~~~ Sew, we’re debt FREEEEEEEE!!! And headed to DLP! ~~~ Spring 2018

[dolewhipdreams]

First time follower here. Wow you have so much going on right now! I'm looking forward to seeing your updates on them all!

 

[Sweetly]

So glad that V is having a wonderful time. Love her vase! V is so talented. Safe travels to her.

Glad you are becoming debt free. It's a wonderful feeling! Glad Dad is closer and his new place looks lovely. Sorry his is unhappy with his living arrangements. It's not easy when they get older. I remember when my grandfather needed more care. It was not easy on us. He would ask the same questions over and over. He did have dementia. So that made it hard on us. My mom would make him notes. This helped him greatly and it made things easier on us. It's never easy on the ones who are taking care of them. I think of you and your dad often.

So excited about your eating healthy. Lately, I have been so bad. Things have been insane. My daughter did extra classes this summer to keep her college credits down. Which meant we really didn't see her too much this summer. She has been home the last two weeks. Which has been a blessing since mom had surgery. Mom is recovering well. Extremely sore, but she was never one to let anything slow her down.

I am so excited that you are planning your DLP trip! I cannot wait to follow along. We have the bug to do another WDW trip, but we just can't decide. Maybe DL. We have plenty of time to decide as we cannot travel till sometime next summer.

Have a wonderful day!

 

[MerissaAndMomLoveDis]

Hi! I'm a huge Outlander fan too. I was in the library last week and saw the author's latest book, Seven Stones To Stand Or Fall, on the new books shelf and grabbed it. I had already read a few of the stories in this anthology collection, but enjoyed the ones that were new to me. I'm not as crazy about the Lord John stories as I am about the Jamie and Clair based stories, but it was still a fun read. Have you read it yet?

Also, I really loved V's vase--beautiful!!!

 

[DMGeurts]

I'm so sorry to hear about your Dad, especially how he treated Allison. At this point it seems as if he is reacting irrationally to the situation, which makes it impossible to reason with him. I would guess that there is more than just the size of the apartment bothering him. He had a big move and a lot of changes, plus he is in a dependent state, which always makes someone feel helpless. He lashes out at the people who love him because that feels safe.

Is there a counseling staff member at his residence to help deal with depression or other adjustment issues? I would think that some of his reactions are common among people in his situation. My aunt is in a place like that and all the residents spend a lot of time complaining. I think he needs to come to terms with the idea that he is in a good place where the disadvantages of the size of the room are outweighed by the closeness of his family. I wish you luck. You did your best and there is no guarantee he would be happy somewhere else.

You are doing great!

I feel the same way... I also feel like he has had so much stress in his life and I should be more understanding. It's just hard when I am the brunt of it - and I know how it feels, to hear that Allison was treated that way makes me so sad for her, as like me, she would do anything for him. I stayed away yesterday, didnt' even call him... I may go into town this afternoon to see how he is doing.

I am not sure on that - however, I do plan to send an email today to see if there are any resources there for him. It has only been 2 weeks, but my dad has NEVER been an angry man, so I am really stumped on this one - I can only imagine how stressful this must be for him and how hard all of the changes are.

Thank you, it feels great to have my groove back! During all of the stress this summer, the anxiety of V leaving and being gone + packing and moving dad, it's been the one thing in my life that I feel has kept me sane. LOL

I'm late to the party too. Glad to see you've started a new PTR. How exciting! Glad Victoria has been enjoying her trip and hasn't been homesick.

I am also having issues with my father, 88 next month. He fell in Feb. while we were in Florida and hit his head. He went to the hospital to get checked out and went home the same day, but hasn't been the same. His mind has always been so sharp and we noticed some confusion and repeating of the same things over and over when we call him each day. Anyway he fell in his basement last month and just said he wanted to go home to die as he felt terrible. I just said it's not up to him. This time they recommended transitional care which helped him gain so much strength, but I think the confusion is getting worse. I'm sure a nursing home is in his future even though he says no. He didn't even want transitional care but I told him he wasn't going home, so he said he'd try. It's so hard to deal with so I know what you're going through. It sounds like a great option for your dad and for you to be so close by. It'll be hard for him to adjust as he's probably set in his ways, but give him some time. Good for Alison in still taking him out and not letting his yelling get to her too much. Maybe her new job helps her deal with him better.

