Sorta OT...Bridal Shower on Mother's Day

[Bren's Mom]

I wouldn't plan anything for Mother's Day until you call the BRIDE'S mother.

OP, I had the same suggestion you made....although I would have said a brunch...on Saturday morning. If your nephew/his future wife aren't IN the friend's wedding what difference would it make? (Except that the friend can't attend obviously. And no doubt wouldn't attend the next day either.)

I would not attend a shower on Mother's Day.

 

[malibuconlee]

I wouldn't plan anything for Mother's Day until you call the BRIDE'S mother.

OP, I had the same suggestion you made....although I would have said a brunch...on Saturday morning. If your nephew/his future wife aren't IN the friend's wedding what difference would it make? (Except that the friend can't attend obviously. And no doubt wouldn't attend the next day either.)

I would not attend a shower on Mother's Day.

The bride is in the wedding they are coming to town for. Anything on Saturday will detract from that bride's day. I know we had a VERY early start to the day for hair and make-up and pre-wedding pics for the last wedding I was in.

 

[Pigeon]

Under the circumstances, I'd skip the shower altogether, as a pp suggested.

I would not have or attend a shower on Mother's Day, and if the couple can't make a shower at any other time, then I'd just figure it's not to be.

 

[Bren's Mom]

The bride is in the wedding they are coming to town for. Anything on Saturday will detract from that bride's day. I know we had a VERY early start to the day for hair and make-up and pre-wedding pics for the last wedding I was in.

Oh, I missed that she was IN the wedding. I totally agree then, that Saturday is out.

I'd also wonder...will there be a brunch for wedding attendees on Sunday? Around here most people have them.

 

[dzorn]

I would not attend a shower on Mother's Day.

Denise in MI

 

[auntpoly]

There's just no one "right" answer. It depends on the people.

Personally, if I was family or really, really close friends I'd go whenever it was no matter what. And I wouldn't mind if we had to do a Skype shower. It's not tacky if all involved are in agreement.

But if it was my hairdresser, or some old college roommate I hadn't seen in years or something like that I just wouldn't go.

You can invite people and people need to feel free to pass on it if they don't want to come. Easy.

 

[klj27]

It seems that they have very limited choices and special circumstances. I will say that I had a baby shower on Mothers Day and it is very embarrassing to me now. Mothers Day was never a huge day for us growing up and it didn't even occur to me that it would be an inconvenience to people. Now that I am older and wiser I feel bad that I took Mothers away from their day.

 

[eyor44]

When I had my first baby, my mother's friends (who knew me since I was a baby) wanted to have a baby shower for me in Mississippi. I lived in Texas at the time, 9 hours away. I picked a weekend that I could come back home and that is when they had the shower.
I really appreciated their thoughtfulness, so I made a point of getting back home for it.