Agree, and -- in a perfect world -- that would happen automatically. People choosing to major in education would say, "I am likely to earn ___ , so I should beware of taking on big debts."
But kids don't always think logically or long-term. Sad story: Years ago I tried to "talk sense to" one of my high school seniors who was dead set on attending an expensive, private religious school halfway across the country. Her parents are both graduates, they met while they were students, and she grew up on stories of that school. She flew out there over a school break and after that she'd never even talk about another school. Thing is, she's the oldest of something like six kids, and her father is a pastor. So she was paying for school herself. She borrowed BIG and became a teacher -- I talked and talked to her about the financial reality, and she just couldn't hear what I said. She was sure-sure-sure she'd get some scholarship money, that teacher salaries would increase, that she'd marry a guy who'd help pay off that debt. Nope to all of it. Now she's one of my colleagues, and she understands what I said perfectly -- but it's too late. She lives at home and will realistically be paying for most of her career. The one positive for her: as a teacher, she'll have a pension, so she will be able to retire.
I've taught high school seniors for three decades, and MANY of them don't have a good grasp of what they're doing when they take out loans. Real things kids have told me over the years:
- I won't have any problem paying back these loans. I'm going into (insert high paying profession here), and it won't be hard at all.
- I know I could go to an in-state school /avoid loans, but I've always had this vision of myself going to school up North, walking to school in the snow in a little pea coat, hat and scarf.
- I fell in love with ___ school when I saw the pool tables in the student union! I absolutely have to go there, and if it means I have to borrow, I'll do it. Alternate: granite countertops in the on-campus apartments
And the most common thing kids have said to me about borrowing:
- I know I'm going to be sorry later for taking out loans, but I really, really want to live on my own right now, and this is the easiest way to do it.
Eh, you're probably right in most cases ... but some people borrow from the government AND also go for private loans.
As for being adults when they go to grad school, a kid who goes straight from high school to undergrad, then straight into grad school IS legally an adult ... but may not have actually supported himself in an adult manner; that is, he may still be on his parents insurance, may never have held a full-time job.
This is ABSOLUTELY an accurate appraisal of my high school seniors. They care a lot about their dorm rooms, the roommate with whom they'll live for a year, the on-campus fast-food that can be bought with their meal plan, whether freshmen can have a car on campus, and free on-campus activities.
But student loans? Dude, that'll all fall into place.
This is a pretty accurate appraisal -- except that high schools absolutely are NOT preaching "degree at any cost". High schools are really pushing community college /trades because that's a much cheaper /quicker entry route to middle-class adulthood. And because we as a society have a real need for people in these jobs.
Thing is, "smart kids" refuse to listen -- they only hear college-college-college because they see that as "the best choice", and they aren't settling for second-best! That's for other people who aren't as special, as smart.
Anything that's given to you was taken from someone else.
Because most of us have no idea how that degree could possibly be useful in the real world.
Agree about the medical debt. My husband spent ONE night in the hospital a few months ago -- when all was said and done (doctors, physical therapy after), it cost us almost $10,000 . My just-out-of-college daughter went to the ER /had to have a small outpatient surgery -- it cost her two month's pay, and that's tough for someone who's in an entry level job.
I'm with you. I worked 2-3 jobs at a time to get through college and lived in less-than-safe places with more roommates than the management knew about. It was rough. Then when I finished college, I was super-poor for the first couple years. BUT I did it. I paid my debts, and I paid for my kids' educations.
I'm done -- and I'm unapologetic about it.
When I was in college in the 80s, almost everyone had a part-time job during the school year /full time during the summer. Those jobs varied pretty widely -- some people worked just a couple hours a week, others worked full time +.
BUT my kids were in college 2012-2020, and the majority of their school friends didn't work. At all.
A friend of mine had her son take out loans for his entire education. She told him that if he graduated on time, they'd pay the loans off the day after graduation -- if he spun his wheels and goofed off, well, the loans were in his name. She knew how to motivate her kid; he graduated on time with a profitable degree.
False.
My oldest is a RN, and she says about half the nurses with whom she works have "only" an associates degree (plus a nursing license, obviously). Those people are highly employable -- they're very highly employable -- but they don't "move up the ladder".