Great job on getting back on track with your eating. I wish I could get back on track too. I've gained back some of the weight I had lost before I retired and it's so frustrating. I've always just cut back my eating and exercised more, but I'm finding I just don't want to exercise when it's warm. At least I can still get out and walk. Now that's it cooler I've started exercising again. I love the pictures of your progress and wanted to let you know you're an inspiration to me.

Hey there!!! It's great to see you! Remind me of your first name - you know I try so hard to remember these things, but it's been a while. And - you are NEVER late to one of my parties. LOL

This is so difficult, isn't it. I don't think Dad has too many confusion/memory issues yet? There have been a few minor things - but for the most part his memory is pretty good - so is his hearing. LOL I am confident that you will make the right decision for your Dad, as I have for mine... Hopefully the adjustment goes better for you. I know her job is a HUGE bonus to us and our current situation with dad - the people she cares for are way worse off than Dad is - so I am sure that he is a piece of cake comparatively... Even taking that into consideration though - I don't think there are that many 19 y/o who would tackle so many errands with so much to consider - I know, even for me, I was very intimidated by it all until he moved here... Having him local has made all the difference in my ability to maneuver him out in public. I guess - just being in familiar territory and knowing that help is close by makes me a lot more confident... That, and I've since learned how to change his oxygen, and do it most of the time for him now.

Thank you - it was a very difficult road getting to that place, and I am still unsure of how I did it? I am very relieved to be back in my groove again, and seeing my body respond in a positive way - it's very encouraging. I know - I enjoy walking so much too... I just always try to do it as an addition to my regular working out - otherwise I just don't feel like it's "enough" for me... I really need to work it into my schedule more often. Maybe this fall??? I am getting anxious for fall weather - though, I know that means winter is right around the corner, and I could live the rest of my life without that cold. LOL I hope you are able to find something to encourage you to continue on your path - it's not easy. Sending you hugs!

Thanks for the picture of your Dad's place - it looks so nice! I think it's human nature to eventually adjust to our surroundings. It's great he can get out and around. Maybe because he doesn't like the size of his apt, that will give him the push to get out and socialize, take part in activities or ?? Unacceptable to lash out at your DD but probably good to give him a pass this time around since he's still adjusting to his new situation. Seems like she's following a good path - she sounds like a natural with handling the elderly. Don't lose sight of the fact you did the right thing with moving him. It's inevitable that he'll have a health situation pop up and it will be so much easier on all concerned that you're close by.

Yes, please include ALL your planning! Normandy is definitely on my list of places to visit. Will you have time to spend time at the American Cemetery?

P.S. You look fabulous!

I think Dad's new apartment is very nice... I really need to work on more pictures - I just forget while I am there. I sure hope his adjustment happens soon... I've been so exhausted with the entire move, that this part is just wearing on me... Thankful to have the move itself out of the way though - that is a huge burden gone. He was socializing for a while... Not sure if he still is? I need to double check on that part - as it's good for him. I am working so hard at being understanding about this whole situation - I know it is very difficult for him - I mind less when he is angry with me (though it is wearing on me) than him being angry at Allison, as she just has no say or responsibility in this situation at all... For that matter - I have very little say myself - this is all government funding stuff, so that is the hard part - there is little that I can do.

Thank you for the vote of confidence... It means a lot to have people who understand.

I have done absolutely no research yet... I know we will only have 2 days/1 night at Normandy - so a lot will depend on what we can accomplish in that time... I have no idea how much time it should reasonably take and what we can fit into that schedule. I plan to start researching some of this in the coming weeks.

Thank you - it's been a long road for me, as you know... so it's a relief to have some progress again!

• I'm sorry your dad is having such a hard time adjusting to his new apartment. From your pictures, it looks really nice. It's too bad that Allison had to take the brunt of his anger yesterday. I'd stay away today, too. Hopefully he will eventually get used to living there but I'm wondering if something else is going on that is adding to his anger.
