So I got an anonymous letter yesterday...

[BabyTigger99]

And it said that my husband has been having an affair, seeing quite a lot of some woman (who was never named) while he has been working away from home (about 2 and a half hours away). So I called him up, and he was floored. He told me that it is not true, and I believe him. Most nights he goes to the bar on base for a few drinks and hangs out with the people he works with. No return address on the letter, and it was not addressed to me by my first name, but address to Mrs. (my last name). The person said they don't know me, which is evident by them not using my first name. All the people he works with and goes out with know me by name, and most know me personally. DH called me again last night and said he was talking with his good friend down there, and the two of them are going to try and find out who sent it. It was mailed from Madison, and he believe that it was actually mailed from the Air National Guard base he is working with. He is going to talk with one of the computer guys, who is also a friend of his, and have him look into a certain person's computer (he kind of has an idea who did this) and look at the keystrokes that have been done recently. He also wants to bring the letter down with him next week and have it dusted for fingerprints (he is working security forces, and can get the guys to do this for him). I just can't believe that someone would do this. With all the crap going on with my health, this is about the last thing that I need. Just had to get this off my chest.

 

[transparant]

 

[Christine]

Wow!!

There could be a few reasons for someone doing this.

1 - It's true and the person wants to upset you.

2 - A person is interested in your husband and she's really a whack job and wants to cause trouble.

3 - A male co-worker of your DH who does not like him and wants to start trouble.

Good luck figuring it out. That would really drive me nuts.

 

[HayGan]

Wow - you are taking this much better than I would.

I hope you can figure out who/why someone would do this.

 

[smilie]

I can't believe someone would do that! It's good that your DH and yourself have such a strong relationship that you can trust him when he said it's not true. I admire that!

 

[BabyTigger99]

Trust me, I will figure out who did this, and if it does turn out to be someome from his unit, and they did it while at work, I will do everything in my power to get them discharged. They messed with the wrong mama!!

I was all upset about it at first, but I really do trust my husband. I am just so angry that someone would do this. The woman that he thinks did this is a wacko, and has always had a "thing" for him. He is actually going to casually mention it at work around her, and tell her that because of who I know from work, I am having it sent to the State Crime Lab for analysis. Not totally the truth, but if it scares her into confessing, then it is worth it.

 

[danacara]

I don't know ... as the saying goes, where there's smoke ...

 

[The Mystery Machine]

Shoot, I would not have called my dh & broke out the credit card and phone and hired a PI. I love my dh but could NOT sit on that!
I would want proof he wasn't seeing other people.

 

[LindaR]

Well................way back when.............I "trusted" my husband, too. Everyone that he worked with knew he was having an affair with a female that he (and they) worked with (and I used to work with all of them, too). They all kept his secret. I, too, finally received anonymous info. I was the last to know.............been divorced 14 years now!!!!!!

 

[Miss Jasmine]

I think I would launch my own investigation. It sounds like he has had the opportunuty. Though I do know how others like to start problems. DH had a former coworker send an anonymous letter to his ex-wife stating DH had received a large raise (which he had received) in the hopes of the Ex taking DH back to court for more money. Turns out she just got offended that someone thought she was a money-grubbing witch.

 

[EsmeraldaX]

2 - A person is interested in your husband and she's really a whack job and wants to cause trouble.

3 - A male co-worker of your DH who does not like him and wants to start trouble.

These were my first two thoughts esp. #2.

I hope everything turns out okay.

Sheri

 

[leahannpen]

Wow!!

There could be a few reasons for someone doing this.

1 - It's true and the person wants to upset you.

2 - A person is interested in your husband and she's really a whack job and wants to cause trouble.

3 - A male co-worker of your DH who does not like him and wants to start trouble.

I totally agree with this above...however...having said that...I also agree with Danacara... I guess I wouldn't just expect him to say, when confronted, "gee honey, it's true." ya know? Something is UP! Good luck and I'm hoping for the best. I'm very sorry you are going through this.

p.s. weren't you having trouble with your step-daughter? would she do anything like this to upset you or get back at you?

 

[magicfan]

Oh, that's terrible! Sorry you have to be stressed out now. However, I would definately investigate (on your own) because there is always that one in a million chance... I hope it's not true.

 

[lovemygoofy]

I don't think that there is anything wrong with trusting your husband. Living with the military is like living in a fish bowl and of course rumors fly all the time, most untrue. I hope things work out for you.

 

[phisigprincess]

 

[Poohnatic]

Hoping that you find out what you need to know.

That being said, I unfortunately had an ex husband who WAS carrying on with a co worker. I confronted, he denied. However, six weeks later he did leave to move in with the other woman.

I so hope that your husband is on the level, but my past experience has made me a bit jaded.

Suzanne

 

[Beastlover]

eeewwww......good luck to you. I am glad to see you have faith in your husband and your marriage. I would be doing my own investigation too. Easy for him to take control of the facts and place what he wants in front of you. Be careful and PD to you...

 

[Keli]

Boy, this is a hard one. Because even though I trust my dh (and I really do, we've been married a lot of years and I believe he's always been faithful to me, as I have to him) a letter like that would shake me in my boots. I'd have to do some investigating I think, just to relieve my mind that this note was indeed from a psycho just out to cause trouble and not from a psycho just out to cause trouble that knows something I don't.

 

[Hillbeans]

And it said that my husband has been having an affair, seeing quite a lot of some woman (who was never named) while he has been working away from home (about 2 and a half hours away). So I called him up, and he was floored. He told me that it is not true, and I believe him. Most nights he goes to the bar on base for a few drinks and hangs out with the people he works with. No return address on the letter, and it was not addressed to me by my first name, but address to Mrs. (my last name). The person said they don't know me, which is evident by them not using my first name. All the people he works with and goes out with know me by name, and most know me personally. DH called me again last night and said he was talking with his good friend down there, and the two of them are going to try and find out who sent it. It was mailed from Madison, and he believe that it was actually mailed from the Air National Guard base he is working with. He is going to talk with one of the computer guys, who is also a friend of his, and have him look into a certain person's computer (he kind of has an idea who did this) and look at the keystrokes that have been done recently. He also wants to bring the letter down with him next week and have it dusted for fingerprints (he is working security forces, and can get the guys to do this for him). I just can't believe that someone would do this. With all the crap going on with my health, this is about the last thing that I need. Just had to get this off my chest.

Generally I try not to comment on these kind of personal family matters, but "Dusting the letter for fingerprints???" There could have been 50 people who touched that letter from point "A" to point "B". What could he ever do with fingerprints.

You know your husband and know what he is or is not capable of. It is possible that someone is "out" to get your husband however most of the time when people get a letter such as yours, it's truth. If something did happen and you value your marriage, you will find a way to get through this and move forward. I hope for your sake it's not true and just some prankster with a very bad sense of humor. I'll send prayers your way.

 

[BabyTigger99]

Generally I try not to comment on these kind of personal family matters, but "Dusting the letter for fingerprints???" There could have been 50 people who touched that letter from point "A" to point "B". What could he ever do with fingerprints.

But only the person who wrote the actual letter's fingerprints would be on it (and mine).