Suicide Attempt? Warning, very disturbing.

[LuvLDM]

Heartbreaking story

 

[Hannathy]

that poor girl. I don't know how to say this that it makes sense but I think we (collective we) are lucky more young girls don't do things like this. Girls are mean!!! what some girls put other girls through is down right nasty. And I don't mean just the rich nasty ones or "trashy" ones I mean your average, good student, seems like such a nice girl, good family etc girls. The bullying and excluding and purposefully trying to make whoever the girl du jour to pick on life's miserable that is happening all over this country in every high school is amazing. This happened to my DD and I know of other girls that have had similar things done to them from talking to others on here and from Mothers with kids in other schools. I thank my lucky stars that my DD is very strong and has good self esteem and a solid support system and made it thru the last yr of High School but what if she didn't? maybe this young lady wasn't as strong or didn't have as much self esteem?

I don't know the answer but it breaks my heart to read of something like this and think of the pain and tears this poor girl probably suffered and that was before the pain of the fire.

 

[Disney Doll]

This is actually much more common in the Asian culture. Years ago one of the interns I worked with did this. He was Chinese.

As far as surviving...she will not survive with burns over 100% of her body. The fluid loss, infection etc. will be too great for her to overcome.

 

[DebbieB]

A former coworker's wife killed herself by setting her apartment on fire. She had it planned - she took family albums outside before. I can't remember all the circumstances, it was 15 or 20 years ago, I think they may have been divorced.

 

[luvmy3]

So very sad. Whenever I hear about people who attempt/succeed suicide in ways like this I assume that they feel they need to punish themself for something. There are so many less violent ways to go about it, if they are choosing to do something this horrific to themselves they must feel that they deserve it, and that is just so sad.
My heart goes out to her and her family.

 

[DawnCt1]

So very sad. Whenever I hear about people who attempt/succeed suicide in ways like this I assume that they feel they need to punish themself for something. There are so many less violent ways to go about it, if they are choosing to do something this horrific to themselves they must feel that they deserve it, and that is just so sad.
My heart goes out to her and her family.

For so many young people, they haven't lived long enough to have learned that things get better.

 

[liamsaunt]

When I was in college a young man killed himself on the town green by doing this. It happened in the middle of the day and was witnessed by many people. It was horrifying and terribly sad.

 

[A&E'sMom]

My girls are still in high school, but I worry about this, too. I had such a horrible childhood, I tried to do everything I could to protect them from bad things. I think I over did it to compensate for the fact that I didn't have a mom growing up. Now I am worried I didn't raise them strong enough. We all make fun of helicopter parents, but a lot of us are exactly that. Well, I am and I admit it. I wish I had done things differently.

Don't know if this will ease your mind or not, but maybe it will. My parents were helicopter parents, long before there was a catchy title for it. In fact, I dare say they would put most "helicopter parents" of today, to shame. They shielded, censored, protected, guided, shadowed, followed, and watched us. All of the time.

There were three of us daughters. Many of their friends warned them- "You are way too involved!", "Your girls need independence!", "One day, you'll see- your girls are gonna be so tired of having you in their business, that they are going to rebel and do the exact opposite of what you are teaching them!".

Those friends were wrong. All three of us finished school, went to college, got married, have/held jobs, had children (to which, we are all proud Helicopter Moms). No scuffs. No scrapes. No major rebellions. Not a one of us folded under the 'pressure' of a world without Mom and Dad being only two minutes away. We knew they were always a phone call away if we needed them. But, more often than not, we knew we could do it without *having* to make that phone call. Their protection showed love, which gave us the confidence we needed in ourselves.

I get angry with news reports that showcase the few kids who have issues that lead to tragedy, and then point to the source of those issues as being "over-protective" parents. Our job as parents is to protect! We've been down the road before, so we know what's coming for them. We're supposed to be there to guide them, teach them, and keep them safe until they can do it all on their own.

Sounds like you are an excellent mom, to me. Don't worry if you've hovered too much, I've no doubt that one day your children will be thankful that you did.

 

[CaliforniaDreamin]

Helicopter Moms).

