Beth:
All I can say - is when it rains, it pours. I'm so proud of you for getting through it all and still maintaining your health and sanity.
PG sounds like she could use some serious family counseling. I've told you before that my FIL and I do not get along...it causes a great deal of stress for my DH. We don't have children - something he doesn't ever let up on (and it's really not his business why we don't or can't). But I can only imagine the treatment they'd be exposed to if we did!
Your family is American. In America, we are supposed to have respect for one another regardless of where our ancestors came from. You can't control who you fall in love with - I really believe that when you meet your soulmate that it wouldn't matter if they had two heads...they would be your soulmate. Your DH sounds like an incredible human being - loving, supportive, a great father! It is amazing that he is what he is considering how his mother treats people.
Your Katie's food alergies are tough to avoid - especially if food service workers don't have a clue as what ingredients are really in their products. Cross contamination at an ice cream store is entirely possible if they aren't careful. People without food allergies have no clue how dangerous it can be for those who do. But talk about bad timing - coming home from the ER and PG is there to exacerbate the situation!
Legalwise...I put myself through college working as a paralegal. Every state has different laws, but most judges would refer the whole situation to mediation before allowing anything visitation-wise to go to court. Mediation in your case might be a good solution - it would force PG to deal with her predjudice. Any mediator would see through her attitude in a heartbeat - I'm surprised that her attorney hasn't been open and honest about the issue being her problem.
I think you are being very wise in limiting her access to Katie. You and your daughters relationship is the most important thing. She does not need any influence in her life that undermines that relationship. You and DH's relationship is also way more important than that of his with his mother. She needs to make a choice of being part of the family - treating you with respect - or not having contact with her son and grandaughter.
Hang in there. Have a good productive weekend at work and a much better week. Thank you again for the wonderful words in my journal. You really made me feel better.
-Laurie
I hope you have a good day/night at work and then can get away and enjoy some relaxing time w/Katie and your folks. You're doing a great job holding it all together. Maybe your parents can give you a little nurturing.
Take care!
I survived my weekend at work, but I am out of practive at staying up all night. It really took a toll on me. I plan on sleeping for at least 6 hours, then Kate an I go to my parents house. We'll be there until Monday night. They have a treaddie, so I plan on doing 4 miles today and 3 tomorrow. No exercise yesterday, butt I have been OP. I keep forgetting to roll my bear.
I'll do that after this post. To my knowledge there has been no further contact with PG. I'm not sure Won would tell me if he has talked to her. He doesn't want me to be upset any more. I've started biting my nails again.
Keep up the good work!
. Just the other day I was talking to my DH about the trip I want to take to WDW after the one we have planned (if you notice we have quite a wait for THAT one). It's official that we will be going to the World for my 30th birthday 
! Did I mention that I don't turn 30 until 2007 
?! Yes, a trip planned three years in the future. Still made my day, though 
I love planning WDW trips! It gives us something to look forward to when times are tough.
