Single ... yet again ..

[CinRell]

Well 35, married once, no kids...things could be worse, ALOT worse.

A friend of mine once told me, "There are worse things than being single".

I say, better to be alone and happy than with someone that makes you miserable.

Amen, Joe! I purposely took the last year to be completely single.. no dating.. nothing.. nada... and I'm finding I kinda prefer the single life right now... and that doesn't mean bouncing around and juggling men.. that means really appreciating my time wtih my family, my friends.. and most importantly MYSELF.

I now know *if* I ever become attached to someone again, it will be for the right reasons.. not just to be with someone or in a desperate search to not be alone (like I was with my ex)

33 here, never married, no kids.... and I'm a chick. Beat THAT! lol! You boy scan have kids at the age of 60 if you wanted.

As for the OP... take your time! You're 20. I'm not even remotely the same person I was at 20 and I definitely do not have the same taste in men. Don't worry about finding "mr forever"... in fact, at your age? avoid it

 

[jadedbeauty14304]

Amen, Joe! I purposely took the last year to be completely single.. no dating.. nothing.. nada... and I'm finding I kinda prefer the single life right now... and that doesn't mean bouncing around and juggling men.. that means really appreciating my time wtih my family, my friends.. and most importantly MYSELF.

I now know *if* I ever become attached to someone again, it will be for the right reasons.. not just to be with someone or in a desperate search to not be alone (like I was with my ex)

33 here, never married, no kids.... and I'm a chick. Beat THAT! lol! You boy scan have kids at the age of 60 if you wanted.

As for the OP... take your time! You're 20. I'm not even remotely the same person I was at 20 and I definitely do not have the same taste in men. Don't worry about finding "mr forever"... in fact, at your age? avoid it

Hi Cin!
I just want to say that I agree 100% with everything you said!! very true words!!!!

And OP, you are so young. Have fun while you are!!!! I wish I would have!

 

[CinRell]

Hi Cin!
I just want to say that I agree 100% with everything you said!! very true words!!!!

And OP, you are so young. Have fun while you are!!!! I wish I would have!

Hey chicky!

 

[jewjubean]

 

[jewjubean]

Natalie are you doing the College program at disney? Cause I thought i've seen you post on the college boards...

 

[Carol17]

Well, I guess it is good to read I am not the only single person in the world.Im 37, single,no kids...oh and I can't get a permanent teaching job either,so old car,still renting,bla bla bla. I have recently woken up and realized that I have let my life pass me by. I am my own worst enemy. What bothers me most, is how much it bothers everyone else. My biggest problem is I care too much about what other people think. I want to crawl under a rock sometimes. Hmm, guess that's why I'm single...I AM living under a rock. Nonetheless, I am relatively healthy, able to walk upright, have a couple jobs while many people can't get any job at all. I have friends I care about. I have been to WDW 5 times. Things could be worse.

 

[GrumpyOne]

I have recently woken up and realized that I have let my life pass me by.

Statistically, you have more than 2/3 of your adult life left to live. As you say, you're healthy have a job and friends. Rather than regret what you can't change, look ahead. You can always add adventure to your life.

 

[Brocktoon]

Well, I guess it is good to read I am not the only single person in the world.Im 37, single,no kids...oh and I can't get a permanent teaching job either,so old car,still renting,bla bla bla. I have recently woken up and realized that I have let my life pass me by. I am my own worst enemy. What bothers me most, is how much it bothers everyone else. My biggest problem is I care too much about what other people think. I want to crawl under a rock sometimes. Hmm, guess that's why I'm single...I AM living under a rock. Nonetheless, I am relatively healthy, able to walk upright, have a couple jobs while many people can't get any job at all. I have friends I care about. I have been to WDW 5 times. Things could be worse.

I think it's great that you do understand that there are many things to be greatful for ... you DO have a job, friends, your health etc ... more than many people out there.

Life isn't going to be storybook perfect for everyone, and even people who look like they have the perfect life have thier problems. It's much better to understand yourself and be happy, then be in a miserable relationship because freinds or society dictate that's the norm.

Hell, I have friends ask me all the time why I'm 32 and still single. Simple ... I'm a freakin' workaholic! My work ethic has done wonders for my career and allowed me a nice standard of living, but it's relationship suicide. I've been in relationships where I felt like I was doing what was expected, but I was burning the candle at both ends. While the gals stuck by me, it was completely unfair to them, as I was always too tired to go out and do anything with them. One day I may find the right girl to help me stop and smell the roses, but until then, I'm much happier being single than making two people miserable in a relationship.

Even if you're in a realtionship, you can still let life pass you by. I have a much more active life than other couples I know. You're 37, there's plenty of fulfilling years left. You can pick up some new hobbies, or get involved in volunteer work. Being a happy productive member of society is the most fulfilling activity aound

 

[black562]

Amen, Joe! I purposely took the last year to be completely single.. no dating.. nothing.. nada... and I'm finding I kinda prefer the single life right now... and that doesn't mean bouncing around and juggling men.. that means really appreciating my time wtih my family, my friends.. and most importantly MYSELF.

