Single Roll Call

[KyDerbyMan]

Like David said, the older you get, personality becomes (or should become) the prime concern, making age arbitrary. It's a pretty amazing feeling when you come to know, rather than simply acknowledge, that there are people everywhere--on almost every acre of land-- and that they're each individually complex, sensitive, and brilliant in their own unique way. I've met a lot of older folks who have been impressive enough as to define what I look for in a friend or significant other, but I've also met some who act like they're still in high school. Just as I've met people my own age who admittedly seem beyond their years.

I read something by Chuck Klosterman a few weeks ago which really served to encapsulate and vocalize what I already felt and knew about "love". It's too long to post here, but he basically pointed out that the notion we have of "true love" as children, of a single prince/princess that's perfect for us, is utter crap, which the more introspective of us realize as we get older, while others just get jaded and accept the experience. Rather than a single true love, people fall in love many times throughout life, sometimes in the tens or hundreds, but there are a handful of people we meet who help define what we love about people, and even moreso, a single person who becomes that definition--a single person who affects us so much that we consciously look back to her/him in comparison to the relationship we're in. You don't speak of such things for fear of getting slapped, but this is a person you will always remember, even should you get married and have a family, because they have become the very definition of what you love. Does this person exist once you let them go--no, because you've most likely idealized them in the same way politicos and our grandparents look back on the "good old days" of an easier world, which never truly existed in the first place. Still, that single person remains in the back of our minds as long as we live.

It's a very interesting denouement to his book, Killing Yourself to Live, which strangely set out to be a nationwide journey to explore the sites of famous rockstar deaths but ultimately became an exploration of the author's major past relationships. Interestingly, that abstraction makes sense to me when I take in account the length of the car trip...

Wow. I can really identify with that right now. I'll have to read through that on my next trip up to Barnes and Noble.


Guess I should fill in my details since this is a roll call thread


Jerry, 41, divorced for over 5 years with two daughters (21 and 13) and looking to put the fun back into my life after chasing what was apparently just a fantasy for most of the last two years (much more to it than that, though, but I'm not one to air dirty laundry).

Last was in Disney a couple of years ago and hoping to get there for a few days the first week in August (at the least, going over Thanksgiving for my...er...our first Christmastime at Disney!)

Anyway...

Hi!

 

[rebecca06261]

Wow...this thread is really getting depressing. Timmy, why'd you revitalize it??

Glad you finally made your way over to the singles' thread too, Jerry! You should consider joining us for the single's trip in 2008!

***Anyone who is single & has a love for all things Disney is welcome to join us!

 

[nurse.darcy]

Wow. I can really identify with that right now. I'll have to read through that on my next trip up to Barnes and Noble.


Guess I should fill in my details since this is a roll call thread


Jerry, 41, divorced for over 5 years with two daughters (21 and 13) and looking to put the fun back into my life after chasing what was apparently just a fantasy for most of the last two years (much more to it than that, though, but I'm not one to air dirty laundry).

Last was in Disney a couple of years ago and hoping to get there for a few days the first week in August (at the least, going over Thanksgiving for my...er...our first Christmastime at Disney!)

Anyway...

Hi!

Welcome Jerry. . .hopefully you can join us at one of our dismeets. . .they happen quite often. . .lots of fun. . .

 

[Sha]

Wow. I can really identify with that right now. I'll have to read through that on my next trip up to Barnes and Noble.


Guess I should fill in my details since this is a roll call thread


Jerry, 41, divorced for over 5 years with two daughters (21 and 13) and looking to put the fun back into my life after chasing what was apparently just a fantasy for most of the last two years (much more to it than that, though, but I'm not one to air dirty laundry).

Last was in Disney a couple of years ago and hoping to get there for a few days the first week in August (at the least, going over Thanksgiving for my...er...our first Christmastime at Disney!)

Anyway...

Hi!

Hi Jerry... welcome... check out the Single trip for 2009! Going to be fun with a large group of friends!

http://www.disboards.com/showthread.php?t=1867422

 

[nurse.darcy]

Wow...this thread is really getting depressing. Timmy, why'd you revitalize it??

Glad you finally made your way over to the singles' thread too, Jerry! You should consider joining us for the single's trip in 2008!

