Okay - preliminary "new plans" since the changes with DH's schedule....
Day 1 - arrive in the evening - nothing planned, check in at resort and get kids settled in since I will be solo parenting...

Please pray for us.
Day 2 - DHS - only table service I have planned this day is Sci Fi Diner - the kids love it... this could change though... it was DH's request but since he won't be there...

And he said when he got there he didn't need to go to this park...

Plan on leaving this park before too late in the evening and get back to Poly and watch fireworks, etc. from our room. Let the kids swim if they want and if it's not too cold!
Day 3 - This is our MVMCP day - I'm going to do it... we are going to go to the MK in the morning and enjoy the predicted low crowds. Then I'd like to leave and take the kids to 1900 Park Fare for earliest dinner we can get so we can get back before the party begins and enjoy all the party has to offer. We had previously toyed with doing something else during the day but I'm not sure what that would be?
Day 4 - Epcot for the majority of the day - no table service plans here as of yet... then head to DHS for Fantasmic - hope to do a dinner package at Hollywood and Vine and then after Fantasmic, catch the xmas light show. Trying to fit this in - we've never seen Fantasmic

and since DH didn't want to go to this park on his days... I need to fit it in and this seemed like a good spot. The kids and I won't have a hard time leaving Epcot early... they don't like the World Showcase as much as future world and we are coming back to Epcot with DH.
Day 5 - Animal Kingdom - no table service plans yet - just enjoy the park from rope drop til early afternoon. By then, my kids will be ready to go back and swim at the resort. I do plan on catching the Lion King Show though... must do for me this trip and DH won't care if he sees it or not. Hang out at the resort when we get back and wait for DH to arrive!
Day 6 - Back to Animal Kingdom for breakfast at Tuskers. Spend the day in the park doing repeat requests by the kids and whatever DH would like to do. Dinner at Boma's that night. Back to resort to catch fireworks over MK.
Day 7 - Epcot - Table service plans - "I think" is to get a candlelight processional package for Le Cellier (lunch), go to the 5 p.m. CP showing, go to Cape May's Cafe at Beach Club for dinner and back to Epcot for Illuminations. If we hit rope drop, I believe we can get DH's favorite rides in - Soarin, Mission Space, Test track, and he loves the golf ball... er... I mean Spaceship Earth.

Then we can take our time in World Showcase and so forth.
Day 8 - Magic Kingdom - ROPE DROP. And take a breather at O'hana's for dinner sometime in the day.
Day 9 - Fly home...
These are very preliminary - still have some kinks... but I feel good about this. Definitely wanted to save the preferred dining choices my DH requested for when he is there to enjoy them with us.
Do you think my Day 4 is doable - park hopping from Epcot to DHS for Fantasmic / dinner and Osborne lights? Any other suggestions??