Somthing kind of important, but trivial

[Joanna71985]

From what I've heard, they don't do the little dance anymore

 

[SueM in MN]

From what I've heard, they don't do the little dance anymore

They did the dance in April when we went.
It would be possible for a child to be at the table for picture coloring and then leave the table before the dance starts.

When we went, the kids were coloring at the table After a while, a CM came out and told all the children to take their pictures back to their moms and dads, then come back to the table. Some kids just stayed with their parents. When the children returned to the table, 2 CMs taught them the dance before Rapunzel and Flynn came out.

the kids at the table danced with Rapunzel and Flynn, then the children were told to line up at the ramp to the right of the stage. They wer brought up, group by group to see Rapunzel and Flynn on stage. You should be aware though, that most characters touch the kids when posing with them.

 

[carrie6466]

She has no problem touching if she is the initiator. It's the 'surprise' of someone touching her unexpectedly that is the problem. She startles very, very easily.

Shewill go up to Mickey and hug him. Face characters she is a bit more apprehensive about, but she will approach most of them at her own pace. Most characters seem to be kind of aware of this and so far, no one has overtly grabbed for her when she was hesitant about approaching them. They kind of let her take her time and go to them.

Some she won't go near at all like Jiminey Cricket, the Mad Hatter or Rafiki. At 1900 PF breakfast, I actually had to go to the Mad Hatter and ask him to skip our table. She liked Jasmine, but wouldn't go to Aladdin. He knew enough and kind of stood away while we took a pic with her and Jasmine, so he was in it, but not touching her in any way.

I think people are generally sensitive to it. It's obvious in the way she flinches away when someone gets too close to her.

Thanks for the link to the video. I'm going to check it out and then show it to her.

It's hard for me to explain this without it sounding kind of nuts. She's a mostly 'normal' 7/8 yr old girl, who just doesn't like people. She wants to be with other people, be friends, etc., but she doesn't know how. We are working on it. Social skills classes are helping immensly, but we're nowhere near done with that yet.

I feel the need to say also that she has never bit a complete stranger, because that would involve touching them. Me, yes, her 'friend' on a few occasions. When she's overly frustrated and overly stimulated and doesn't know how to react, it happens on occasion. While I am teaching her it's totally unacceptable, it is an occasional reaction. It's gotten much better over the years. The point is I don't know what would happen and I don't want to take a chance with either her or anyone else.

 

[Sandy321]

Carrie - you are doing the best job - loving and caring for your child!

My son bit - - a lot! It was so hard for me to stop it, to "fix" it - it was when he was in preschool, I worked in the infant room, he was in the toddler room - we got sent home because he bit someone - I took him and I was in tears, I was so mad that I couldnt stop this behavior -

the one thing that stopped his biting? Hearing aids... believe it or not, once he was diagnosed and had aids, and was put in the total communication school, the biting disappeared - (I'm sure it was a combination of things, from outgrowing, to being able to communicate other than with his mouth/ ie biting)

but for your child, I just wanted you to know, I understand how hard it is to deal with something you really cant control.


Hope you do have a magical time - and I do hope you come back and report on the thread how things went!!

 

[carrie6466]

Carrie - you are doing the best job - loving and caring for your child!

My son bit - - a lot! It was so hard for me to stop it, to "fix" it - it was when he was in preschool, I worked in the infant room, he was in the toddler room - we got sent home because he bit someone - I took him and I was in tears, I was so mad that I couldnt stop this behavior -

the one thing that stopped his biting? Hearing aids... believe it or not, once he was diagnosed and had aids, and was put in the total communication school, the biting disappeared - (I'm sure it was a combination of things, from outgrowing, to being able to communicate other than with his mouth/ ie biting)

but for your child, I just wanted you to know, I understand how hard it is to deal with something you really cant control.


Hope you do have a magical time - and I do hope you come back and report on the thread how things went!!

Thanks Actually the first two things they checked were her vision and her hearing. They checked the hearing because she had/has speech problems. Part of it is a definite communication issue. Speech pathologist tells me that behavior will improve as she learns to tell us she's not comfortable or she's mad or she needs help, etc.

I'll come back and let you know, sure