***Anyone who is single & has a love for all things Disney is welcome to join us!

Rebecca, what did you find depressing? I think it was actually quite an intelligent conversation. Its funny because I don't think about age much when I get involved or begin a relationship. . .its when the relationship takes on a more serious dynamic that age becomes a factor. I mean, those young guys are a lot of fun but they are usually wanting more than what I can offer them(i.e. children of their own). At my age, I am considering retirement in 15 years or so, settling down with someone and possibly traveling the world. I can do that now and frequently do do that on my own, but its always nice to have someone to share life with. I have many friends all over the US and the world and its so much fun to go and visit. Would love to share that experience I have with another. . .

 

[rebecca06261]

Like David said, the older you get, personality becomes (or should become) the prime concern, making age arbitrary. It's a pretty amazing feeling when you come to know, rather than simply acknowledge, that there are people everywhere--on almost every acre of land-- and that they're each individually complex, sensitive, and brilliant in their own unique way. I've met a lot of older folks who have been impressive enough as to define what I look for in a friend or significant other, but I've also met some who act like they're still in high school. Just as I've met people my own age who admittedly seem beyond their years.

I read something by Chuck Klosterman a few weeks ago which really served to encapsulate and vocalize what I already felt and knew about "love". It's too long to post here, but he basically pointed out that the notion we have of "true love" as children, of a single prince/princess that's perfect for us, is utter crap, which the more introspective of us realize as we get older, while others just get jaded and accept the experience. Rather than a single true love, people fall in love many times throughout life, sometimes in the tens or hundreds, but there are a handful of people we meet who help define what we love about people, and even moreso, a single person who becomes that definition--a single person who affects us so much that we consciously look back to her/him in comparison to the relationship we're in. You don't speak of such things for fear of getting slapped, but this is a person you will always remember, even should you get married and have a family, because they have become the very definition of what you love. Does this person exist once you let them go--no, because you've most likely idealized them in the same way politicos and our grandparents look back on the "good old days" of an easier world, which never truly existed in the first place. Still, that single person remains in the back of our minds as long as we live.

It's a very interesting denouement to his book, Killing Yourself to Live, which strangely set out to be a nationwide journey to explore the sites of famous rockstar deaths but ultimately became an exploration of the author's major past relationships. Interestingly, that abstraction makes sense to me when I take in account the length of the car trip...

Darcy, truthfully, whether or not this is a true testament as to how most single adults feel, I find this depressing:

"....basically pointed out that the notion we have of "true love" as children, of a single prince/princess that's perfect for us, is utter crap."

I understand he & the author is saying more than this, but frankly, I couldn't get past his sentiment with an open mind once reading it. Realistically, he's probably right...but I'd like to remain hopeful and this deminishes my hope that a true love exists. What can I say? I love fairy tales, and while I recognize that there is literally no prince charming, I don't need some jaded/depressed/writer pointing this out to me.

Make sense?

 

[Jenroc]

Wow. I can really identify with that right now. I'll have to read through that on my next trip up to Barnes and Noble.


Guess I should fill in my details since this is a roll call thread


Jerry, 41, divorced for over 5 years with two daughters (21 and 13) and looking to put the fun back into my life after chasing what was apparently just a fantasy for most of the last two years (much more to it than that, though, but I'm not one to air dirty laundry).

Last was in Disney a couple of years ago and hoping to get there for a few days the first week in August (at the least, going over Thanksgiving for my...er...our first Christmastime at Disney!)

Welcome Jerry !
We have people doing trips to WDW in Sept & Oct, and a bunch of us are going to be down there in early Dec. for "Christmas before the rush" !! As Sha pointed out, we have a large group of about 32 people who are going down for a Halloween disboards meet. There is always room for more !!!!! Read up and let us know if you are interested.

 

[webster76]

Just happened upon this thread and thought I'd comment. I'm almost 55 and divorced a bit over 9 years . My kids are 25 (married), 22 and moving out of state (just graduated college) and 18 and going away to college. For most of my life I thought I would get married and raise a family. No real goal for a profession , although I am certified to teach art and have been in education for 32 years. When I got divorced I really want to find someone and get married again. But I've finally gotten to a place in my life where I'm really happy and feel good about myself. I would like someone to share things with too, but don't know if I really need to be married to do that. It'd be nice to have some close friends that you can call at a moments notice to go out to eat with/go on vacation with/see a movie with... but I don't NEED someone to make me happy anymore.. and that feels good. Good friends are the icing on the cake!

