Sister Wives, anyone???

[Holly]

Robin stated in that episode that she works and supports herself and her children and is looking for a new job now that she's moved.



I don't really care what people do as long as children aren't being harmed. If it makes them happy, good for them.


ETA- I also want to add that I think it's way overreaching of the state of Utah to have passed a law that they can prosecute people for cohabitating.

 

[Carly_Roach]

ETA- I also want to add that I think it's way overreaching of the state of Utah to have passed a law that they can prosecute people for cohabitating.

Woah! When did this happen?

 

[KiKi Mouse]

Yes they are all adults and they all agree about the lifestyle.
However I think that is only because these women have grown up in it themselves.
The problem I have with it is I don't see the women having a lot of say in what goes on around the house.
I certainly wouldn't want my daughters living that way.
All of his daughters will now grow up in the lifestyle and think that it is normal for their men to have more than one "wife". The boys will grow up thinking it is normal to have as many wives as they want.
Is there really any hope for many of those kids to not grow up and adopt polygamy in their own lives?

 

[j's m]

She very clearly explained it in the first episode.

She actually asked Kody to find another wife so she could have a sister wife. Being from that background she was quite fine with it and wanted it.

After being married 34 years, I would like a sister wife.

She can be a young strong wife, she can clean the bathrooms, cook, wash the clothes, do all the crap around here that I'm tired of doing. She can sleep with the snoring DH who hogs the bed.

I'll do the shopping, go to the library, go out to lunch, snowflake my DS16, help get him into the perfect college.

I think I'll ask DH tonight, if fact, I'll go find one for him.

 

[KiKi Mouse]

After being married 34 years, I would like a sister wife.

She can be a young strong wife, she can clean the bathrooms, cook, wash the clothes, do all the crap around here that I'm tired of doing. She can sleep with the snoring DH who hogs the bed.

I'll do the shopping, go to the library, go out to lunch, snowflake my DS16, help get him into the perfect college.

I think I'll ask DH tonight, if fact, I'll go find one for him.

LOL I wonder if there is a "sister wife" category on match dot com etc.

 

[Pakey]

After being married 34 years, I would like a sister wife.

She can be a young strong wife, she can clean the bathrooms, cook, wash the clothes, do all the crap around here that I'm tired of doing. She can sleep with the snoring DH who hogs the bed.

I'll do the shopping, go to the library, go out to lunch, snowflake my DS16, help get him into the perfect college.

I think I'll ask DH tonight, if fact, I'll go find one for him.

I've been married 26 years and the more I watch this, the more I think I could use a younger trophy sister wife too.

I'm enjoying this show, except for the Burger King. He wouldn't skeeve me if I could think of him in any way other than the Burger King but that's the image burned into my brain now.

 

[dodukes]

LOL I wonder if there is a "sister wife" category on match dot com etc.

I"m sure somewhere on the net there is...

 

[disney_mommy]

I'm so glad we have someone here (who has never met any of the wives) that can translate these women's actual emotions for us. Thank you. It kind of reminds me of those internet posters who say they can guarantee someone is doing something or other, even though that poster just read a story or saw a news clip and never met the people involved, let alone was an actual witness to what they're guaranteeing. It makes me want to ask what I'll get if their "guarantee" turns out to be invalid.

I watched both episodes last night and still found them to be absolutely intriguing. Of course I've seen the interviews done recently where they're all together and they spoke of how difficult it was bringing a new wife into the family. But they got through it, they're still together, and they still seem rather happy with their lifestyle.

And let's face it, TLC wouldn't have this show on if there weren't some drama somewhere within it. While I know I would have no interest in Kody, obviously these women do have interest in him and want to form this kind of partnership with him and each other. It's fascinating to watch. I think I'll hang for a few more episodes and see if it continues to hold my attention.

Excellent point. How can we watch 2 hours of edited snippets of their lives and form opinions of how they feel and why they behave the way they do?

I don't understand the bashing going on here. While I don't find Kody attractive, others obviously do. I certainly don't think he's "icky." They have multiple cars for such a large family, so why can't he have a sporty car he likes? The one wife has an aversion to toasters - so what? Don't we all have little quirks that don't make sense to others? This is a show about a unique family that is happy with their situation. While I wouldn't choose it for myself, I enjoy watching the show for its entertainment purposes.

 

[LovinPooh]

I think Robin is more in love with the idea of having some help with the kids. Whether it be the sister wives or older siblings.
Now where is he gonna put her in that house?

 

[DisneyBeagle]

Does anyone know if the house they moved Robyn into will be her permanent house or is it just until they get married?

 

[mommy2allgirls]

She very clearly explained it in the first episode.

She actually asked Kody to find another wife so she could have a sister wife. Being from that background she was quite fine with it and wanted it.

I guess I missed that part.

 

[woodkins]

Does anyone know if the house they moved Robyn into will be her permanent house or is it just until they get married?

Kody made a comment that he couldn't move her in since they aren't married yet, so I am guessing that she will be moving in once they are "married". I wonder where they are going to put her and her kids.

 

[bjgrazi]

I love how a few are saying Kody is selfish for having a 2 seater car. He had 3 people in it last night. So maybe it's not a 2 seater. We have 3 kids, my husband has a real 2 seater car and I drive a larger vehicle. I don't think he's selfish at all it's what he wanted. He works and he paid for it. We also have a third vehicle to drive when ever we want.

It's their life why do people get so bent out of shape? They live the way they want, you live the way you want. They're not hurting anyone. The wives seem happy with each other. The kids seem real happy. They have said a few times the children are free to choose the type of life they want. The one daughter has said she doesn't want a polygamist lifestyle when she gets older.

