bad' words in our house. All words have a place within their appropriate context. Maturity doesn't come from abiding by a list of words that can't be used, it comes from knowing when it is appropriate to use them."

This makes a lot more sense to me, and my kids are growing up well with civil tongues, knowing that it is perfectly appropriate for Kanye to use that word even though there are very few contexts in which they or I should attempt it.

From my perspective, I have always said that when people complain about my language they are usually really complaining about my thoughts. If I use a swear word it is because that is the best word available to convey my though (the purpose of words is to convey thought).

I love this and never have read it put into words like this but that is exactly how I view it. Very few words are entirely off limits.

Slurs based on race, ethnicity, religion, sexual orientation ... All off limits. "Swears?" Not so much.

Name calling is unacceptable.

Me. An adult, muttering the f-word or saying **** in front of my kids when I drop a glass & break it all over? No biggie.

 

[cluvsdisney]

I told my kids when they were younger that I didn't like them to use the word "stupid.". They thought it was a swear word for a couple of years. Oops.

My niece & nephew were told the same thing. Almost every time I see them, I get nailed for saying it.

 

[FlightlessDuck]

I've got a big one: ********.

Heck, not sure if that will make the filter, actually...

Stupid isn't something we bat an eyelash at.

 

[NFLDERS]

When our first kiddo started talking we decided on a different approach.

The rapper Ice-Cube said something interesting in an interview on npr about the language in his music and his kid repeating it. He said, "we don't have 'bad' words in our house. All words have a place within their appropriate context. Maturity doesn't come from abiding by a list of words that can't be used, it comes from knowing when it is appropriate to use them."

This makes a lot more sense to me, and my kids are growing up well with civil tongues, knowing that it is perfectly appropriate for Kanye to use that word even though there are very few contexts in which they or I should attempt it.

From my perspective, I have always said that when people complain about my language they are usually really complaining about my thoughts. If I use a swear word it is because that is the best word available to convey my though (the purpose of words is to convey thought).

This is what we are trying to do. Problem is, this is being taught at his school,
What words are swear words.

And, at the moment school is "Gospel" If you get my drift. Therefore, as we don't want him using, the listed school's, swear words, and getting into trouble by repeating; We are really trying not to, it's become a slippery slope!

 

[cobright]

Slurs based on race, ethnicity, religion, sexual orientation ... All off limits. "Swears?" Not so much.
Name calling is unacceptable.

Again, it's a matter of context. Before I had kids I remember my nephew telling his dad that, "kids at school were calling the new kid a..." And refused to say what the other kids were saying. You end up with a human being no smarter than the disboard language filter (no offense disboard).

We tell our kids to choose words based on accuracy, audience, and the likely outcome of that word. If a word is likely to make someone feel bad then choose another word.

This is why some words can be okay by some people and not others. As a part of a cultural in-group its unlikely to be hurtful should Kanye sing Golddigger. If a white guy can drop the ****** in a way that is unlikely to upset someone then I say go for it, but I try to keep my kids aware of charged words and their likely outcomes.

In a 'kids say the darndest things" moment, I stood horrified while my son told his kindergarten teacher that all the bad things on earth were caused by black people. Jesus Christ, where did that come from? He was describing Harry Potter and the dementors (black people).

 

[cobright]

This is what we are trying to do. Problem is, this is being taught at his school,
What words are swear words.

And, at the moment school is "Gospel" If you get my ...

Absolutely. And location and audience are.a part of context. So instead of calling them bad words, reinforce that its bad to use those words at.school

 

[JRawkSteady]

"Swear words" I don't understand: Stupid, hell, and damn. None of these are bad words in my household. Also, we never had a problem with "sucks" as in "this homework sucks."

Honestly, we don't really care too much about words. Unless they are demeaning or verbally abusing someone, which is not tolerated in the least, language is language. We are more concerned about actions and what's behind the language they are using than the actual words themselves.

 

[poohfriend77]

We didn't use the words "stupid" or "hate" (when talking about people) when my kids were young. Rather than just calling them "bad words," I explained to them that those words were only used to make others feel bad, and we should use kind words. We had a LOT of discussions about them, because they read "Junie B. Jones" books, which used those two words in almost every paragraph.

Oh, and they're not allowed to tell someone to "shut up" either.

 

[ILUVALASKA]

Americans swear way too much. When did **** become an adjective? Repulsive.