Stores With "No Public Bathroom"

[Cannot_Wait_4Disney]

When mine had to go and I got flack from the clerk I just said this. "Look. I'd love to stand here and waste another minute arguing with you, but I don't have that luxury. It's coming and I can't stop it. Either it goes Bawoooosh into your toilet or Bawooooosh all over your floor. Make your choice." They wisely chose toilet.

You told the clerk that either s/he let you use the toilet or you were going to let your child crap/pee on their floor.

I never told the clerk I was going to "let" my child crap/pee on the floor.

"Look. I'd love to stand here and waste another minute arguing with you, but I don't have that luxury. It's coming and I can't stop it. Either it goes Bawoooosh into your toilet or Bawooooosh all over your floor. Make your choice." .

Nowhere in there does it say Hay Mrs or Mr. Clerk, I'm going to "let" my child crap/pee on the floor. Nowhere.

. Any statement that has an "or else" part to it is a threat..

To prove this false, I need only come up with one statement that has an "or else part to it that is not a threat.

"Mr. Smith. You can choose to go to Walt Disney World Tomorrow, or else you can choose not to go to Walt Disney World tomorrow. The choice is yours."

Well that proves it false.

 

[eliza61]

When mine had to go and I got flack from the clerk I just said this. "Look. I'd love to stand here and waste another minute arguing with you, but I don't have that luxury. It's coming and I can't stop it. Either it goes Bawoooosh into your toilet or Bawooooosh all over your floor. Make your choice." They wisely chose toilet.

Lol. And i would have called the cops, public urinating is illegal in my city. so basically when you don't get your way you let your kids be disgusting.

And we wonder how kids get entitlement issues.

 

[declansdad]

When mine had to go and I got flack from the clerk I just said this. "Look. I'd love to stand here and waste another minute arguing with you, but I don't have that luxury. It's coming and I can't stop it. Either it goes Bawoooosh into your toilet or Bawooooosh all over your floor. Make your choice." They wisely chose toilet.

What does the bolded part of your post mean if it's not a threat that your kid will go on the floor if they don't get to the toilet?

 

[eliza61]

What does the bolded part of your post mean if it's not a threat that your kid will go on the floor if they don't get to the toilet?

It was definitely a threat. it was done specifically to get her way.

 

[Cannot_Wait_4Disney]

What does the bolded part of your post mean if it's not a threat that your kid will go on the floor if they don't get to the toilet?

Try reading "it's coming and I can't stop it" rather than quoting out of context and figure that out for yourself.

 

[Cannot_Wait_4Disney]

It was definitely a threat. it was done specifically to get her way.

One gratuitous assertion deserves another in retort.

It was definitely not. And you're just saying it was to be argumentative.

 

[Luvchefmic]

I never told the clerk I was going to "let" my child crap/pee on the floor.



Nowhere in there does it say Hay Mrs or Mr. Clerk, I'm going to "let" my child crap/pee on the floor. Nowhere.



To prove this false, I need only come up with one statement that has an "or else part to it that is not a threat.

"Mr. Smith. You can choose to go to Walt Disney World Tomorrow, or else you can choose not to go to Walt Disney World tomorrow. The choice is yours."

Well that proves it false.

So what does Bawooosh mean ? Oh wait the key word is " let " ie you had no control of the situation and now it is someone else's problem...got it.

 

[kaytieeldr]

Recently she had delivered their mail, picked up a couple things to purchase and put them down on the counter and then asked if she could please use the restroom while she was there. The clerk said no, "no public bathroom." Really? She delivers your mail and you refuse her the use of your restroom? She walked out without making her purchase and hasn't purchased anything there since.

Her decision to not purchase. Yes, though - really.

I mean, I understand a small store or business wouldn't want every single customer to use the restroom, but for my DIL bathrooms are "few and far between" on her mail route and to be told she couldn't use the restroom IMO was ridiculous.

Restrooms are few and far between for many drivers. Zero reason an exception should have been made for your DIL because she delivers [anything] to the store. As many others in this thread have advised, surely she's not the only mail carrier to need a restroom on this route. What do the othrrs do?

But, I have traveled quite a lot in the United States and I have never, ever been to a gas station that doesn't have a public restroom.

So are there no gas stations (supermarkets, hotels, restaurants, police/fire stations, government buildings) nearby or anywhere on the route?

It's just too bad they feel they have to tell everyone "no, you can't use the restroom" because of that.

Heck, I even understand them maybe not wanting to allow people to use it because of the added cost. Toilet tissue, soap and water aren't free. But I would have no problem handing over a couple of dollars to cover the cost of those items if I was in dire need of a restroom.

How much would you fork over to pay for additional cleaning? Because you would doesn't mean everyone would. For a variety of reasons provided

Wow. For a bunch of people who tend toward the liberal for the most part. You know, compassionate, caring, etc or so a lot have said on other topics, you're a tough crowd. Remember humanity and tolerance? I'm a conservative and a big believer in personal responsibility, but I have a lot more compassion for this letter carrier than I'm seeing here. Sometimes you just can't "anticipate". And, I'm sure most of you women (I'm a woman) would just love to carry a potty around for your own use. It's one thing for a small child being trained, but for an adult woman, seriously?

While my two boys were in college, they worked in a local outlet mall in small stores that didn't have bathrooms, but the mall did so when people asked about bathrooms, they were able to direct them to the public one just around the corner. They were also taught to be polite to ALL who came into the store.

We're compassionate. That works both ways. This doesnt sound like an anticipation issue, but more of an opportunity one.

Do I mind the OP's DIL asking the storekeeper if she could use the restroom? No. But, when she was told that she couldn't, that should have been the end of it.