• Congrats on losing the weigh and size. You look really good in your pictures.
• My daughter and I have gotten back to geocaching after taking some time off from it. There weren't any new caches in the area but now there are. We like walking in the woods so we do those types.
• about the same. Our store manager stepped down and we're getting a new one soon I haven't met him yet. I do know he's from the Columbus area.
• We're still walking 5k's and have one the end of the month.
• Have a good day
• Liz

Hi Liz... Well I successfully stayed away yesterday... It was hard - as I really wanted to check in with him, but I laid low and worked hard at home to distract myself. I am working on getting him in touch with his local church family - I think that could be a huge issue with this? I reached out so some of his family yesterday for ideas, and this came up - so I plan to work this angle over the coming days.

Thank you! It's been such a struggle for me over the last year, as you know - so it's incredibly nice to finally have some progress.

Yay for geocacheing!!! I know you enjoy it, and it's such a great activity for the two of you!

Good luck with work and the mgmt changeover - I don't know about you, but they come and go so often at our store, you just get used to it after a while.

Good luck with your next 5k!!!

Thanks for catching me up Liz - it's always nice to hear what everyone is up to!

Good morning Dorine. I wanted to chime in a little bit about your Dad. I know you are very frustrated and feel hurt that you worked so hard and wanted your Dad to like his new place and be comfortable with it. But, for some reason, when our parents age they start to act more like children especially the terrible two's stage. I second the post about seeing if there was a counselor or geriatric specialist at his facility. The people at the assisted living place for mom were fantastic and helped me so much, even helping me with the difficult transition to the memory care facility. You might talk to the director of his place. It would be a big help if they had one, but expect your Dad to still have his moments. If he is getting angry at Allison then yes you don't need to sweep this under the rug and just hope, I think you need to be proactive. If his unhappiness and anger continues, maybe you should take some tours of other facilities with him. Either he would like one better, and feel like he had more say so in the matter, or realize his place is pretty good. You can email or PM me any time, I know personally how hard this is. I think right now a third party would be your best help.

So excited to be following along with this PTR!! And yes you should include as much of Europe as you like. I want to see so many regions of Italy, and I want to visit Barcelona, and you are going to be a big bucket list of mine, Normandy. I absolutely love history.

Take care of yourself Dorine!!! (You look amazing). Have a wonderful Wednesday.

LOL - agreed Carol... Very similar to a 2 year old... I plan to reach out to his assisted living apartment today... The Administrator has touched base with me a few times, and at one point told me to make sure I reach out if things aren't going well - as there is nothing they can do unless they know... So, I intend to reach out today.

I am also thinking that taking him on other tours may be a good thing for him - just so he can see what I was up against, and maybe have a better feel of what is actually available to him. Thanks Carol for the suggestions!

I am so thankful that both of my girls were able to enjoy Italy, I am not sure if I will ever get the same awesome opportunity as they did? But I am glad that they were able to - that means more to me. I do plan to put most of my Europe planning here in this PTR - when I get started on it... Just waiting for V to get home first - then I can work on "our turn".

Thanks Carol! Same to you!

Love that you're back with a new PTR!! You bring lots of happiness to my DISing!!

Hi Jackie!!!! So happy to see you here!

Inspired this morning by reading about your health journey! Congrats on your health and financial successes!

Welcome!!! Thank you - it has been such a long journey for me - with many ups and downs... I am shocked and thankful that I was able to continue on and move forward. Thanks for stopping by, it was nice meeting you.

First time follower here. Wow you have so much going on right now! I'm looking forward to seeing your updates on them all!

Welcome!!! Hahahaha - yes - my life is rarely dull. I am hoping that I have a boring spot real soon. Thanks for stopping by - it's nice to meet you!

So glad that V is having a wonderful time. Love her vase! V is so talented. Safe travels to her.

