Spin-Off of Today's Poll: Do You and Your SO Sleep in the Same Bed?

[Meriweather]

We have always slept together (other than 2 years when his snoring was too bad and he wouldn't get a sleep test). We have a king size bed and he has a CPAP machine and all is good.
When we first got married we slept in a double bed until we got a house and then went to king and it has been that way ever since.
We can do a queen on vacations.

 

[ronandannette]

I’m Catholic, so when I go on vacation with a girlfriend, I sleep in a separate bed (since we wouldn’t be married). I think my past girlfriends appreciated it because they knew I wanted to spend time with them and focus on doing vacation things instead of other things.

As a married couple, it’s been a long, long time since our out intimate life existed solely late at night or early in the morning. It’s not about actually “going to bed”. A comfortable sleep situation is an entirely different issue.

We’ve been married for 31 years and haven’t shared a bed in…a long time (I can’t remember it’s been so long). My husband sleeps in his man cave on a cot (totally his choice!) and I sleep on the king size bed in my/ our room. I work nights so we wouldn’t really sleep together anyway if he did migrate back to the bed.
We shared a queen at ASMo for 10 nights in June and survived!
I don’t know why sharing a bed to sleep is such a big deal. You’re literally unconscious when you’re sleeping! Who cares who is/ isn’t there.

It’s quite a big deal for some, who have difficulty being comfortable outside specific conditions.

 

[leebee]

As a married couple, it’s been a long, long time since our out intimate life existed solely late at night or early in the morning. It’s not about actually “going to bed”. A comfortable sleep situation is an entirely different issue.

You hit the nail on the head here! During the spring/summer of 2020 (1st year of the pandemic) I moved into the guest room as I was teaching/working remotely. I was up at the crack of dawn prepping for lectures, and up really late at night, odd hours zooming with others, answering student email, etc. I had no dedicated office space so started using the spare bedroom, and sometimes it was just easier to sleep there, too. DD got all flustered. She was an adult at the time and completely freaked out, worrying about our marriage/relationship, etc. As @ronandannette put it, it's not actually about "going to bed," hahaha. Also, the older I get, the more I understand changes in sleep patterns, different temperature needs, etc. Except for that summer, DH and I have had a queen or king bed. We currently have a king, but the "blanket/covers" arrangements are complicated and vary by season!

 

[Buzz Rules]

As a married couple, it’s been a long, long time since our out intimate life existed solely late at night or early in the morning. It’s not about actually “going to bed”. A comfortable sleep situation is an entirely different issue.

I get that. I was just stating about when I use a separate bed personally.

 

[luvnwdwgal]

My husband and I have always slept in the same bed. We’ve had a California King size mattress for most of our almost 41 years of marriage.

 

[NAB]

Always share a bed with my husband. He used to work shift work and not be there some nights . I prefer him beside me….lol

We do have 2 empty rooms if there comes a time I change my mind though. Parents alway slept in one bed .

Bed is Queen size.

 

[Forevermarypoppins]

NO and it works for us!
He snores insanely loud all night. I toss and turn no matter.
This way we don't interrupt each other sleep ( when we do sleep)

 

[Colleen27]

We sleep together but in a king size bed with separate covers, because he's always hot and I'm always cold, so we do have plenty of space of our own. After 20 years, I've apparently set up a no-win situation - the nest is slowly emptying so I can go in a different room if he's snoring or watching some obnoxious action movie to fall asleep to, the kind where you have to crank the volume to hear the dialogue and then the explosion scenes rattle the windows, but I find I don't sleep as soundly when he's not there. So either he disrupts my sleep with his presence or with his absence.

 

[Sinder]

Dh and I share a bed sometimes. I usually end up leaving in the middle of the night due to his loud breathing and snoring. Lately though we’ve been sleeping separately.
I honestly can’t wait until my dd moves out so I can sleep in her room.

 

[RedAngie]

I’m Catholic, so when I go on vacation with a girlfriend, I sleep in a separate bed (since we wouldn’t be married). I think my past girlfriends appreciated it because they knew I wanted to spend time with them and focus on doing vacation things instead of other things.

Yes, but do you get separate hotel rooms?

My parents went on a weekend trip to Wildwood NJ before they were married and my father emphasized to me that they got separate rooms. I must have heard the story 100 times.

This was the same weekend where the Great Ketchup on Scrambled Eggs Debate arose. I posted about it a year or two ago.

 

[ShirikiUtundu]

I have a split king.

 

[Suprize2017]

We have separate rooms and have for about 15 years. I sometimes miss the snuggle time before I fall asleep, but that’s about all. He’s always hot, I’m always cold. He snores and I’m a light sleeper. I go to bed early and wake up early. He goes to bed late. He used to be a volunteer firefighter and if his call alarm went off in the middle of the night it would scare the life out of me. He’d be off on his call and I’d be wide awake still trying to ge my heart rate down. I’m a poor sleeper anyway, so being awakened by him, in addition to my own sleep/wake issues, just made it impossible for a good night sleep.

 

[soccerdad72]

Yes, we've had the same queen bed since we got married (nearly 25 years ago now). We're probably due for a new mattress, but we've always liked this one.

 

[Buzz Rules]

Yes, but do you get separate hotel rooms?

My parents went on a weekend trip to Wildwood NJ before they were married and my father emphasized to me that they got separate rooms. I must have heard the story 100 times.

This was the same weekend where the Great Ketchup on Scrambled Eggs Debate arose. I posted about it a year or two ago.

If I go on vacation with just my girlfriend, no. If she comes on vacation with my immediate family, then yes.
Edit: I should clarify, this was a past relationship, not current. But I still follow that thinking in general.

 

[loves to dive]

Right now we have a king bed both at home and in the RV and sleep together. There were a number of years we had a queen bed and I would get up in the middle of the night and go to a different room because hubby's snoring was so bad it would wake the dead. After a while our sleep schedules got reversed and I would go to bed earlier then him so he slept in a different room. We would still sleep in the same bed if we were travelling but I wouldn't get any sleep. Then, for some reason, I got tired of us sleeping in separate rooms so I said I was going to try to get used to his snoring. I somehow did, there are still the occasional nights when I can't sleep so I get up or he can't sleep so he gets up. I have no problem sleeping without him when I'm on vacation without him and he can sleep anywhere. Oh, and our little yorkie sleeps in the bed with us, she sleeps on my side though. If I get up in the middle of the night, she gets up with me. If he gets up, she runs back and forth between us, spending most of the night with me.

 

[prairie_girl]

Separate beds, separate rooms. It’s wonderful.

When we first got together, we shared a bed and I suffered every single night. My husband is a twitcher, his legs were jumping all night long and keeping me up. Add that to my sleeping troubles, and I was barely sleeping.

When we moved this last time, we looked for a place with two bedrooms, two bathrooms (to allow for his medical equipment).

 

[CdnCarrie]

Yes we share a bed.

 

[Mysterian]

I'm single and I've never shared a bed with a married couple. CPAPS, snoring, and blanket hogging, times two? No thanks- and save the intimacy for the laundry room like civilized adults. It's a burden to have to be the sole paragon of virtue around here.

 

[E&Cmom]

We have always slept in the same bed . Have bad the same Queen bed since we have been together. I do work night at time so I am not always there. We sleep well together so I could not imagine separate beds.

 

[greeneyedchick]

We sleep in separate beds in separate rooms. We've been married for over 20 years.