so sad..need a little advice

[belleandthebeast]

So after 11 years of being together as a couple and 8 years of marriage, my BIL decided he doesn't want to be married anymore. He really is a very nice guy. My sister can be very difficult and I think it's finally gotten to him.

I like my BIL very much and was always close to him. I'm very sad for both of them right now. I think their marriage has been falling apart for a while now. My sister suggested counseling to him but he laughed which infuriates me. Here she is trying to save the marriage and he thinks it's funny.

They have 3 small children, one who isn't old enough to understand. My sister and I are children of divorce, we've been through this all before. I feel so, so bad for her.

Not sure how things are going to work out. I hope for the best, they can work things out.

So my Mom and I are leaving for Disney in 3 weeks. I'm not sure this is the best time considering we have no idea what will happen with my sister and BIL. Would you cancel your trip based on the fact that things "may" escalate and she may need us here? She never mentioned a word and would be furious at me to think I even considered not going because of them. She's putting up a brave front right now but I see reality hitting very hard once she accepts the situation (can you say major denial?)

I think I should wait to see how things go. We don't have insurance (not that it would help in this situation) so it won't matter if I have to cancel now or 2 weeks from now. I want to be here for her. I was with a guy for almost 7 years, lived together for 5, he came home one day to let me know it was over. I didn't see it coming. I loved him very much. Part of me still isn't over it. So I know what she's going through.

TIA for your advice.

 

[poohandwendy]

That is sad. It's hard to see a marriage end, especially when you care about both people and there are kids involved.

My sister suggested counseling to him but he laughed which infuriates me. Here she is trying to save the marriage and he thinks it's funny.

He may not actually think it is funny, his laugh might have the "Oh, NOW you want to work on it" type of sarcastic laugh, kwim?

I honestly think you should continue on your trip. I would tell her to call you if she needs to talk. Other than that, I am not sure that there is anything else you can do. for her or the situation. This is really between them.

Sorry to hear this, it's sad.

 

[pyrxtc]

I would go an enjoy my time. maybe she'll realize what it all means while you're gone and you can help her through it when you get back.