Glad you are becoming debt free. It's a wonderful feeling! Glad Dad is closer and his new place looks lovely. Sorry his is unhappy with his living arrangements. It's not easy when they get older. I remember when my grandfather needed more care. It was not easy on us. He would ask the same questions over and over. He did have dementia. So that made it hard on us. My mom would make him notes. This helped him greatly and it made things easier on us. It's never easy on the ones who are taking care of them. I think of you and your dad often.

So excited about your eating healthy. Lately, I have been so bad. Things have been insane. My daughter did extra classes this summer to keep her college credits down. Which meant we really didn't see her too much this summer. She has been home the last two weeks. Which has been a blessing since mom had surgery. Mom is recovering well. Extremely sore, but she was never one to let anything slow her down.

I am so excited that you are planning your DLP trip! I cannot wait to follow along. We have the bug to do another WDW trip, but we just can't decide. Maybe DL. We have plenty of time to decide as we cannot travel till sometime next summer.

Have a wonderful day!

Yes - V is enjoying this trip so much! It makes me happy - so happy!

I am not sure if notes would help dad or not??? At this point - I am willing to try almost anything. I just know that this has been hard on him, harder than I thought it would be - as anger has NEVER been a personality trait for him, and that makes me sad more than anything. I want him to enjoy these last years of his life as much as possible.

It's been such a relief for me too - to finally be back on the right path and moving forward... It's been such a long and tough road!

Glad to hear that your dd has been home to help out - and bonus that you get to see more of her. Hopefully your mom's recovery continues to go well, and life returns to normal soon.

While I am excited - very excited - to go to Europe and DLP... It's not WDW, and that's where my heart truly is... I am just happy to have *something* to plan, LOL... But I cannot wait to start planning wdw again. I sure hope you are able to start planning your trip soon - it's always fun to have something to dream about!

Thanks for checking in - it's always wonderful seeing you here!

Hi! I'm a huge Outlander fan too. I was in the library last week and saw the author's latest book, Seven Stones To Stand Or Fall, on the new books shelf and grabbed it. I had already read a few of the stories in this anthology collection, but enjoyed the ones that were new to me. I'm not as crazy about the Lord John stories as I am about the Jamie and Clair based stories, but it was still a fun read. Have you read it yet?

Also, I really loved V's vase--beautiful!!!

Ahhh - yes!!! I really want to reread those books - I might just do that when I finish the Poldark series. I knew Diana Gabaldon had come out with a new book, but I wasn't that interested in it - as it seemed like it was more of a John Grey book, and I haven't read any of those - mostly because our library system only has digital copies of those books and I'd prefer to read them as an actual book. One day, I'll get brave and download them so I can read them. I am anxiously awaiting the new novel - I was extremely disappointed when I read on her website that it definitely wouldn't be out until next year. So, now I am just trying to find something good to read until then. LOL

I really love it too - I am excited to see it in person! She did a great job on it!

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Well, I reached out to some family yesterday morning regarding Dad and if they feel like I am missing something... They all agreed that my idea of taking him to other assisted living apartments in the area might be good for him - he can either see how good he has it, or not. I guess? I also plan to reach out to the assisted living apartment today, and just let them know that dad is having difficulty... Hoping they have some resources there - or can point me in the right direction. Finally - I also reached out to his "local" church (the closest one is 30 miles away) - hoping to get someone to come and do some bible study with him and volunteer some time in prayer with him - I think he is very much missing his church family as well (though he hasn't been active in quite some time, my fault, as he was an hour away from his church at his previous home) - on top of that, my Aunt/Uncle in Washington state - their church service is live streamed - so I plan to show dad how to do that on the community computer - so hopefully he can "attend" church service with his brother and family... I think that will help a lot too. Working lots of angles here - and hopefully all of them help to some degree. I plan to go visit him this afternoon (I stayed away yesterday), and hopefully he is doing better.

I worked out yesterday - Level 2 of the 30 day shred... Plank crazyness!!!

Then I worked upstairs all day - I never even left the house.

I did Skype with V for about an hour though - that is always a highlight of my day! The girl FINALLY misses me! Took her long enough! LOL

>>>> insert awesome photo here, but photobucket is being stupid this morning <<<<<​

That's about all for yesterday...