 

[Sha]

Just happened upon this thread and thought I'd comment. I'm almost 55 and divorced a bit over 9 years . My kids are 25 (married), 22 and moving out of state (just graduated college) and 18 and going away to college. For most of my life I thought I would get married and raise a family. No real goal for a profession , although I am certified to teach art and have been in education for 32 years. When I got divorced I really want to find someone and get married again. But I've finally gotten to a place in my life where I'm really happy and feel good about myself. I would like someone to share things with too, but don't know if I really need to be married to do that. It'd be nice to have some close friends that you can call at a moments notice to go out to eat with/go on vacation with/see a movie with... but I don't NEED someone to make me happy anymore.. and that feels good. Good friends are the icing on the cake!

Welcome to the thread Webster!! love those last 2 lines! I agree fully. Jump in to the other threads we have talked about here... or into any of the trips!

 

[rebecca06261]

Hey Webster- We'll be at wdw at the same time Maybe we'll run into one another!

 

[ttester9612]

Just happened upon this thread and thought I'd comment. I'm almost 55 and divorced a bit over 9 years . My kids are 25 (married), 22 and moving out of state (just graduated college) and 18 and going away to college. For most of my life I thought I would get married and raise a family. No real goal for a profession , although I am certified to teach art and have been in education for 32 years. When I got divorced I really want to find someone and get married again. But I've finally gotten to a place in my life where I'm really happy and feel good about myself. I would like someone to share things with too, but don't know if I really need to be married to do that. It'd be nice to have some close friends that you can call at a moments notice to go out to eat with/go on vacation with/see a movie with... but I don't NEED someone to make me happy anymore.. and that feels good. Good friends are the icing on the cake!

Welcome...your remarks are so true. I'm 51 (almost 52) and have been a widow for 9 yrs. I have only one child (24). I'm at a point in my life that I like who I am and what I do and I am happy. I like the idea that I can get up and go without coordinating with someone (except of course with my boss). But the weekends are mind... I can do what I want, when I want and where I want. If friends just happen to want to join me then, the more the merrier.

 

[KyDerbyMan]

Hi and thanks for the welcome!

Probably won't be able to do any singles meets this fall but for 2009, yeah, definitely could do at least one (if not more).

I just have a hard time separating myself from my daughters. My oldest has only been to MK for a day when she was about 3yo. Yes, I'm a bad dad.. *sniff*

My youngest was with me a couple summers ago for a week and it was about the best vacation I ever had! We both got SO addicted to Disney from that trip. I just have to get over the guilt of going without them.

 

[nurse.darcy]

Hi and thanks for the welcome!

Probably won't be able to do any singles meets this fall but for 2009, yeah, definitely could do at least one (if not more).

I just have a hard time separating myself from my daughters. My oldest has only been to MK for a day when she was about 3yo. Yes, I'm a bad dad.. *sniff*

My youngest was with me a couple summers ago for a week and it was about the best vacation I ever had! We both got SO addicted to Disney from that trip. I just have to get over the guilt of going without them.

My son is 15 and I take him to Disneyland about a dozen times a year (AP holders). I took him to WDW last August and will take him again this August (22 to 30). I like to make trips several times a year and his commitments at school and church keep him from being able to join me as much as I would like (he is a blast to hang out with and I have more fun with him than anyone). That being said, I love my adult time at the world. I have only been on one solo adventure where I hooked up with these crazy DIS people, but I had a blast. . .(though for the record you crazy dis peeps, please remind me to drink more water next time. . .lol). I was guilty at first but when I talked to my son about it he told me I deserved to go and have fun with some adult friends. So, I just discuss my plans with him and it works out. You have to try it sometime. . .hopefully you can make the October DIS meet. . .or just meet some DIS friends also traveling with their kids on your next trip. . .its fun to hook up and make new friendships. . .

That would be October 2009

 

[Erin13178]

Hey everyone! I'm Erin, single Mom to a almost 4 year old dd. Ahhhh!

I live in Southern Indiana and I'm a City Carrier for the United States Postal Service.

Yes I need to check out single's trip thingy for 2009. I might just be game, lol.

 

[KyDerbyMan]

Evening, Erin.

We're practically neighbors!



And, Darcy, yeah...I think Oct. 2009 would work out great. And, who knows, maybe something sooner, too (but that depends on if I find a good scooter in the next couple of months or if I wait for the spring.)