When mine had to go and I got flack from the clerk I just said this. "Look. I'd love to stand here and waste another minute arguing with you, but I don't have that luxury. It's coming and I can't stop it. Either it goes Bawoooosh into your toilet or Bawooooosh all over your floor. Make your choice." They wisely chose toilet.

I did ask politely first. Moreover, I didn't harass, nor threaten the clerk. But by all means, keep trying to make up stuff that you wish to claim I did or claim I could have done when you weren't even there so you can argue some more.

In the time it took you to formulate and utter this thought, you could have picked up your child and probably been out of the shop.[/QUOTE]

 

[Hrhpd]

Try reading "it's coming and I can't stop it" rather than quoting out of context and figure that out for yourself.

You had a choice to scoop up your child and race out before they crapped or peed on the floor. So yes, you are allowing your child to stand there "bawoosh" on the floor. You apparently still had time to threaten the clerk and still more time to make it to the bathroom when s/he did cave to your threat. So, you still had a couple of minutes to get your child out of there.

It wouldn't go all over the floor if you are holding your child. Your child's clothing and yourself would act as a barrier.

You had a choice. A choice you may not like, but you had a preferable choice than allowing your child to stand there and pee/crap on the floor.

So yes, if your child crapped/peed on the floor, it was entirely your choice to allow him/her to crap/pee on the floor.

From Miriam Webster Dictionary

threaten
verb threat·en \ˈthre-tən\
: to say that you will harm someone or do something unpleasant or unwanted (allow your child to bawooosh on the floor) especially in order to make someone do what you want (use the bathroom even though the clerk told you no.)

Red text is mine.

 

[kaytieeldr]

Try reading "it's coming and I can't stop it" rather than quoting out of context and figure that out for yourself.

The the next, sensible words out of your mouth should have been, "can you please get me a mop and bucket?"
It certainly waited to bawoooosh until you

• had this interchange
• convinced the clerk to see things your way
• proceeded to the restroom - unless you were standing at it
• got your child in, and had clothing moved enough so as not to soil

 

[bcwife76]

Your DIL shouldn't be doing personal shopping while she is working.

As for the bathrooms, their store their rules.

She was getting a snack, she wasn't doing her grocery shopping on company time. Geez.

 

[Mkrop]

Try reading "it's coming and I can't stop it" rather than quoting out of context and figure that out for yourself.

You certainly could have stopped it. You pick up your child or usher your child along, you do what has to be done, not expect someone else to violate their store policy to accommodate your demands...since you seem to be balking at the word threat even though that is exactly what your statement was.

 

[luvsJack]

How many of you honestly hear your small child say "I gotta go NOW" and had time to run to another store.

If the pp's child really had to go that bad most reasonable people would see it as an emergency and let the child go.

 

[declansdad]

Try reading "it's coming and I can't stop it" rather than quoting out of context and figure that out for yourself.

Than why not simply say it it that way instead of making an implied threat? Since pretty much everyone is reading it the same way as I did, perhaps you should step back and look how it sounds again.

 

[kaytieeldr]

How many of you honestly hear your small child say "I gotta go NOW" and had time to run to another store.

If the pp's child really had to go that bad most reasonable people would see it as an emergency and let the child go.

Not necessarily. Given the option to clean up a mess - or better yet, provide the parent with the cleaning supplies - or losing my job for violating company rules/policies, well...

 

[JanaDee]

Not necessarily. Given the option to clean up a mess - or better yet, provide the parent with the cleaning supplies - or losing my job for violating company rules/policies, well...

Do you have kids? Are you around small children often?

 

[crz4mm2]

I remember going to the local shoe store when I was pregnant with my first. I had horrible all day sickness... You guessed it. I knew I had to have a toilet. Asked if I could use theirs. The clerk said "no public bathroom". I said "I have to puke. really."
They let me use the bathroom

 

[luvsJack]

Not necessarily. Given the option to clean up a mess - or better yet, provide the parent with the cleaning supplies - or losing my job for violating company rules/policies, well...

If your employer fires you for letting one small child go pee, I would say your employer was looking for a reason.

And, btw, if I was the parent and ypu handed me the cleaning supplies I would throw them back at you. A child cannot hold it or sometimes doesn't say anything until its too late, to treat a customer as though it was done on purpose its unreasonable and the worst customer service possible.

Like I said, most reasonable adults would realize a child can have an emergency and can reasonably make an exception.

 

[Mkrop]

How many of you honestly hear your small child say "I gotta go NOW" and had time to run to another store.

If the pp's child really had to go that bad most reasonable people would see it as an emergency and let the child go.

I have heard it...and I would have ask politely if we could use their restroom, if they could see the true emergency I was dealing with and allowed it even if it was against store policy then I would be very grateful. If they didnt I would hightail it out of there to find a place to go but that would be my problem not the store clerk who said no. I might be frustrated at myself for not stopping sooner but I would not be angry with the store clerk.

I worked in a small retail pharmacy as a pharmacy tech in a strip mall. The only bathroom was in the pharmacy right next to the drugs. Even employees had to make sure they asked to go to the bathroom back there and the pharmacist had to be present, not on the floor saying helping a customer find cough meds. As a tech I was not allowed to have anyone back there. I turned many away. In the 4 years I work there the only time I saw someone allowed into that bathroom was one very pregnant mom with the toddler doing the potty dance and one lady with her elderly mom who was nausea. Both of these decisions were made by the owner, a pharmacist. None of the other pharmacists would allow it.

 

[piccolopat]

JanaDee - why would you expect anyone to risk losing their job for allowing a child to use a non-public restroom? If a parent couldn't anticipate a bathroom break in advance and their child had one of those "got to go now" moments, they should immediately leave the premises and if an accident happens, it happens outside, not in the store. If your small child can't hold it long enough to get to a public facility, there are wonderful products on the market called pull-ups.