Small school issue but

[1stluvispooh]

is this a sign of things to come??

Quick background DD 10 is HFA and in an inclusion class. She gets pulled out for tests and if she is having difficulty with somethings. She has friends and to help her with her social skills I try and sign her up for whatever comes along that she is slightly interested. Well got a note from the music teacher saying that she was starting choir and that it would be a little different this year because she is going on maternity leave in November. Anyway signed DD up for choir which was to start today. We put it on the calendar and she has been very excited about it. We even talked about it this morning. I was planning on picking her up at the end of choir since well it's after school. So this afternoon I was working at the computer when my phone rings. It's the bus aid (she rides the special needs bus because of sound sensitivity) She is saying that they are at the corner waiting for me to come get DD. I said "she is suppose to be at choir" Bus aid said "No they said she wasn't signed up." So now I'm thinking I will have an upset child on my hands because someone goofed. I get to the corner and she wasn't upset. Good because mommy was plenty mad for the both of us. Not knowing the whole story I write an e mail to the music teacher and the classroom teacher saying that I didn't know what happened but Kaylee should have been in choir do I need to send in another permission slip. First got a e-mail from the classroom teacher saying it was all her fault she sent Kaylee with Mrs X (the special ed interventionist ) to the bus. Then got an e-mail from the music teacher saying she didn't get a permission slip but sent another one home. So I ask DD and she said that when she was getting on the bus she told them, the bus driver, aid and Mrs. X that she was to go to choir and Mrs X immediately said no your not. Now DD isn't one to lie and so I don't understand why she didn't quickly try and find out if she was. The music room is right next to the door that she goes out of to get on the bus. Or even give me a quick call. So they sent her home and I could have easily been gone!

So now my question is do I e-mail Mrs X and say please know that yes she is to go to choir and in the future if there is a question about if she is to stay for an after school activity please call me? I just hope this isn't a sign of things to come. DD had a horrible 2nd grade which is still fresh in my mind 2 years later. Last year was excellent though and hoping to repeat last year.

 

[npcougar]

is this a sign of things to come??

Quick background DD 10 is HFA and in an inclusion class. She gets pulled out for tests and if she is having difficulty with somethings. She has friends and to help her with her social skills I try and sign her up for whatever comes along that she is slightly interested. Well got a note from the music teacher saying that she was starting choir and that it would be a little different this year because she is going on maternity leave in November. Anyway signed DD up for choir which was to start today. We put it on the calendar and she has been very excited about it. We even talked about it this morning. I was planning on picking her up at the end of choir since well it's after school. So this afternoon I was working at the computer when my phone rings. It's the bus aid (she rides the special needs bus because of sound sensitivity) She is saying that they are at the corner waiting for me to come get DD. I said "she is suppose to be at choir" Bus aid said "No they said she wasn't signed up." So now I'm thinking I will have an upset child on my hands because someone goofed. I get to the corner and she wasn't upset. Good because mommy was plenty mad for the both of us. Not knowing the whole story I write an e mail to the music teacher and the classroom teacher saying that I didn't know what happened but Kaylee should have been in choir do I need to send in another permission slip. First got a e-mail from the classroom teacher saying it was all her fault she sent Kaylee with Mrs X (the special ed interventionist ) to the bus. Then got an e-mail from the music teacher saying she didn't get a permission slip but sent another one home. So I ask DD and she said that when she was getting on the bus she told them, the bus driver, aid and Mrs. X that she was to go to choir and Mrs X immediately said no your not. Now DD isn't one to lie and so I don't understand why she didn't quickly try and find out if she was. The music room is right next to the door that she goes out of to get on the bus. Or even give me a quick call. So they sent her home and I could have easily been gone!

So now my question is do I e-mail Mrs X and say please know that yes she is to go to choir and in the future if there is a question about if she is to stay for an after school activity please call me? I just hope this isn't a sign of things to come. DD had a horrible 2nd grade which is still fresh in my mind 2 years later. Last year was excellent though and hoping to repeat last year.

So did the Mrs.X know she was supposed to go to choir? If she didn't know, why get upset? Our teachers are not allowed to keep students after school unless they have a note. Students have lied and then angry parents call the school. The teachers would also have no time to call home to check. They all have after school duties once they dismiss their class.

 

[1stluvispooh]

She did have permission to for choir and I could have easily not been at home when she got home.

 

[npcougar]

She did have permission to for choir and I could have easily not been at home when she got home.

How did she have permission? It didn't sound like either teacher had gotten the permission slip. Unless there was a note or slip that the classroom teacher or music teacher had seen, then they should have sent her home. Maybe her school is different, but for schools around my area, that is standard procedure.

 

[Luv Bunnies]

It sounds to me like a simple mix-up. I like to make sure everyone is informed about what's going on with my son. If he was supposed to stay afterschool, I would tell his teacher and the bus driver/aide. I would also contact the choir teacher in advance to make sure the permission slip was received and everything was ready for my child to show up. It's so hard for autistic kids when their plans fall through or there's confusion about what they're supposed to be doing. I would always assume a mix-up might happen and err on the side of informing anyone and everyone who might be involved to ensure they're on the same page.

 

[npcougar]

It sounds to me like a simple mix-up. I like to make sure everyone is informed about what's going on with my son. If he was supposed to stay afterschool, I would tell his teacher and the bus driver/aide. I would also contact the choir teacher in advance to make sure the permission slip was received and everything was ready for my child to show up. It's so hard for autistic kids when their plans fall through or there's confusion about what they're supposed to be doing. I would always assume a mix-up might happen and err on the side of informing anyone and everyone who might be involved to ensure they're on the same page.

100% agree. My DD10 is extremely high strung and would constantly worry about an issue like this. So we always make sure to confirm after school events. We have several emergency plans if she comes home when we aren't expecting her.

 

[LMC]

The music teacher must have know the DD was signed up because she sent mom a note explaining her maternity leave.

 

[Schmeck]

The music teacher must have know the DD was signed up because she sent mom a note explaining her maternity leave.

Everyone could have gotten a notice that choir was starting up and that there would be a difference because of the maternity leave - and then a persmission slip would be attached to be signed and returned. That's how it is done at our school - no personal notes sent out, just a general notice to all. Then the sign-ups and permission slips trickle in. Notice first, permission slips next, then it's OK to go to choir.

Since the permission slip was not in to the music teacher, the OP's daughter could not have stayed after school. Not the staff's call to let her stay, no matter what the student says!

I'd just be concerned about where the permission slip went - and I'd try to nip the 'lost paper' scenario in the bud! Is there a protocol to be used for getting info to and from the school?