Antonia
DIS Veteran
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- May 25, 2000
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Well, she has been here about 9 months I think and I have been amazed at her lack of initiative.
People donated furniture to her and already her kids have torn up the sofa by jumping on it. It was a pretty nice sofa. They still have one other donated sofa.
She has been unable to obtain credit here. She nor her husband have ever had any credit - even in their homeland. They lived with his parents, drove their car and had the use of a housekeeper and nanny provided by his parents. He has never held a job longer than 6 months. She is working as a nurse. He is very laid back about looking for a job. He has some college, but never finished a degree. I think he may have changed courses of study several times.
They have no transportation and expect people here to always provide rides. They only use a taxi if they are desperate.
Today they asked to me to take them to look for a car. I did and they were turned down over and over because they have no credit, one income and a family of four, haven't been here a year, no money saved towards a down payment, etc.
Well, I showed them a car that my friend has - her mother just went into assisted living. The car is about 12 years old, a one-owner light blue Buick with about 30,000 miles on it and new tires. My friend was willing to allow them to pay her $100/month and sell it for $500 and they WOULD NOT TAKE HER UP ON IT because the husband said he would feel like an old person driving that car - not SPORTY enough!!!!!!!
I have done a lot for them, but I am through with them. I told them that winter is coming and they will need a car. The husband says he would rather WALK than feel like an old person. He wants something sporty or a mini van. I told them they should think more about functionality and basic transportation than how the car looks. My words fell on deaf ears. They are too good to ride in an older car!!!
He actually said that it is hard in America and his hands have blisters FROM TAKING CARE OF A 2BR/1 BATH APT with a dishwasher!!! He dones not even have to do yard work. He said it is hard in America because Americans do everything for themselves. I think he is used to being waited on by the housekeeper and nanny. Just ahd to share this. I can recall the days that DH and I drove a used Rambler!! How did we ever live through it???
If these two had arrived at Ellis Island they would have been looking for a bell hop and Tiffany towncar.
People donated furniture to her and already her kids have torn up the sofa by jumping on it. It was a pretty nice sofa. They still have one other donated sofa.
She has been unable to obtain credit here. She nor her husband have ever had any credit - even in their homeland. They lived with his parents, drove their car and had the use of a housekeeper and nanny provided by his parents. He has never held a job longer than 6 months. She is working as a nurse. He is very laid back about looking for a job. He has some college, but never finished a degree. I think he may have changed courses of study several times.
They have no transportation and expect people here to always provide rides. They only use a taxi if they are desperate.
Today they asked to me to take them to look for a car. I did and they were turned down over and over because they have no credit, one income and a family of four, haven't been here a year, no money saved towards a down payment, etc.
Well, I showed them a car that my friend has - her mother just went into assisted living. The car is about 12 years old, a one-owner light blue Buick with about 30,000 miles on it and new tires. My friend was willing to allow them to pay her $100/month and sell it for $500 and they WOULD NOT TAKE HER UP ON IT because the husband said he would feel like an old person driving that car - not SPORTY enough!!!!!!!
I have done a lot for them, but I am through with them. I told them that winter is coming and they will need a car. The husband says he would rather WALK than feel like an old person. He wants something sporty or a mini van. I told them they should think more about functionality and basic transportation than how the car looks. My words fell on deaf ears. They are too good to ride in an older car!!!
He actually said that it is hard in America and his hands have blisters FROM TAKING CARE OF A 2BR/1 BATH APT with a dishwasher!!! He dones not even have to do yard work. He said it is hard in America because Americans do everything for themselves. I think he is used to being waited on by the housekeeper and nanny. Just ahd to share this. I can recall the days that DH and I drove a used Rambler!! How did we ever live through it???
If these two had arrived at Ellis Island they would have been looking for a bell hop and Tiffany towncar.
There are a lot of people like that around my area. They are a disgrace to honest, hardworking imigrants who come here to build a better life for their families. 
That is unbelieveable. I don't blame you for not wanting to help them anymore. 
