So so ANGRY!! - Update: GRRR!!.

[WithDisneySpirit]

I've got fingers and toes crossed!!

 

[Racey]

oh god - that sounds awful. They'd be stuck if you went off work through stress at the moment wouldnt they!!!!!!!!!!

Perhaps getting a union involved will help matters.

And as for changing of the days.... you put your request in before that change in terms so they have to honor it, like you said it's also in your contract so just forget about that as its not a problem.

I treuly cant believe the lame excuses they are coming up with, they are basically trying to find any excuse possible!!!!!

Chin up, stay positive, everytime you close your eyes visualise standing in disney saying your vows and it WILL happen

 

[Beep]

They flatly refused to move on the dates we wanted saying that I wouldn't be productive when I came back as it was a short week blah blah blah.

So we compromised. Well, I say compromised. What I mean is that they agreed to give me 3 weeks (which it says I can have in my contract anyway) and I moved the dates back a week. Now what is really ridiculous is that it means I will be off work for an extra two days thanks to the public holidays so I ended up with more days off for less days annual leave, so they get two days less productivity out of me anyway.

It also means that we will be at Disney for the Christmas week which is something I have always wanted to do, but the downside is the extra cost of the resorts but never mind. We just won't eat for the rest of the year or better still, get rid of the cats!

All sorted, just need to make sure that Randy and Kevin Knox can make the new date. And that Disney can book us in on the new date. And that we can afford it. And that everyone else can make the date. And and and...

Thanks to you all for your support and comments. What is important is that we will be in our favourite place getting married, no matter when it is. It is just SO annoying when people go back on their word and completely &*!% everything up.

 

[padisneyfour]

I am glad it will work out for you....that is awful to go through all that....

 

[Lynn5700]

I am glad everything worked out for you!!!!!

 

[BecBennett]

Well I suppose it's working out, but that is still really sucky!!

I hope it can all be booked in, and all afforded, and and and!!!

 

[IndyBride]

Well, I'm glad things worked out in a way that made you happy!!

 

[Scrap_Vamp]

It's a shame about the extra cost but yay for getting it sorted and being at Disney for Christmas

 

[linzwylie]

Now what is really ridiculous is that it means I will be off work for an extra two days thanks to the public holidays so I ended up with more days off for less days annual leave, so they get two days less productivity out of me anyway.

How bl***y stupid can you get ????????????

well at least you get the time off and can spend christmas in disney !!

Makes you wonder what these people would be capeable of if they actually had brains !!!!!

Linz xxx

 

[meryll83]

At least you got the time off you needed, even if it does mean switching a lot of things round.
Hope all your vendors can make your new date!

We have already booked our Florida holiday, but can't book work holidays until January, hope we don't have any issues!!

 

[orangetiggs]

we had the same problem with df work!! then they told him he wouldnt have a job when we got back!

Some companies are just stupid

 

[JoJo1980]

we had the same problem with df work!! then they told him he wouldnt have a job when we got back!

Some companies are just stupid

OMG! That is terrible!! The thing that gets me is that the managers etc... are supposed to be human too - so what would happen if they were in the same boat!!

Beep, I'm glad you managed to get something sorted and being in disney for christmas is soooo exciting!!! I'm totally jealous of you!! I'd love to go around that time of year. Maybe in a few years we'll get to do a December trip

Luckily, we've had no problems with our works giving us the time off, even though I've only given them a months notice that I wanted 3 weeks off They were fine about it, so someone must have been smiling on me that day

 

[Scrap_Vamp]

I'm so glad I'm a teacher!! Although flights aren't cheap, at least our dates are Value season for accommodation, and only one of us had to sort out the time off work - luckily DF told the Council when he started working a year ago, and they have tentatively held the dates until we could confirm them last week. We also have a bank holiday within our trip, which helps reduce the number of days needed by one!

 

[Beep]

we had the same problem with df work!! then they told him he wouldnt have a job when we got back!

Some companies are just stupid

Sarah, that's terrible. I hope you got it sorted

Well the latest is that they will give me the time off, but they have insisted I take more holiday to cover me to the end of the year so that I'm not back for the days between Christmas and New Year. It's an extra 3 days I have to take that I don't need, but they won't budge.

They also won't give me the 1 extra day I asked for at the beginning of the vacation so that we can fly on the Friday rather than the Saturday. It's ok, but considering I have been there for 4.5 years, have had very little time off, have consistently got an Over-achieved mark at my 6 monthly review and am very motivated you would think they would give me the 1 extra day.

I have changed the date of the wedding as they requested, re-booked the vendors (thankfully they are free) and incurred extra costs.

Surely 1 day wouldn't kill them??!!

Oh well, what I had lost sight of was the fact that we are spending 3 weeks with The Mouse, getting married and will have the most fantastic wedding.

Still, 1 day??

 

[BecBennett]

Yeah, considering that you've really put yourself out to accommodate their stupid policies, the least they could do is give you that extra day...

But you're right, when it comes down to it, you will be spending 3 weeks at the best place in the world, enjoying what is supposed to be the best day of your life.




stupid work...

 

[IndyBride]

What kind of ridiculous people think you can just change the date of your wedding????????????????? Like snap- all done. Granted you were able to but still.... makes me upset that they are so short sighted! This situation will just make it easier for you to say goodbye when the time is right!

 

[jdybnsn]

Beep - only sorry I hadn't read this sooner, but if someone gives you verbal agreement (assuming this was without the clear priviso of it having to be confirmed in writing at a later date), then that is good enough for any employment tribunal in the UK - I would have stuck with it, and face the consequences when you got back.

If they fired you, let me tell you you'd have won at a tribunal hands down because a Judge will look at who is being reasonable and who has acted unreasonable .............and since you initially had permission from you boss and she was WELL aware of your plans, then your company has acted VERY unreasonably indeed !! ...a hundred times more so since you also were arranging a wedding too, let alone a holiday !


Ohh, their treatment of you has so made me mad...even though I am an employer myself ! As has already been said very short sighted indeed because I expect your motivation at work is pretty zero, and likely to be so for a very long time. In my book people can come to work and do a job and get paid...or they can come to work and do a VERY good job and get paid ...either way you pay the same...but the results are very different.

Reading between the lines though it seems the fault lies with you boss, because she had OK'ed it and then I think somewhere up the chain they have said no..... leaving her to furiously back pedal in my opinion.
NO WAY should she becoming to your wedding after that, because even if she was in the wrong in giving you the verbal permission, she should have stood the ground for you, and taken the wrap herself (instead of which she lies about knowing the what date it was etc.) !

Bad boss, bad company .........truly bad behaviour all round ....except from you of course, you've been more than accommodating given the circumstances ! !


Good luck with your wedding plans and chin up girl.