slo’s WEDNESDAY 9/13 poll - Your Longest Relationship

[mjkacmom]

My friend who moved to town when we started 6th grade (we are now 56). I met my husband in 7th grade, but we didn’t start dating until months after we graduated college. I do have a group text with my friends from HS.

 

[John VN]

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The runner up will be my DH - we’ve known each other since 6th grade. We grew up 2 blocks away from each other, shared a bus stop, ”went together” in middle school, started dating our senior year of HS, remained together until we got married at 23yrs old and 28 years later we are still happily married. We’ve literally grown up together - not many spouses can say that.

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Commitment made as in Married = 50 years ago this past June

Actual beginning of the Relationship ^^^^ as in meeting for the 1st time = 67 years ago last week in 1st Grade

 

[jimmalru80]

DW - Started dating in HS back in 1975

BFF - Friends since 1978

 

[The Mayor]

I have two good friends left I’ve had for years.

First friend lived on my street growing up and I’ve know him since we were both three years old. So that would make us friends for 66 years. We still hang out.

Second friend I met in high school and we’ve been friends for 52 years. We also still hang out and occasionally hang out with first friend.

 

[georgina]

While I am connected on Facebook to a few of my HS friends from the late 70's, I didn't count them. Met DH in 1986, so 37 years.

 

[Dan Murphy]

Sadly, my friends from my youth and pre-Marie days have all passed on. And a number from more recently (50+ years) have also passed on.

I would say the longest relationship for me would be probably Marie's and my best friend. Marie knows her from her high school days, early 60's. I have known her from when she started at the same workplace that Marie started at after their post high school business schooling, about 1966. That is where I met Marie also. The friend's husband passed away December, 2020, COVID. So, for me, over 45 years, actually about 56 years.

When our Vince and Natalie were still minors, this couple would have been their legal guardians if Marie and I were gone. This couple and their extended family did and do consider us family, as we do them. We see her and a lot of their family throughout the year (we refer to them as the 'party family') probably a half dozen times a year at various parties. We've seen her and some members of the extended family 4 times in the past 3 months at various parties for one thing or another. And every July, for about 45 years now, all of that extended family (about 30 people now) and my family (Marie, kids and grandkids, 10 of us), get together at a Wisconsin resort for a week.

There are a few friends from my younger years that I have lost touch with over the years that I keep wanting to call (hope numbers on the Net are current/accurate) and keep putting it off. At my age, I have been surprised too often by looking for a past friend on the Net to try and call and instead find an obituary.

 

[Micca]

Longest still living would be my buddy from high school, so that's 50+ years. He was the best man at my wedding, he married 5 times--I was best man at weddings 1 & 3. We seldom lived in the same place over the years and we have gone for years at a time without contact. We do a bit better since the advent of mobile phones and internet. As it turns out he is considering relocating when he retires and he may move very close to where we are. If that happens I could see us hangin' out maybe once a month or so.

 

[tvguy]

I worked with a guy whose family lived next door to me as a kid. He is 7 years older than me, and I used to hang out with his younger brothers. He even baby sat me a few times. That was 60 years ago. Oh, and at another job, I worked with his best friend who was always around when we were kids. So about 60 years there too. This topic.....how long have you known someone.....came up at work with us. I swear one of our 25 year old co-worker's head exploded when at the time we noted we had know each other 50 years.....twice as long as that person had been alive.

 

[CynBeth]

My DH over 20 years.

 

[E&Cmom]

I have a friend who I have know since I was 3. We grew up across the street ans our families were friend. We live across the county from each other but are still friends so 50 years.

 

[leebee]

I am not going to count old friends with whom my only contact is occasionally seeing their random FB posts. Same with folks from high school, as I wasn't really friends with them then, only got back in touch with a group of them at our 40th reunion (2015). Not counting family, that leaves...

>DH, met him in 1984, moved in with him in 1985, got married in 1993; thirty years married, but we've known each other for 39 years. (I wasn't going to count him, as he's my family, but I get the intent of the thread.)
>My friend Mike, from grad school. Met him in 1984, stayed friends all along. Met his now husband at our wedding. SO... 39 years for Mike, 30 for Thom.
>Our friends, Barbara and Tim. Barbara was the department chair who hired DH, so met her in August 2001. Met Tim in January 2002. 22 years.
>My friend, Angela. Met her here on the DISboards. She had an Illuminations Cruise and was renting 2 empty seats on the boat, so DD and I rented them. She is really my best friend; we message daily, sometimes several times daily. 20 years.

 

[BlueStarryHat]

27 years with my friend Benton. I met him at a Doctor Who convention. We've been friends ever since, through thick and thin, including his transition 10 years ago.

I know many people who are FB friends and such, and my sister is my best friend (but family), but the closest relationship that I'd still call current with phone calls and occasional meet-ups is him.

 

[CindysFriend]

26 years and counting, with my idiot husband. What a waste of time this is.
FOR MANY REASONS I don’t want a divorce. He brought up divorce at the end of July but then “called it off”. I still don’t trust him or know what he’s really up to.

 

[TipsyTraveler]

My BFF takes the #1 spot — we’ve been friends for 33 years.

My husband comes in at #2. Yesterday was our anniversary — only married 8 years but together for 25.

 

[AppleDumpling]

I have 3 BFFs that I’ve been friends with since elementary school. One since kindergarten, the other two since 3rd and 4th grades. Hard to believe, but over 50 years for all of them. Two still live in the area and we get together on a regular basis, one lives out of state, but all of us have remained close over the years. And since everyone is including spouses, I have known DH for almost 38 years.

 

[OKW8297]

One of my best friends. 51 years

 

[TippyThomas]

I need an "other" because I've never been in a relationship in my life. Back in the day, I didn't want to pursue a relationship with someone within my very closed community because I knew I wanted to leave one day. I didn't think it would be fair to do that to someone if they had no plans to leave themselves. It wasn't a topic of conversation that could be easily presented so I just decided to stay single and alone. I'm not sure I'm a good candidate for a relationship anyway to be honest. It's probably best that it's worked out this way.

 

[soccerdad72]

My wife - met in college in 1991.

I suppose my next one might be our dentist - I've been with him since the early 90's as well. He was my wife's dentist when she was a kid and our whole family still goes to him.

 

[DisneyHardin]

It's about a tie between my husband and my best school friend. DH and I have been together about 17 years (married for 15). I met my best school friend in 6th grade and we were in separable until we both got married and moved away - the best I can do the math, that was about 17 years too. She and I are still friendly, but definitely not best friends anymore.

 

[JLTraveling]

I met my three closest friends (one female, two male, all close friends with each other) when I was 7. They were all about 10 years older than me, so at the time they were like big sister/brothers. But I was taking high school classes, so we were actually in the same school at the same time (though we met through theater, not school). Over the years, as I grew up, it evolved into a more equal adult friendship. I trust them more than I trust 99.9% of my own family, and far more than anyone else outside of family. It's truly amazing that of all the people who have passed through my life, those three are the ones that really stuck.