Sitting here waiting for my friend to die...Thank you for being here

[frustrated]

I am sitting here in my office in the hopital where I work, waiting for my best friend to die. He has aids and we have all been giving him care around the clock. Now he is dying, and we are just waiting, taking turns talking with him. My husband is out of the country, and I do not know what to do. I was even over on the debate board stirring up trouble. How dumb is that? I know I shall be roasted. But, I am too stubborn to delete too!

I have read every board on here this morning as well as the trip reports.

Think good thoughts please for a painless passage, and please if you have any ideas of what I can do to pass the time, holler! I refuse to go eat! But you know I could definitely use a cig! (Quit years ago!)

Thanks for listening,

Tess

 

[Dan Murphy]

So sorry, Tess, for your friend, you and all around him. Hoping he is comfortable and not in pain. A better world awaits, though difficult for us to see at times. My best. Always people here to listen.

PS: If need be, eat, don't smoke.

 

[frustrated]

Thanks Dan, I 'll be going up is awhile. I really just needed to say that this was happening. Thanks folks for the outlet. All right, no smokes!

Tess

 

[TTFN]

I sat with my mom while she was dying, and while it was really hard I'm so glad I was there. She was not concious, but I hope she knew we were there. All the best to you.

 

[Melora]

Sorry you have to go through this...

Prayers for a painless passing for your friend

 

[winniedapooh]

I am so sorry.....pixie dust to you and kind thoughts to all.

 

[stinkerbelle]

Originally posted by winniedapooh
I am so sorry.....pixie dust to you and kind thoughts to all.

I couldn't have said it better myself.



I too am so sorry...

 

[minniecarousel]

So sorry Tess.

Hang in there.

 

[Zurg]

Wishing you and your friend peace.

 

[meandtheguys]

Best wishes and prayers for you and your friend. I've never lost anyone (aren't I blessed). Take care of yourself and I hope your husband gets home soon, so you have someone to help support you. Let us know how you are doing when you can.

 

[crazyforgoofy]

I'm so sorry. It must be especially hard with your husband away as you don't have your support system. You're being a good friend that what really matters but I know it's not easy. Please skip the cig and eat some junk food instead. A candy bar won't hurtcha.

I'm praying for your friend to have a gentle passing and happy landing and for you and those around him to help him with your love and support.

Here's another

Don't worry about the DB postings, those flame can't hurt you from a distance.

Mary Alice

 

[Mishetta]

I'm so sorry about your friend, but how lucky he is to have you there. When my Mom was dying, I just sat there quietly & held her hand the entire time. I didn't let go till about 1 hour after she passed on. It was so weird but I could feel an electric current running from her arm/hand, up my hand/arm. I think she was trying to pass on her strength or love to me. The nurse told me that I could tell her to go on to heaven now, you can go, it's okay. So I did but then I just sat quietly holding her hand & sometimes squeezing it so that she knew I was there till the bitter end.

Is hospice involved? If so, you know that they will make him comfortable so that he can pass into eternity peacefully.

 

[Pooh93]

{HUGS}

 

[musicalSaranader]

My prayers are with you Tess. I'm going through the same thing right now with my grandfather.

 

[goofy4tink]

How lucky he is to have such a good friend. I'm sure it's a hard thing to do, but you'll be glad that you were there for him. Be strong and come here and vent whenever you need to.

 

[olena]

 

[frustrated]

Well, I got through the day. My friend passed with several of us there. I have never been through that with someone I loved. Thank you for the support here. I would not have made it through the day without being able to putter around here! It kept my mind busy.

Be well, call your friends to say "hey" and know that you helped a new friend. I am going home to call my hubby, take a bath and have a nice glass of wine.

Tess

 

[NC Belle]

I'm so sorry for your loss.

 

[meandtheguys]

I am glad that you are watching out for yourself this evening. Please know that you were a blessing to your friend, and get some rest.

 

[MsDisney23]

Aids is a terrible horrible thing. My brother is full blown, he is also in a shelter for aids patient's, when is time is near he will be moved to a hospital. I am so sorry for you. All my heartfelt prayers are with you and your's. Love, Kitty