 

[Sha]

Hi Erin!! Welcome... jump right in.. and check a couple posts down for another link... theres about 4 singles threads we have going and several of us post on them

 

[ANTSS2001]

Wow. I can really identify with that right now. I'll have to read through that on my next trip up to Barnes and Noble.


Guess I should fill in my details since this is a roll call thread


Jerry,

Hi!

Wow...this thread is really getting depressing. Timmy, why'd you revitalize it??



***Anyone who is single & has a love for all things Disney is welcome to join us!

what what what did I do ?? sorry reb.. have been stuck working for the past 2 days... finally I have to morning off tomorrow then anothe double on Friday!! Is it Saturday yet ??? T!!!!! I am so ready for a dismeet and some good crab cakes!!!

But I've finally gotten to a place in my life where I'm really happy and feel good about myself. I would like someone to share things with too


It'd be nice to have some close friends that you can call at a moments notice to go out to eat with/go on vacation with/see a movie with...

I don't NEED someone to make me happy

when is your nextt rip ???

truly know what you mean.. in my case I owe it all to my mom and dad... I was trained at a very early age... and I am grateful that I can get up and go and enjoy trips I planned for myself.. and yes... Friends are an added perk in the world I live in...

but there are just a few who really have the need to match a friend with someone but you gotta love em... they just mean well

Hey everyone! I'm Erin, single Mom to a almost 4 year old dd. Ahhhh!

I live in Southern Indiana and I'm a City Carrier for the United States Postal Service.

Yes I need to check out single's trip thingy for 2009. I might just be game, lol.

 

[rebecca06261]

what what what did I do ?? sorry reb.. have been stuck working for the past 2 days... finally I have to morning off tomorrow then anothe double on Friday!! Is it Saturday yet ??? T!!!!! I am so ready for a dismeet and some good crab cakes!!!

I wondered what happened to you! Don't work too hard

 

[Mousecop]

I just joined the Boards, after discovering the Podcast and listening since June '08 or so.

My name is Mark - I'm 54, and live near Dulles Airport in the Washington DC Area. I'm a technology and privacy lawyer for the FBI's Terrorist Screening Center. I've got one cat, who has her own favorite mouse (no, not Mickey - the one filled with catnip).

I'm originally a Southern California native, raised in Whitter and who attended Cal State Fullerton (or, "Cal State Disneyland"). From 1972 to 1975 I worked for Retlaw as a ride operator and conductor on the Disneyland Railroad (which was the Santa Fe and Disneyland Railroad when I started). My happiest memories come from my time in Security (1976-1981), because I got to be all over the Park instead of being stuck on one ride all year, and I made friends and had experiences in every Land. Yes, I am a member of the Disneyland Alumni Association (started by Van Arsdale France), and attended the 50th Cast Reunion. Also a member of the association of former Mousecops - Disneyland Security.

I hope other Disneylanders in the area will introduce themselves. I'm starting a Disney Meetup group out in my area, and your presence would be welcomed.

Please say 'hi.'

Mark

 

[Sha]

I just joined the Boards, after discovering the Podcast and listening since June '08 or so.

My name is Mark - I'm 54, and live near Dulles Airport in the Washington DC Area. I'm a technology and privacy lawyer for the FBI's Terrorist Screening Center. I've got one cat, who has her own favorite mouse (no, not Mickey - the one filled with catnip).

I'm originally a Southern California native, raised in Whitter and who attended Cal State Fullerton (or, "Cal State Disneyland"). From 1972 to 1975 I worked for Retlaw as a ride operator and conductor on the Disneyland Railroad (which was the Santa Fe and Disneyland Railroad when I started). My happiest memories come from my time in Security (1976-1981), because I got to be all over the Park instead of being stuck on one ride all year, and I made friends and had experiences in every Land. Yes, I am a member of the Disneyland Alumni Association (started by Van Arsdale France), and attended the 50th Cast Reunion. Also a member of the association of former Mousecops - Disneyland Security.

I hope other Disneylanders in the area will introduce themselves. I'm starting a Disney Meetup group out in my area, and your presence would be welcomed.

Please say 'hi.'

Mark

Hi Mark... welcome to the thread...

here are some others you might want to look into. There is a meet up your way this weekend... which is the first link

http://www.disboards.com/showthread.php?t=1818984

http://www.disboards.com/showthread.php?t=1774537

http://www.disboards.com/showthread.php?t=1867422

http://www.disboards.com/showthread.php?t=1850513