I asked my husband last night if he wanted another wife, he said no way one was enough for him. I think I really like the idea

 

[johnsontrio]

the family are not members of the flds-they belong to the apostolic united brethren which embraces fundemental mormon practices but is'nt the flds church you think of with respect to the texas compound. their group does'nt believe in arranged marriages, and some members don't practice polygamy, but if they do the marriages are supposed to be entered into under free will and with the mutal agreement of all the partys (so i'm guessing existing "wives" get a vote).

i want to know what gives with this divorcee as well-while courting she lived 4 hours away so i wonder how they met, it's not like they would be running into each other in town. maybe there's a match dot com type of site for those seeking polygamist relationships (we know the wives use the internet-that's where the one gets all her data on shark vs. toaster annual fatalities).

They addressed this in one of the episodes. Kody and Meri were out on "date night" having dinner at a friends. Robyn is a cousin of the friend. Evidently, Meri felt an immediate connection with Robyn and discussed with Kody exploring a relationship with her and her children to bring her into the family. He then stated that he had courted other women but it had not worked out.

 

[DisneyBeagle]

Kody made a comment that he couldn't move her in since they aren't married yet, so I am guessing that she will be moving in once they are "married". I wonder where they are going to put her and her kids.

That's what I thought he said, but I wasn't sure. It seems like a pain in the butt to move her twice.

 

[mommy2allgirls]

That's what I thought he said, but I wasn't sure. It seems like a pain in the butt to move her twice.

It also is going to be hard on her son who is on the Autism spectrum. Two moves and two changes in schedules just seems it wont be the best thing for her son

 

[KiKi Mouse]

Their children are not free to choose the lifestyle. Maybe when they are adults.
As for why we are so critical of the show....that's what happens when you put yourself out there on a t.v. show and open up your life.
Hopefully this does not become a trainwreck like some of the other shows as the kids don't need it. I think it is fine for the adults on the show to be out there but I think it could cause problems for the kids.

 

[lovetoscrap]

Finally got to see the show from my DVR today. Wow!

I think with this whole new wife thing I feel the most sorry for Christine (the pregnant one). She seems to be the one most upset about this and for good reason. She is the one that is the primary caregiver when everyone else is at work. She is now adding a newborn baby and an older child with special needs into the mix at the same time! And just having to be the parent of the "stepkids" is going to have its difficulty since they have not grown up with the rules and rhythm of this family. Based on what they showed when Robin was trying to get them into the car to go to the park they look like they may not have had consistent discipline, which may make it very difficult when thrown in with the other kids and Christine to be in charge of them if she expects better cooperation, which it did seem like she would.

After being married 34 years, I would like a sister wife.

She can be a young strong wife, she can clean the bathrooms, cook, wash the clothes, do all the crap around here that I'm tired of doing. She can sleep with the snoring DH who hogs the bed.

I'll do the shopping, go to the library, go out to lunch, snowflake my DS16, help get him into the perfect college.

I think I'll ask DH tonight, if fact, I'll go find one for him.

I thought maybe there would be something to this whole sister wife thing until I saw the show and see that they each have their own home and really separate families. I was thinking that it wouldn't be too bad to have someone to help with the cleaning and cooking and all that. Obviously they do work together, but I want someone else to be doing the dishes and cleaning the bathrooms if I have to share my husband with them!

I got the impression that those 3 are pretty strong personalities and together may be a force to be reckoned with! I am not so sure that he makes the decisions and they just meekly follow his demands. I suspect that if all three of them decide differently than him, then they will get their way! And I bet they do gang up on him as far as picking on his faults. Three wives just seems like it would actually take his power away.

As for the insurance I wonder about that too. It seems that Christine is the only one that wouldn't be covered. From the sound of it Janelle's job probably has coverage for her, Meri would be covered by Kody as his legal wife, and the kids are all his so his coverage provides for them, with Janelle's also covering her kids. Hmmmm, does Utah have any domestic partner recognition? Janelle could just claim Christine as her "domestic partner" and cover her that way! Really they certainly are domestic partners!

DH says he would never even cheat or remarry because no way he is going to go through having to figure out ANOTHER woman.

 

[minkydog]

It's their life why do people get so bent out of shape? They live the way they want, you live the way you want. They're not hurting anyone. The wives seem happy with each other. The kids seem real happy. They have said a few times the children are free to choose the type of life they want. The one daughter has said she doesn't want a polygamist lifestyle when she gets older.

But, see, here's the thing that jumped out at me. The wives *don't* seem all that happy about the new "wife." I find it interesting that the new "wife" is younger, slimmer, and prettier(according to the wives) than the 3 current wives. Meri and Christine were near tears a couple times. Meri remarked that she was concerned because she doesn't get enough of her husband now, let alone when he adds the 4th one. Christine seems to be in a fragile place right now, having had a really bad miscarriage last year. She expressed that she's worried that her body might not perform the way it should. I would think that *now* would not be the time to rock the boat for her. And the older girls certainly didn't seem all that happy about the dad dating. They both seemed a little skeeved about it.

I"m not bent out of shape about it. They are all certainly old enough to make their own decisions. It will be interesting to see how they integrate these 3 new kids into the family. I feel sorry for the new kids--it just seems so complicated for them all, but especially for the one with Aspergers.

 

[Mimi1965]

http://tlc.discovery.com/videos/sister-wives-q-and-a/

In this clip the 4th wife breaks down crying. Apparently its a BIG deal to kiss a married man-before you, too, marry him.
Now its fine to sleep with him-just dont kiss him