I get angry with news reports that showcase the few kids who have issues that lead to tragedy, and then point to the source of those issues as being "over-protective" parents. Our job as parents is to protect! We've been down the road before, so we know what's coming for them. We're supposed to be there to guide them, teach them, and keep them safe until they can do it all on their own.

Sounds like you are an excellent mom, to me. Don't worry if you've hovered too much, I've no doubt that one day your children will be thankful that you did.

Thank you. You just made me cry...in a good way. I guess I can't understand why this girl chose this way to end her life when there are easier ways.
Ok. OnT: I hope the family does not fight to keep her alive and they just let her go. It's inhumane to keep her alive.

 

[Sparx]

This happened where I live last year. A man was found dead in a dumpster. He had poured gasoline in it and jumped in with a lighter. Originally, the police thought he was murdered, but somehow they determined it was self inflicted.

 

[punkin]

You know thinking about this reminded me of the MIT student a few years back to did this. I guess it is not as uncommon as I first thought.

 

[Handbag Lady]

How exactly do you do this? I can't even imagine. And how do the coppers know it isn't criminal? They must know something they are not releasing yet.

I just can't imagine. If I wanted to go that way, I'd do something much, much LESS painful. I can't imagine what went through her head to think there wasn't help out there, not matter what the situation is. I mean, I can't even think of something so bad that would make me want to end it. What was so bad that she had to try and end it this particular way?

Scary. And I feel for her parents, too.

 

[dejr_8]

When we lived in MA, a older man in a nasty divorce committed suicide by burning down his house.

 

[cm8]

Because this is the community board and people post all sorts of stuff. Maybe OP was upset and wanted to commiserate with someone.

I feel so sorry for the poor child and her parents. I suppose it could be suicide, but it just doesn't seem right to me.

, that is so sad, I pray for peace for them as well as her soul. WOW, I am not buying what they are saying either, where is all the evidence that point to her doing that? I could not begin to phantom what was going through her head at the time. Praying for her peace and her parents heart to heal

 

[disney1990]

This just breaks my heart. Wesleyan University is in Middletown, Ct. I can't imagine the pain that this girl is going through nor that of her parents. I don't know whether to pray for her recovery or just pray that she passes comfortably.http://www.middletownpress.com/articles/2010/09/13/news/doc4c8e2b41988d0808100687.txt

How very, very sad.

 

[LilyWDW]

, that is so sad, I pray for peace for them as well as her soul. WOW, I am not buying what they are saying either, where is all the evidence that point to her doing that? I could not begin to phantom what was going through her head at the time. Praying for her peace and her parents heart to heal

They are not going to release the evidence until the investigation is over.

While it is rare, suicide by lighting one self on fire DOES happen. I am sure there are reasons they believe this is self inflicted.

 

[C.Ann]

Poor girl and her poor family, I'm just going to pray for them to find peace.

Doesn't sound like a female behavior to me though, I thought females choose more passive means because they are often considerate of who they leave behind. I hope the police do a good job with this one, it just doesn't sound right.

I agree.. Something isn't right about this.. I think there are very, very, very few people who would choose to kill themselves in this manner - and especially a young teenage girl..

What kind of prayers? "God's will" - I guess..

 

[budmonster]

This poor child, my heart goes out to her and her parents. I couldn't even imagine what they are going through. I worked as a 911 dispatcher for the past 5 years and I remember every call from a parent that had a child that commited suicide, I wouldn't wish that on my worst enemie. I hope that she finds peace.

 

[ZachnElli]

A member of my dh's family commited suicide very recently, funeral is Wednesday in fact. So many family members in denial and pointing fingers. It really is hard for those left behind. His cousin was beautiful and only 38 years old, my age and leaving 2 daughters behind.

 

[mrsheppo]

This is so very sad and brings back horrible memories for me. My mother committed suicide this very way. Unfortunately she survived 6 horrifying days after setting herself on fire. I remember visiting her in the hospital and didn't even recognize her. She was burnt over 80% of her body. I was so ashamed of how she died that I kept it a secret from friends for more than 20 years. I had been married for 6 years to my DH before I could reveal it to him and my children were grown before I told them.

I pray that this young girl suffers no more and her family finds peace.