To the OP: if you can afford it, I would recommend that you buy direct at whichever resort you like best. On a
price per point per year basis, there are several resorts that are priced (on a direct basis) in a pretty tight band. Those would include CCV, SSR, RR, PVB, OKW, VGF, BLT, AKV, and AUL. It comes down to things like specific sales incentives as well as the
points charts.
It used to be that everyone would call direct buyers uneducated - making decisions with their heart on impulse instead of their head. My latest thinking is that the pendulum has swing too far the other way. Now it is the resale buyers who appear less willing to think about this critically. Resale prices have gone up considerably, and resale buyers are only looking at the upfront cost savings and assuming that is the way to go. The best perk/benefit of DVC is the ability to use points at all current
and future resorts. And Disney knows this (thus the restrictions). The difference between direct and resale is typically only $1-2 per point per year. For that extra cost, you get access to ~50 years of current
and brand new DVC resorts, including likely the "new" BCV, BWV, and BRV opening in ~2043 and beyond.
In the long term, the resale restrictions will affect everybody. Sure, today it does not seem that bad, but as we get closer to 2042, and therefore closer to BWV/BCV/BRV going away, fewer and fewer people are going to be interested in buying resale points, depressing the value of
everyone's DVC points. In 10 years, will resale buyers be excited about 10 more years of the full slate of resorts (ex-Riviera), but then being relegated to only 7 (!) WDW resorts (CCV, SSR, PVB, OKW, VGF, BLT, and AKV) for the following 10-25 years? And, at that point, those properties will range from ~15-30 years old. The points charts will probably look great at that point due to inflation, but those resorts will be more tired/dated. New buyers will want to go direct, depressing resale prices.
With young kids, and the potential to pass this on to them in the future, I would recommend buying direct. For only $1-2 per point per year extra, they are going to be able to take their families to the newest and best resorts at Disney in 2061, rather than picking between at most three resorts (if you buy CCV resale).