should you invest real emotiion into cyber relationships?

[Beauty]

I love you EROS

 

[EROS]

Originally posted by Beauty
I love you EROS

Beauty, you'll have to give up KURT

 

[LIDisneyFan]

BR,

Having met you IRL, I can't imagine you would have to worry about what anyone thinks about you. You are a strong woman who has dealt with a lot of adversity, are very bright and articulate. You reek of security (that's a real compliment from me!)

Be that as it may, you are certainly entitled to your feelings. I try not to let the grand exits and controversy (except the positive stuff) affect me, but I can understand how it can happen. Also, I have noticed that people get misunderstood much more easily in cyberspace, since you are typing rather than talking - there's no feedback loop that's truly effective.

So, let it roll off your back, and don't let anyone ruin your day - in RL or in cyberspace. You have too much going for you.

...LID

 

[DVCajun]

So I log on and participate, but keep a healthy distance. If anyone does say anything to hurt my feelings, I take it with a grain of salt, because I don't particularly care what they think.

Makes sense to me.

 

[Briar Rose 7457]

LIDisneyfan, you made my day.

how are you doing, my friend?

 

[Buckalew]

Just wondering, BR. Are things better? I hope so.

 

[Briar Rose 7457]

it was a rough day, but I survived.

 

[EROS]

BriarRose, you have a lot in common with GWEN.............

you both "wear your hearts" on your sleeves . Cyberrelationships can clearly be as painful as those in RL; there's a great deal of intimacy here. You HAVE to be cautious when approaching people in BOTH spheres.......

 

[PRINCESS VIJA]

As someone mentioned above, here on the boards and in my daily life, I have acquaintances and good, dear friends. I invest time into both. Being courteous and kind to both acquaintances and friends. Some acquaintances eventually become dear friends to me. I invest alot of time and emotion in those relationships, and most of all trust.

that being said, I think on the internet it is easy to have those lines blurred when posting a thread. If you haven't met outside of here, you can be distance if you so choose, and be "safe". But you can also open yourself up to a whole lot of hurt as well. You need to know where the boundaries are for yourself.

I have posted things here anonymously in the past, mostly for somethings that are painful for me, and that allows me to have the distance/safety that I need.

But on the flip side, I have gained a very good friend in Wovenwonder. She is truly an amazing lady, and I look forward to our almost daily emails. She means alot to me, and I count her as one of my dear friends, it doesn't matter to me if it is on the internet or not, she and I have a bond that has been a great blessing in my life.

 

[Dan Murphy]

BR, I think you, and others, probably know I take these boards seriously, (sometimes maybe too much so for my own health). I have derived a lot of enjoyment visiting with the many folks here on the DIS, interacting one way or another. A lot of people have helped me along the way, and reciprocally, I think I may have been of help to others along the way. Importantly, to me, I have made many friendships, certainly most in the world of the Internet. And, not diminishing that World, a good number of those friendships have developed into real life friendships. Some very good ones, ones I know will be lifetime friendships.

I respect most of the people here on the DIS, my only Net participation site. Taking the folks as seriously as I do, there have been times I have hurt some, some who have posted on this very thread. And likewise, there have been times I have been hurt. Several times deeply, once incredibly deeply. I have 'left' a number of times. Not really leaving, but rather taking a step back, a breather. But the people here, most of them, have always been a draw for me to return. The few who are hateful, mean and whatever other words fit their sad souls, are not enough to damage the whole.

I guess I am rambling, BR, as I often do on serious subjects (and to me this one is close to my heart and soul). For me, BR, for me it is worth it, yes. Without periodic pains? No. But that is the way it is in any relationship worthy of calling a relationship.

{{Hugs}}, BR, hope to meet you in person some day. Maybe we can share a Sabrett some day.

 

[MaryAnnDVC]

Very nice post, Dan.

 

[Beauty]

Beauty, you'll have to give up KURT

I REALLY REALLY LIKE YOU ALOT EROS

 

[Blondie]

Originally posted by Dan Murphy
But the people here, most of them, have always been a draw for me to return. The few who are hateful, mean and whatever other words fit their sad souls, are not enough to damage the whole.

I agree, it's the people that bring us back. Must say something, huh?

I also find the bullies of the cyberworld are the little quiet mice in the real world, who wouldn't dare think of being so bold to your face in person.

But remember something. You can tell a lot about who's going to be a good friend by the way they treat their other friends, both current and former.

So true.

 

[bumcat]

Adult bullies are just like kid bullies. They are lacking something in their peronal life. Maybe they should be pitied.

 

[Briar Rose 7457]

Dan, you've made me cry with your beautiful words. next time you're ion the NYC area, we HAVE to share a hot dog.

 

[LunarLady]

Dear Lord what psycho-drama did I miss now? I have REALLY got to do more to keep up.

I also didn't know what YAGE meant, so thanks to whomever for asking about it. I've seen it bandied about here and there and didn't have any clue.

 

[Briar Rose 7457]

believe me, LL, you don't want to know.


my favoirte Kevin henks quote: "Today was a bad day. tomorrow will be a better one."

he was right.

 

[wovenwonder]

Originally posted by PRINCESS VIJA

But on the flip side, I have gained a very good friend in Wovenwonder. She is truly an amazing lady, and I look forward to our almost daily emails. She means alot to me, and I count her as one of my dear friends, it doesn't matter to me if it is on the internet or not, she and I have a bond that has been a great blessing in my life.

How Sweet Vija -- Thank you! You surely know how much I value our ciber friendship too!

 

[JerseyJanice]

Originally posted by aahmom1
Wow Janice, I know quite a few people who could type out that exact response. How clever of you.

Originally posted by JAP
But they didn't and she did. What is your point? Many people on this thread have expressed nice feelings about internett BB and RL. Is JJ's response invalid for some reason?

Yes, JAP, I'm as baffled by that post as you are.

Looking at this poster's first response, I doubt she was thinking of posting what I wrote, so it's not as though I took the words out of her mouth.

 

[JerseyJanice]

hope things are better for you today, BR, and that you learned some things from what happened that caused you to post this. And I hope that other people learned some of the same things.

Take care.