Today - I plan to work this morning, then I plan to head to Dad's this morning. Fingers crossed that he is in a better mood.

I hope you all have a wonderful day! Sending prayers and pixie dust out to all!

D~

 

[dolewhipdreams]

Finally - I also reached out to his "local" church (the closest one is 30 miles away) - hoping to get someone to come and do some bible study with him and volunteer some time in prayer with him - I think he is very much missing his church family as well (though he hasn't been active in quite some time, my fault, as he was an hour away from his church at his previous home) - on top of that, my Aunt/Uncle in Washington state - their church service is live streamed - so I plan to show dad how to do that on the community computer - so hopefully he can "attend" church service with his brother and family...

This is a great idea. I know how important a church family can be so hopefully that gives him a better sense of community if he can get plugged back in somehow.

I worked out yesterday - Level 2 of the 30 day shred... Plank crazyness!!!

I'm doing this workout, too! Level 2 is kicking my behind. I miss Level 1!

 

[Texan]

I think you are reading my mind Dorine; I was going to add a suggestion in if you could reach out to "his" church; there are many resources at church for someone to come visit and pray and what not; that would make a big difference. Let us know if you get some direction from the directors of his facility. I have been praying specifically for you and your Dad and this situation. Don't beat yourself up about this; I will always remind you of what an amazing job you are doing as a daughter You need your Dad close to you.

Can't wait to see V get home! Prayers there as well.

 

[Born 2B a Princess]

Sorry to be so slow on replies - my new job has been insanely busy, although I know it will slow down once I get more settled in and have established a daily routine/rhythm. I'll be spending much of my time in meetings, which is not something I enjoy...but it's part of the job.

V's vase is lovely -- she's such a talented artist.

I am very excited and curious to hear about the other trip you may have going...I am hoping to start planning our Disneyland trip for next year, but I feel like I need to wait until we get more settled on our housing situation out here. We haven't decided if we're going to build a house or buy an existing house, but are strongly leaning toward building a house. I want to get that decision finalized and moving along so I have a better idea of the budget I'll have to work with for the trip. Also need to figure out what time of year we want to go -- if we go at the end of April/early May when I'd like to get then Mark can't come...but if we go later in August Brie will have to leave her summer job early, which means losing about $1500 in income -- huge since she's paying for school herself. So it's just something we need to sort out and nail down before I can make hotel reservations or buy tickets. I'm also planning to use part of next year's tax return to fund the trip... I've been told by friends and family members who go to Disneyland frequently that I really don't need to make hotel reservations until December/January if we're going to go in April/May, so at this point in time I just need to start researching the good neighbor hotels and identify some good options. It will be nice to have another trip to plan!

I'm so sorry about your Dad taking his frustrations out on you and Allison. That is heartbreaking. Sounds like he's having a difficult time with this transition, but I think that's partially to be expected due to his age. His insulin being off could have also affected it -- my Mom seems to experience some irritability when her insulin isn't adjusted correctly. It sounds like he's having a hard time really grasping how necessary this change was, how much work and effort you've all poured into it, and how much it's going to benefit him. I will keep all of you in my prayers for things to smooth out and for him to find and focus on the positive aspects of this move.

My cousin's name is Katrina Van Wees and her husband is KeesJan Van Wees. Their cheese operation (I have no idea what those things are called, LOL) is called Clara Maria Family Farm and is located in Amstelveen. If you google it you can find a CBS News bit that aired several months ago about the operation, and some articles about it. Here's one -- https://expatexplore.com/blog/dutch-cheese-clogs-made-clara-maria-family-40-years/

I understand your comments on the "perfectionist" attributes and how Whole30 impacts that. I noticed that particularly with Brie. I'm not as compliant as I should be but I do try -- I have noticed that I definitely feel better when I'm eating cleaner and more closely to a Whole30 model. Brie has been research Paleo and is leaning that direction. She is very focused on healthy eating and exercise and I commend her for that!

