Single and wondering

[MAKmom]

Stacie, I think if you just follow your interests, you'll eventually find someone you're compatible with. Look at WDWLOVER, who said she started joining sci-fi groups. You love animals, so why not get involved in some of your local groups -- humane society, or aspca -- just volunteer a few hours a week and see what turns up. I met my DH when I was in my 20s, but I fully believed that I would never get married (didn't really want to). I met him online when I was looking for fellow writers. I ended up joining a tarot card group because I enjoyed playing around with them, and there he was.

I've also known people to have success from dating services (both online and regular ones). One of my best friends married a great guy she met from Matchmaker.

Don't give up.

I think this is great advice.

The advice I have for you is sometimes that person may be someone who you are not cRaZy over at first. I was not attracted to DH the first few times I met him...not sure why. Then I saw him in just a white Tshirt & jeans sitting with his arm folded & I was like hmmmm. The first couple of dates I would not kiss him because I was afraid there would be NO spark (BTW it is in the kiss)
That was 15 years ago.

 

[Mishetta]

I was single until I was 35. I too thought I would not get married. I just hadn't met the right guy. It was fine though because I had a good life & good friends & I traveled extensively. Then I met my DH at an Italian Catholic Singles meeting at a church in downtown L.A. It was love at first sight for me. He asked me for my phone number that night we met, had our first date 5 days later & he proposed to me 2 weeks after we met! Love was the last thing I expected to find at the Italian Catholic Singles meeting because I just went as a favor to a friend. We've been married for nearly 13 years now & he's still the best thing that ever happened to me. I have no regrets that I married him.

With all that said, I enjoyed my single life too. I really wanted to marry when I was in my 20's because all my friends were getting married & I wanted to live in that "romance" world but I think I did best in holding out. I got to enjoy my freedom. Now go & enjoy yours!

 

[Feralpeg]

I am 54 and have never been married. I've seen the good, bad and the ugly of relationships. It just didn't work for me. I will spare you the details. The fact that I didn't marry did not stop me from carrying out my dreams. I had a child by myself when I was 36. I consider her my crowing achievement. I managed to retire at age 52 and move to Orlando. Don't get me wrong. I have nothing against marriage and I have fleeting moments when I wished I had a soul-mate. That being said, I don't need to be married or have a man in my life to feel complete and content.

Don't stress. If it is meant to be, it will happen. If not, I'm sure you will be just fine.

 

[sunlver]

The advice I have for you is sometimes that person may be someone who you are not cRaZy over at first. I was not attracted to DH the first few times I met him...not sure why. Then I saw him in just a white Tshirt & jeans sitting with his arm folded & I was like hmmmm. The first couple of dates I would not kiss him because I was afraid there would be NO spark ago. :

Wow, I could of written the same thing. I was not attracted to my dh when I first met him either. He was nice, and great to talk too, but I did not think we had any future together.We have been married for 12 years. Though, our marriage is not great now. I was 29 when I got married, and the first time I fell in love. Unfortunately somewhere along the way I fell out of love, though I do have 3 wonderful, beautiful babies that came out of this marriage.

I do think if you are happy alone, so be it. I have a good friend who is 41 and single. She would love to be married and have kids, but she is just so darn picky. Over the years she has opportunity to be with men, but for one reason or another they werent the right one. I think my friend is happy being alone, she has a Masters degree, she works fulltime, pays all her own bills. Yet, I know she longs to find that special person.

 

[mickeysbestfriend]

I'm so old I creak when I walk but that has nothing to do with marriage or happiness. I was married (waited until I was 30 to take the plunge and should have paid attention to the fact that it was the shallow end I dove into) and really don't regret it. I learned a lot about myself and that being yourself is critical to your happiness. If I find the "right person" some day that will be great. For the time being I'm happy having female friends to spend time with and even a few who love Disney as much as I do.

I still believe in the "lightening bolt" and as such have stopped looking. When it strikes I hope I am ready!

 

[Thumper's Tara]

I can so relate to the OP. I am 31, single, "mom" to 4 furkids...and I have a ton of friends who have gotten married (and now are having kids).

I have to say that I enjoy being single. I love being able to go on a solo trip when and where I want. I enjoy that I am independent. I have done things that others just dream about - including living in Ukraine for 15 months.

Now, that being said, I do sometimes get a little down being the single one. However, I decided that I can't complain about it if I wasn't doing something about it. So, I try to get out there and be active. Enjoy life, do things that I like. Also, I have done some internet dating. I have found that Eharmony works best for me - they seem to match me with quality men. I have used other match sites that seem to scuzy for me...I felt like most of the men there were looking for one night stands. Yuck!

Anyway, I enjoy my life and I hope that I meet my mate, but if I don't that is okay. Today, it is possible to have kids without being married and if my biological clock starts ticking TOO loud, I will have one on my own.

Just my thoughts on the matter!

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