My daughter has a BS from a 4-year university (graduated in 2016), and she has worked her way up from Clinical Nurse 1 to Clinical Nurse 3 (highest category her employer offers without a masters -- she had to complete an original study and defend it to earn that 3). She has left what she calls "Bedside Care" and is in "Nurse Management". That's an opportunity that won't come to the people with associate's degrees.
It's no secret: Elementary - high school grades are heavily correlated with parental income, which is heavily correlated with parental education.
Sure, a kid "from the wrong side of the tracks" can make it big -- but he or she must work harder to do it, and usually it happens because some adult really helps that kiddo. I personally was one of those kids; my dad abandoned us, and my mom was very caught up in trying to support too many kids after a decade-out-of-work /only a high school diploma. But my grandmother was always there for me -- she didn't have money to give me (she was giving all she had to my mom to buy us food), but she gave me advice and guidance when my mom had no time for it. (In her defense, she was putting out fires all the time.)
Also, we have to accept that the "wrong side of the tracks kid" probably won't go as far as the kid who was born in a more enriched environment. I've just retired, and I've done well, but I can say with 100% certainty that I would've done more /done better if my dad hadn't left /all those things hadn't derailed my childhood. I'm happy enough knowing that I got out of poverty and gave my kids much more.
Absolutely college CAN be done -- even now -- on your own. Doesn't mean you can go to big-name U, live on campus, graduate in four years -- but it can be done. It requires sacrifice and scraping by and doing things you'd prefer not to do.
I worked my butt off to get through school, and -- at the time -- I thought I was doing everything possible. Looking back, I see a couple options that could've made my college years easier /better, but 18-22 year old me didn't see them then.
We DO teacher personal finance at my high school -- it's not called personal finance; rather, it's a part of Civics. The problem is, the kids don't see it as something pertinent to their lives, so they don't listen.
- Who'd ever spend more than they earn? What an idiot. They're all going to make big bucks and will be able to pay their bills easily.
- In 10th grade when kids take this class, they're prone to talking about their plans to become a singer, have a penthouse in New York, an apartment in downtown Paris and a mansion in Malibu.
- Even those who are not dreaming of unlikely fame don't understand how hard it can be to qualify for /get a well-paying job. For example, I'm thinking about a student of mine who was very average academically, who planned to go into the military after high school. One day he told me he'd done some research, and he'd decided what kind of Air Force pilot he wanted to be -- he was going for the Blackhawk Helicoptors. I didn't tell him, of course, that it's really hard to get a pilot slot of any type. Poor kid -- the Air Force didn't even take him.
Yes, Engineering is a perfect example of this -- LOADS of my students go to college saying they're going into Engineering, and they figure out pretty quickly that they can't hang with the big boys. I'm married to an Engineer, and -- to make it in that program -- you have to not only be good at math, you have to be the best in the class and grasp the concept even before the teacher finishes talking. But high school kids don't get that.
Add in that they're living away from home for the first time, and the temptation to skip classes is pretty strong. The high school C-student gets into college (somewhere), but he doesn't have the skills to stick it out in college.
And yes to illness, accidents, etc. Four years is a long time and includes a lot of moving parts -- so many things can happen.
Oh, yes. And we don't help this in high school. We tell them, "If you miss more than 8 days in a class, you won't get credit!" And then Admin gives them credit. We tell them, "This project counts 30% of your grade! You can't pass this class without this project!" And then Admin makes us extend the deadline or offer an alternative grade. No wonder they don't believe anything we say.
Yeah, having taught in the public schools for three decades, I know exactly 0 teachers who've had their loans forgiven -- and I did teach in a Title 1 School for a while.
Same number of students who've earned those red-headed, left-handed, descended from this family name scholarships.
Agree, but kids don't "get it". I have an article on student loans that I've been using in class for years. Every year students read this article and ask the same questions:
- You mean, even if you have financial need, you have to pay back a loan?
- You mean, if you borrow money and then you do everything right, you have to pay it back?
- You mean, if you leave school and don't finish your degree, you still have to pay it back?
Totally agree. No one option is going to work for everyone, but a college student who is physically healthy and has no dependents can do SOMETHING to get through college for less money.