Tomorrow is Alyssa's college graduation -- we are so excited for her and so proud of her, and so grateful that we're able to be here for this special event.

Have a great day!

 

[branmuffin]

Hey, D! Thanks for the encouragement. We have been digging into a few projects this week, and we had a little break in the rain yesterday so we were able to get out a little.

I sincerely hope the issues with your Dad can be lessened as time goes on. It looked like you had a better visit today (from the FB photo). Allison is so sweet to take an active role with her grandfather. Many kids that age would not. It definitely speaks to her heart.

I am glad that you were able to have a nice long conversation with V on skype. It's nice to know she misses you at least a little bit, lol.

 

[debjk4]

I got so excited when I saw your PTR! I read your last TR and enjoyed it so much~ you inspire me as I am at the beginning of my healthy journey. I think you might inspire me even more with your budgeting and paying off debt! We have some and it just feels soooo overwhelming to even think about....My oldest daughter is a senior this year and the youngest is a junior so I will be going through all that you spoke of too! It's good to know that others have some similar experiences and it's fun to read your updates to see how you deal with all of it! Plus---can't wait to see DLP!!

 

[DMGeurts]

This is a great idea. I know how important a church family can be so hopefully that gives him a better sense of community if he can get plugged back in somehow.

I'm doing this workout, too! Level 2 is kicking my behind. I miss Level 1!

I think so too - I sure wish they'd call me back... My family assured me that if it's a small church - they may only have someone there on the weekends, so I am hoping to hear something by Monday.

It's insane - isn't it??? A person thinks "ahhh, a 20 min workout, easy peasy" Hahahahahahha... By the time I am done - I am dead. LOL To be honest - I've been doing this particular set of workouts for well over 5 years... Now, rather than doing each level for 10 days, I just rotate through all levels during the week... Typically I do L1 on Mon, L2 on Wed, L3 on Fri. Than I get a little bit of death every day. Today is L3 - and honestly L3 is my favorite of the 3.

I think you are reading my mind Dorine; I was going to add a suggestion in if you could reach out to "his" church; there are many resources at church for someone to come visit and pray and what not; that would make a big difference. Let us know if you get some direction from the directors of his facility. I have been praying specifically for you and your Dad and this situation. Don't beat yourself up about this; I will always remind you of what an amazing job you are doing as a daughter You need your Dad close to you.

Can't wait to see V get home! Prayers there as well.

I called his church yesterday (I emailed the day before), and still no response. My family told me though, if it's a small church - it may not be staffed during the week - so I am hoping to hear something by Monday. Thank you for all the prayers and your confidence in me - we had a great day with dad yesterday, I didn't bring up anything to him, and I likely won't until he is angry about it again.

Not sure if you saw my post to you on FB? Dad got your card yesterday - and he showed to to everyone that came into his apartment - it was so cute. You truly made his day! Thank you for that.

Me too, thank you... Pictures below!!!!

Sorry to be so slow on replies - my new job has been insanely busy, although I know it will slow down once I get more settled in and have established a daily routine/rhythm. I'll be spending much of my time in meetings, which is not something I enjoy...but it's part of the job.

V's vase is lovely -- she's such a talented artist.

I am very excited and curious to hear about the other trip you may have going...I am hoping to start planning our Disneyland trip for next year, but I feel like I need to wait until we get more settled on our housing situation out here. We haven't decided if we're going to build a house or buy an existing house, but are strongly leaning toward building a house. I want to get that decision finalized and moving along so I have a better idea of the budget I'll have to work with for the trip. Also need to figure out what time of year we want to go -- if we go at the end of April/early May when I'd like to get then Mark can't come...but if we go later in August Brie will have to leave her summer job early, which means losing about $1500 in income -- huge since she's paying for school herself. So it's just something we need to sort out and nail down before I can make hotel reservations or buy tickets. I'm also planning to use part of next year's tax return to fund the trip... I've been told by friends and family members who go to Disneyland frequently that I really don't need to make hotel reservations until December/January if we're going to go in April/May, so at this point in time I just need to start researching the good neighbor hotels and identify some good options. It will be nice to have another trip to plan!