I now know *if* I ever become attached to someone again, it will be for the right reasons.. not just to be with someone or in a desperate search to not be alone (like I was with my ex)

33 here, never married, no kids.... and I'm a chick. Beat THAT! lol! You boy scan have kids at the age of 60 if you wanted.

As for the OP... take your time! You're 20. I'm not even remotely the same person I was at 20 and I definitely do not have the same taste in men. Don't worry about finding "mr forever"... in fact, at your age? avoid it

Thanks Cin...but it is true.

You have to be happy with yourself first, THEN you're in a good position to find someone else. You can't rely on someone else to provide your happiness, I made that mistake a time or two.

 

[lovemickeyshouse]

Well, I guess it is good to read I am not the only single person in the world.Im 37, single,no kids...oh and I can't get a permanent teaching job either,so old car,still renting,bla bla bla. I have recently woken up and realized that I have let my life pass me by. I am my own worst enemy. What bothers me most, is how much it bothers everyone else. My biggest problem is I care too much about what other people think. I want to crawl under a rock sometimes. Hmm, guess that's why I'm single...I AM living under a rock. Nonetheless, I am relatively healthy, able to walk upright, have a couple jobs while many people can't get any job at all. I have friends I care about. I have been to WDW 5 times. Things could be worse.

Ur life has not past you by its not too late to change things take charge now and make goals you will go far trust me .

 

[jagfanjosh3252]

I know how you feel. I'm only a couple of years older than you (22), and I hate being single also. But as everybody says, you gotta keep trucking. Your are beautiful, and have a great son, both of you are healthy, and have a roof over your heads. As my friend says "You shouldn't define yourself by a relationship."
The guy who left you, and every other guy also, is going to realize what a great girl they had in you. Then they are going to be kicking themselves silly for letting you go. So keep your chin up, and keep trucking.

 

[ChevyNat]

I've been single for 2 years now... Ex, walked out on me and the 2 kids, said that he wanted to live is life to the fullest without responsabilities... well, he still has to pay, but I have the kids full time. ha!
So 40, single, 2 kids.... that's pretty much it for me. ha!ha! ha!

 

[Floydian]

I've been single for 2 years now... Ex, walked out on me and the 2 kids, said that he wanted to live is life to the fullest without responsabilities... well, he still has to pay, but I have the kids full time. ha!
So 40, single, 2 kids.... that's pretty much it for me. ha!ha! ha!

Just goes to show how different people can be. I've been single with no responsibilities for about 5 years now, and feel like my life isn't even close to as full as it had been when I was married with two kids.

 

[ChevyNat]

I love my responsabilities ha! ha!
And yes my life is full... actually maxed out ha! but I would not have any other way

 

[Natalie_89]

its tough, we got back together last week then 2 days ago out the blue he did it again to me ..it my fault for goin back i no for future now instead of gettin hurt once i got hurt twice

 

[black562]

its tough, we got back together last week then 2 days ago out the blue he did it again to me ..it my fault for goin back i no for future now instead of gettin hurt once i got hurt twice

I hate to hear that and I'm very sorry. Hang in there girl...and ya know, one of these days he'll look back and kick himself for ever letting you go, but then it will be too late. You'll find someone better...someone who realizes what he has and hangs on to you!!!

Sending some hugs your way!!!

 

[Natalie_89]

I hate to hear that and I'm very sorry. Hang in there girl...and ya know, one of these days he'll look back and kick himself for ever letting you go, but then it will be too late. You'll find someone better...someone who realizes what he has and hangs on to you!!!

Sending some hugs your way!!!

thank you ... i no this is true and i will find someone else its just hard when its fresh i guess ... i no now not to go back i cant do it xx

 

[jagfanjosh3252]

*cracks knuckles*

Want me to take care of him for ya?

 

[Natalie_89]

*cracks knuckles*

Want me to take care of him for ya?

haha .. make him disappear for a week or so so i dont have to see him lol

its hard *** we have the same group of friends so we kinda have to see each other

 

[palmtreelover08]

Coming from a single NJ mom of a 5 year old princess...

1. Yes, you are hurting now..so take some deep breaths.
2. Like many of the PP's said.. you are young, have your child and your health.. these are things to celebrate.
3. Just keep humming.. "Some day my prince will come" from Snow White..you just never know when you'll meet that special someone. but most importantly..
4. Enjoy the time you have with your son. These are amazing times in your sons life...don't let the fact that you don't have your own special partner right now keep you down too long and don't let being a single parent stop you from doing anything you want to do with your child.
5. One last thing.. when your child looks at you and smile..just remember, you are doing something right...he is not only smiling with his face, but with his heart..

Hang in there..