Any chance that one task can be given/traded to a coworker to fully free him up to move while retaining the job he already has? It’s nice to have that stability of income while relocating and not having to juggle interviews, start date, and new job training on top of all the hassles of moving is a plus. I’m not sure where you are now, but keeping the salary from a high-cost-of-living area while moving to a lower-COL area can be advantageous as well. My husband also had a 99% remote job that only required him to show up in-person for a couple hours once a month. In order to get the green light from his company to move out of state, he agreed to fly home once a month so nothing would change regarding his in-person availability. (Once we moved his company never found it necessary to bring him back for that monthly task anyway.) Maybe an arrangement like that could work for your husband.
Is it possible to leave the dogs with a friend or family member for the first 3-6 months so you’ll have an easier time finding a rental? Also, you may have better luck renting a house from a private owner over an apartment complex that’s likely to have stricter pet restrictions. FWIW, we relocated 3 years ago to a place we’d never even visited based on it “looking good on paper” and we’ve been extremely happy with that decision. So, I do think it’s possible to be right in thinking a certain area would be a better fit for the lifestyle you want, you just have to be very honest about what you need to be happy and the pros and cons of the new location. But, I *do* think it’s wise to rent for a while first just to be sure before you commit to buying. Plus, I wouldn’t want to be house hunting from a different state and potentially having to buy a house I couldn’t first see in person, and especially not in the current market where everything is so competitive and prices are so inflated.