I'm so sorry about your Dad taking his frustrations out on you and Allison. That is heartbreaking. Sounds like he's having a difficult time with this transition, but I think that's partially to be expected due to his age. His insulin being off could have also affected it -- my Mom seems to experience some irritability when her insulin isn't adjusted correctly. It sounds like he's having a hard time really grasping how necessary this change was, how much work and effort you've all poured into it, and how much it's going to benefit him. I will keep all of you in my prayers for things to smooth out and for him to find and focus on the positive aspects of this move.

My cousin's name is Katrina Van Wees and her husband is KeesJan Van Wees. Their cheese operation (I have no idea what those things are called, LOL) is called Clara Maria Family Farm and is located in Amstelveen. If you google it you can find a CBS News bit that aired several months ago about the operation, and some articles about it. Here's one -- https://expatexplore.com/blog/dutch-cheese-clogs-made-clara-maria-family-40-years/

I understand your comments on the "perfectionist" attributes and how Whole30 impacts that. I noticed that particularly with Brie. I'm not as compliant as I should be but I do try -- I have noticed that I definitely feel better when I'm eating cleaner and more closely to a Whole30 model. Brie has been research Paleo and is leaning that direction. She is very focused on healthy eating and exercise and I commend her for that!

Tomorrow is Alyssa's college graduation -- we are so excited for her and so proud of her, and so grateful that we're able to be here for this special event.

Have a great day!

You have been on my mind Stephanie - I've been praying for you, and sending pixie dust this week as you adjust to your new home and jobs.

The other trip we are planning is a WDW trip... It's pretty hush-hush yet, but it's looking like it will happen late in the year of 2018. That's about all I can tell you for now... but I am pretty excited about it. This time, I will pack warmer clothes.

I hope you can figure out the timing on your next trip and hopefully everyone is able to join you - I know how precious that time is for you, as it is for me - and how much we look forward to it.

That is a good thought about his insulin - I didn't think of that, and it does make sense. He was much better yesterday - I guess that's why I am so confused... When I was there on Wednesday (?) he was great... Allison was there a few hours later and he wasn't... Stayed away for a day, and both of us were there yesterday - again he was great... I guess, it's just an adjustment period and there will be good/bad days, and we just need to roll with it. Hopefully the bad days get fewer and fewer between.

I know I will ask you about the cheese place again before we go - and if I don't, please remind me... I'd love to see it done - as I LOVE Dutch cheese (even though I am no longer eating cheese, but there will be exceptions... LOL)

Yes - W30 really messes me up... Even when I was struggling over the last year, I tried a few times to do a W30, and I just couldn't get it to stick, then I would feel even more "failure-like" after... I would try to do Primal, and I was just eating too much cheese and dairy... Finally - I was just fed up and landed in between at Paleo, and that is going wonderfully!!! I don't want to mess with it at all at the moment, though I do have thoughts of trying for another W30 at some point.

Congrats to Alyssa!!! Enjoy the day with her - I am so happy that you are able to be there for that too!!! Have fun!

Thanks for checking in - you've been on my mind!

Hey, D! Thanks for the encouragement. We have been digging into a few projects this week, and we had a little break in the rain yesterday so we were able to get out a little.

I sincerely hope the issues with your Dad can be lessened as time goes on. It looked like you had a better visit today (from the FB photo). Allison is so sweet to take an active role with her grandfather. Many kids that age would not. It definitely speaks to her heart.

I am glad that you were able to have a nice long conversation with V on skype. It's nice to know she misses you at least a little bit, lol.

Good - I am glad to hear that!!! I hope the rest of the time DH is away goes quickly and the sun shines! I saw your pics on FB, looks like you had a glorious day!

Thank you - me too... Yes - we had a much better visit yesterday. I dunno, sometimes I think he just broods about it (I do that on certain subjects too...) and by the time someone gets there, he is angry... In all honesty - I do think he likes the facility, his care providers and the location very much... After a good visit yesterday, I am optimistic again for the future. Allison is so great with him - I don't even have to beg her to visit him - most days, she takes it upon herself... She either stops after work or she will make a special trip into town... She has missed having family nearby so much - and missed having active grandparents in her life - so she takes it all out on Grandpa.

