Stressed Out!

[Horizons16]

Have you ever had that moment when you just sit there and realize that in less than a couple of months your whole life is about to change? Then you get very stressed out about everything. I am so stressed about everything in my life... all of my friends are going to college next year including my girlfriend of 3 years. Next year im going to be all alone...

I also owe a lot of people a lot of money... I just dont know what to do... sometimes it feels like i just wanna slam my fist into the wall or something stupid like that... i keep telling myself that we still have the summer and all that... but when it comes down to it man our days are numbered.

I just dont know what to do....



~Steve

 

[Dan Murphy]

Originally posted by Horizons16
....I just dont know what to do....



~Steve

Just take it a day at a time, Steve. You'll see, all will go fine and well. We know, we have been there. Take care.

 

[helenabear]

Hang in there Steve. As Dan said, just take it one day at a time. I know I've been there myself and somehow everything works out okay in the end. I wish all the best for you

 

[JC2]

Steve, Everything will work out. It really will.

I like the scripture that you have in your signature. It really speaks volumes. Wisdom often comes out of painful times. And I believe we are allowed to go through those times for the purpose of growth. It can be so painful. But growing is a necessity. Just know you're not alone and that there are people who care. Hang on! You'll come through this.

 

[Sharby]

Horizons16: It does sound as if you are indeed 'Stressed Out!'. There are a couple of things here, though. If you feel 'Stressed Out' now and then throughout the day - but find that you can distract yourself temporarily - for example - by watching TV, and you are finding little spots of occasional pleasure in the day, then 'hang in there' and 'try and work it out'.

You should closely monitor how you are thinking and feeling, though. If you find yourself thinking almost relentlessly about your problems, feel 'blue' almost all day, have sleep patterns that are disrupted (either can't get to sleep, wake up way too early in the morning, or are even sleeping too much) and it has continued for at least 2 weeks, you should see a doctor for advice.

 

[nativetxn]

Steve, I know it sounds glib, but Dan is correct. Just take it one day at a time. Come here to the CB and vent to us if you need to, any time.

Katholyn

 

[Verandah Man]

I know it's been said before, but, just take one day at a time. That's the way I've been living my life for nearly 48 years now, and it works.
"Don't worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will take care of itself."

 

[daughter_of_amid_chaos]

I know how you feel.
I graduate in June and it's a really scary thought to think that soon I'll be out in the real world.
But you have to live in the present. My friends and I have been talking about the past and looking at pictures and just enjoying being with each other.

 

[aahmom1]

Take everything one day at a time, and everything will be fine. Trust me, things always look better and brighter in the morning. When you get up tomorrow make a list of things that you can accomplish tomorrow. Work on that list, don't make it overwhelming, make it do-able. Then the next day start a new list, eventually you'll find that the list will get smaller and smaller until you only have one thing on that list.

Remember though, you can only do a little at a time, don't take it all on in one day.

 

[Horizons16]

I knew this was the place

Thanks for all the advice... i guess you are all right i try not to worry about tomorrow now it makes today just so much easier

 

[MosMom]

I agree with the one day at a time advice and as long as the people you owe money to won't break your legs if you don't pay, don't sweat it. Pay it back as you can.

 

[FINFAN]

My son is constantly stressed out about school, and compares his intelligence/abilities to his classmates a lot. He sees their lives as perfect and he has to work hard for every grade. One day I mentioned to him that yes, some of those students are doing very well indeed, but that this age may be their finest hour....and to have that happen to them so young would be a shame. That his best was still to come. We have a secret hug that is a signal for that talk...just keep in mind that even when things look so down and out, they will get better again. Also, try not to let your troubles take over the time you do have until summer....enjoy it with your friends. As far as owing $...a LOT of people are in that boat right now with job losses etc., many with families to support. You will be fine..try to stay in control and take a minute to smile and remember Spring is coming and that is a time to re-new!

 

[helenabear]

Good to see the smiles, Steve. I didn't say this earlier but I was in a similar situation as you are my junior/senior year and I wanted to let you know that it really all worked out great for me. My senior year was wonderful Keep enjoying today though, it really is great way to live

 

[KarenB]

When I went back to college 4 years ago at the rip old age of 38, I felt about the same way. I was SO overwhelmed and so many things were changing, I didn't know what to do.

One of my first classes was a comp class and we were required to read a book by Anne Lammot. (sp) It told about her brother that had a huge report to do about birds and he felt like I just described and wanted to give up. His father told him to take the project "Bird by Bird." (the name of the book by the way!)

Anyhow..now when things feel overwhelming, I try to tell myself to just take it ...bird by bird!!!! My DSs follow this as well and often tell me to take things bird by bird!!!

Good luck and keep in touch on the DIS!
Karen

 

[aahmom1]

I'm really glad you are feeling better today.

 

[wovenwonder]

{{{{{{HUGS STEVE}}}}}}}}

It sounds like this is a difficult time in your life. My daughter graduated high school last year and many of her friends went off to college and some even have been deployed (we assume mid east bound). She is taking it hard also (the deployment). She decided to not go to college and is working at a local Bank. She landed a terrific job with excellent benefits and I am very proud of her BUT just moving into her adult life has had its turmoils.

If you'd like to 'talk' with someone closer to your own age that will probably understand more than us old people I know that Shelby would be happy to have another email buddy! Her email addy is spoiledspecial@hotmail.com

 

[holycow]

Steve ((((((((((((((((HUGS)))))))))))))))))))))) to you!

I know this must seem like such a bad time in your life but new adventures are ahead...New friends added to the old, learning to communicate by long distance with the people you've been so close to, but this can be such a great time in your life...appreciate each day and gather all the memories you can, and look forward to the new ones up ahead for you.

The money situation can be a pain, have you mapped a plan to pay people back?....The website Cheapskatemonthly.com can help you learn to manage finances...I know it can be tough but it can be managed...don't stress out about the money..it isn't worth it...and believe me I've been there so many times I can't even count anymore!

Take care!

Holycow