Should I go to this wedding?

[clh2]

My friend is a dear sweet woman, I know her through crafting (mostly rubber stamping) and I've known her for at least 5 years, probably longer. However we don't see each other outside of crafting. We try to talk about once or twice a month, generally related to crafting.

Her son, who I've never met, is getting married in 2 weeks. Our group of crafting friends has heard about the wedding plans, the bride, the parents of the bride, etc for about 2 years. We've all known that as the mother of the groom, she was really tasked with keeping her guest list way down. None of us expected an invitation. The hall is at capacity.

I was talking to my friend yesterday, and she asked me if I would like to come to the church to at least be able to see the wedding. I called my friend because I really wanted to wish her well at the wedding, and to remind her to make sure she takes it easy in the next 2 weeks, (she is in her mid 60's, and not in the best of health) so she doesn't get too "pooped out" to enjoy herself. Part of me really thinks she would like to have some friends at the wedding, even though she is not able to have many at the reception.

Can I go to the wedding - even though I've never met the bride or groom, and barely know her husband?

 

[Pam]

Sure, why not?

I think it would be a lovely idea to show up and see your friend in all her wedding finery. I am sure she would be very appreciative of your gesture.

 

[Chattyaholic]

I think, if the mother of the groom invited you, that it would be perfectly fine to attend the wedding if you want to.

I went to a wedding once that I wasn't invited to. My parents were invited to the wedding of their friends' son, but at the last minute my Dad got sick and couldn't go so my Mom invited me. Since I knew the people and wasn't an "extra person" (just taking my Dad's place) I didn't feel like I shouldn't go. Mom didn't want to go alone, and wouldn't have gone if I hadn't gone with her.

 

[EeyoreFan1]

Sure, if you really wanted too.

 

[Beth76]

Anyone can attend a ceremony at a church. If you want to attend then you should.

 

[helenabear]

I agree that you ought to go. If she asked you to be at the ceremony, then you should go and enjoy it! I am sure she would love to know that a few of her friends were able to be there supporting the wedding

 

[CEDmom]

You can definitely go and I think it would mean a lot to your friend.

 

[clh2]

Thanks! I've never gone to a wedding where I haven't known the bride/groom so that does seem a little ackward. However, I love weddings~period.

One of our other stamping buddies is a Mary Kay consultant, and she has offered to do the make-up our friend, so I know she is going to look spectacular. Those two have been working on the make-up look for a while to get just the right look. The MOG historically doesn't wear make-up, but she doesn't want to look "plain" at the wedding. I'm sure that the M/K person will be at the wedding too.

Right now, I don't have anything to do the afternoon of the wedding, so I am going to go. Thanks for the help!

 

[Stacerita]

Sure, why not.

 

[Hannathy]

She invited you I would go. I may not sit front and center -saving that for closer friends and family -but I would go. In the dark ages when I was younger people often had a church wedding and then punch and cookies in the church reception room for everyone and then would have a reception later in the day for only invited persons somewhere else. Your invitation would have a seperate invitation included to the later reception.

 

[Idol_Fan]

Depends on what YOU feel is right. If it was me i'd be all like "free cake! woo-hoo!"

 

[LoraJ]

I think it would be nice to go to the church part.

 

[Keli]

I see no reason not to go. Your friend would appreciate it and it won't add any costs to the bride or groom.
I liked it when friends of my parents and my dh's parents came to our wedding. It was just nicer to have lots of people wishing us well and witnessing the lifelong committment we were making to each other.

 

[lulugirl]

I think it would be a nice gesture.

 

[azgal81]

Sounds like she wants you to go so I would go!

 

[Disney Doll]

I've done that a couple of times...anyone can go to the church, and if the woman is a friend of yours, why not? She asked you to go to the ceremony. It's actually nice that you aren't getting offended about not getting invited to the whole shebang...nice of you to be understanding about the guest list and the need to trim it somewhere.

 

[PaulaSue]

I am sorry but I would never go to a wedding I wasn't invited to. Correct me but I thought I read that you said you didn't even know the ones getting married. Maybe plan on taking the MIL to be out for a drink/meal after or earlier in the day?

 

[clh2]

PaulaSue - the MOG invited me to the church, not a MIL. I doubt she will have time to do anything not related to the wedding in the next 2 weeks. That was why I called her this past week.

 

[momrek06]

Anyone can attend a ceremony at a church. If you want to attend then you should.

ABSOLUTELY! Anyone can attend a ceremony in a church!!! It is the reception that follows anything you attend at the church is where you would need a personal invite. CHURCH IS OPEN TO ALL!

My mom goes to Mass so often that many times on a Saturday morn it is a wedding. SHe is funny like that....then tells us all with detail about it all and mind you we know NO ONE there...