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Camille - yes it was Jan Brady. 
So Dad update:
The renal stats are because of his bone infection - once the amputation is done, we are hoping things will be in the mend. I am just anxious for it to be over and here that good news is on the way.
My Dad had an ulcer at the bottom of his left foot big toe that started in 2002. They could not get it under control and thought they would do a bi-pass on his leg to improve the circulation to save his toe.
The bi-pass was a total disaster and his leg never healed. Spasms, wound opening etc. I never got why they would cut him from groin to heel to save a toe but they did and it never was the same. The friggin toe never even healed.
FF to 2003 and he has lost all his money to a woman I calle Big T!ts. He had married her against everyones judgement in 1999 and sure enough - he had gotten sicker, had heart surgeries to top off everything else and she gambled hih house, business and saving away. Over $1,800,000 total - gone. By the time he found out - she left a Dear John letter at the hospital and moved to Oklahoma.
He now is renting a small apartment near my home and on Halloween 2004 decided to try and put a tree stand up. Not a go9od idea and he fell - 15 feet and shattered his heel. Hundreds of pieces. Left foot again.
That led to multiple surgeries - new wounds opening to fix old ones and just a roulette table of things and the foot - has had a wound the size of a 50 cent piece - open in it ever since. Sometimes shallower, sometimes a bit smaller but they kept hoping they could save the leg/foot if he stayed off it. If he did this or that. Amputation was always the last resort for my Dad. His grandmother died form gangreen due to an infection from Diabetes after there was no more leg to amputate.
So today, they found a massive bone infection and will schedule amputation for next week. It sounds like they will take it below the knee - half way down. They won't know till they open it up.
I have set boundaries with my dad - he got back from the Phillipines in September after being there a year and marrying a woman and I did not let him move in here with no plans of moving out. I know my Dad and although I love him, he is not someone who will change his status quo if he gets comfy.
He is one of those people who never takes any responsibility for some of his lifes choices. Like Big T!ts. It's always "she did this and she did that." While it may be true she was a nasty and vile human being, he went in with his weiner thinking for him. Never stopped to think why would his parents and children and everyone he knew hate her. Why would his entire business clientele start going down the cr@pper when she became office manager? Why not one person could find a single redeeming quality about her. That is a complete fact.
So now I sit here and know I will help my sister move him. He literally just moved out of her place last weekend into a home he was sharing. He cannot do for himself and she cannot be placed in the position to do it for him. I am fighting the guilt of wondering if the move he just did and packing most of his stuff on his own - led to this.
The truth though is this is along time comming and God willing, this might be the start of a new life for him. Maybe it will ease the constant pain he has been under and let him have the mobility he has lacked. Maybe he will be able to go hunting again. There are many people who have amputations who lead a life after better than their current situation.
I also know that losing a limb is one of the hardest things people go through. That their can be phantom pains and truthfully, I cannot imagine looking at my leg today and having a piece of you that you know as well as anything...something you have been born with and lived with for 61 years...just gone.
I can tell you it is another shot in the arm for getting my life in order so I do not have diabetes if I can help it.
Anyway - I will keep you all updated.
His wife is still in the Phillipines and I know this is hard on her as well as him. They met via computer in 2005, he went there for 2 months in 2006 and stayed in communication and contact until he went there in 2008 and they married. There is paperwork issues getting her here but my sister is hoping with the new issues of his health - it can expedite the process.
Strange possibly meeting someone who is married to my father that I have never met.
This whole life seems strange lately. I need to go to WDW for a dose of reality!
Kay - I feel better now. Thanks!
So Dad update:
The renal stats are because of his bone infection - once the amputation is done, we are hoping things will be in the mend. I am just anxious for it to be over and here that good news is on the way.
My Dad had an ulcer at the bottom of his left foot big toe that started in 2002. They could not get it under control and thought they would do a bi-pass on his leg to improve the circulation to save his toe.
The bi-pass was a total disaster and his leg never healed. Spasms, wound opening etc. I never got why they would cut him from groin to heel to save a toe but they did and it never was the same. The friggin toe never even healed.
FF to 2003 and he has lost all his money to a woman I calle Big T!ts. He had married her against everyones judgement in 1999 and sure enough - he had gotten sicker, had heart surgeries to top off everything else and she gambled hih house, business and saving away. Over $1,800,000 total - gone. By the time he found out - she left a Dear John letter at the hospital and moved to Oklahoma.
He now is renting a small apartment near my home and on Halloween 2004 decided to try and put a tree stand up. Not a go9od idea and he fell - 15 feet and shattered his heel. Hundreds of pieces. Left foot again.
That led to multiple surgeries - new wounds opening to fix old ones and just a roulette table of things and the foot - has had a wound the size of a 50 cent piece - open in it ever since. Sometimes shallower, sometimes a bit smaller but they kept hoping they could save the leg/foot if he stayed off it. If he did this or that. Amputation was always the last resort for my Dad. His grandmother died form gangreen due to an infection from Diabetes after there was no more leg to amputate.
So today, they found a massive bone infection and will schedule amputation for next week. It sounds like they will take it below the knee - half way down. They won't know till they open it up.
I have set boundaries with my dad - he got back from the Phillipines in September after being there a year and marrying a woman and I did not let him move in here with no plans of moving out. I know my Dad and although I love him, he is not someone who will change his status quo if he gets comfy.
He is one of those people who never takes any responsibility for some of his lifes choices. Like Big T!ts. It's always "she did this and she did that." While it may be true she was a nasty and vile human being, he went in with his weiner thinking for him. Never stopped to think why would his parents and children and everyone he knew hate her. Why would his entire business clientele start going down the cr@pper when she became office manager? Why not one person could find a single redeeming quality about her. That is a complete fact.
So now I sit here and know I will help my sister move him. He literally just moved out of her place last weekend into a home he was sharing. He cannot do for himself and she cannot be placed in the position to do it for him. I am fighting the guilt of wondering if the move he just did and packing most of his stuff on his own - led to this.
The truth though is this is along time comming and God willing, this might be the start of a new life for him. Maybe it will ease the constant pain he has been under and let him have the mobility he has lacked. Maybe he will be able to go hunting again. There are many people who have amputations who lead a life after better than their current situation.
I also know that losing a limb is one of the hardest things people go through. That their can be phantom pains and truthfully, I cannot imagine looking at my leg today and having a piece of you that you know as well as anything...something you have been born with and lived with for 61 years...just gone.
I can tell you it is another shot in the arm for getting my life in order so I do not have diabetes if I can help it.
Anyway - I will keep you all updated.
His wife is still in the Phillipines and I know this is hard on her as well as him. They met via computer in 2005, he went there for 2 months in 2006 and stayed in communication and contact until he went there in 2008 and they married. There is paperwork issues getting her here but my sister is hoping with the new issues of his health - it can expedite the process.
Strange possibly meeting someone who is married to my father that I have never met.
This whole life seems strange lately. I need to go to WDW for a dose of reality!
Kay - I feel better now. Thanks!
You have my prayers going up for your dad and your family.
) napkins to wipe your fingers off! Nice touch!
who gets a side job entertaining kids after she smokes 3 packs out back by her plastic flamingo’s over looking the local watering hole. I think the idea is awesome for kids…but could they not find some hot, younger tiki dancing woman to teach the luau instead of Grandma Gertie who has to hike her 42 Longs up where they are supposed to be under her not so attractive MuMu? I mean seriously! If she greeted you off the plane in Hahhhvaiieeee…how much would the tourism drop?
Why oh why did you camera have to be dead!?! 