Yup - she finally misses me... Kinda wish she could have stayed longer so she missed me more... But I will take what I can get. LOL I will be happy to have her home and in her own bed again - so this momma can really breathe easy.

Thanks for stopping by Brandi - it's always wonderful to catch up with you!

I got so excited when I saw your PTR! I read your last TR and enjoyed it so much~ you inspire me as I am at the beginning of my healthy journey. I think you might inspire me even more with your budgeting and paying off debt! We have some and it just feels soooo overwhelming to even think about....My oldest daughter is a senior this year and the youngest is a junior so I will be going through all that you spoke of too! It's good to know that others have some similar experiences and it's fun to read your updates to see how you deal with all of it! Plus---can't wait to see DLP!!

Welcome!!! I am happy to see you here and enjoying!

I am so happy to hear that you are starting on your healthy journey... I am always willing to share anything you are interested in hearing about - and anything you aren't too.

Taking this debt free journey has changed our lives in countless ways... Not only us, but our kids too... It's incredible. Just to see them succeed financially - they are at the perfect age to really take in everything we are doing... At first I feared that we were too late for them - but thankfully, they both live at home and they both work - along with having their own things in life to save for... So, they watch us closely and follow the exact same budgeting rules we do... For instance - Allison, in the last 2 weeks has pulled several double shifts with bonuses and she is able to make an almost triple payment to her student loans this pay day, ON TOP of paying all of her regular bills and expenses, plus she has a decent savings account which she has built herself... Super proud of this girl - to be able to correlate the fact that if you work more, you get more... It took us a LONG time to figure that out - well not really a long time, but to figure out what to do with the extra is a big deal... I used to just blow it (sad). I totally encourage you to start, or continue on - wherever you may be... I am also always happy to email out my budget worksheet (if you have Office) - it's a great tool. Let me know. Or if you have any questions - I am always happy to add my 2 cents.

I am looking forward to sharing our planning for Europe too... I have so many ideas! LOL And so much I want to see - but especially - I just want to spend time with family. So that will be a big part of planning too.

Again welcome!

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I had a really good day yesterday...

I worked out right away in the morning - it was a heavy lifting day.

I made a few phone calls regarding dad... And I sent an email to his assisted living apartment, they agreed that it was probably a good idea to take him to tour other facilities. I will plan to do that, in the back of my mind, but I am not going to bring it up as an option until he brings it up again.

I worked upstairs until lunch time - I was able to make some progress... This week's order is quite a bit more complicated than I had thought, so it's taking more time.

Then I got ready and met Allison at Dad's for a visit... We decided, since it was a rainy day - we would just play a game of cards there. That worked out well... We haven't played cards with dad since he was in the nursing home for rehab this spring.

After - I came home and made dinner... Earlier this summer, we had eaten at Culver's - and they have this awesome Strawberry Fields Salad, so I hacked it to be Paleo friendly and added extra veggies too... I swear I eat this salad about 6x a week! LOL It's so good! Aside from the fact that it's embarrassingly huge.

I read my book for a while, and just hung out... As usual, I was in bed early. Early to bed, early to rise - ya know?

Finally... A few snapchats from V... The picture I was going to post yesterday - proof that she misses me!

Which she sends as she is packing to come home. By Monday - both of my girls will be safely home in their own beds. So, I'll take any extra Pixie Dust you have to spare this weekend for safe travels!

Today is L3 of 30 Day Shred... Not sure on food... Probably a Strawberry Fields salad.

I will work upstairs all day...

I plan to head to Dad's this afternoon for a little while...

I think Josh and I may go out to dinner... We haven't spent any of our dining out budget for this pay period and I don't feel like cooking.

That's about all! I hope you all have a wonderful weekend... Looking forward to starting some Europe planning next week!

Prayers and Pixie Dust to all!

D~

 

[rdkeim]

Glad you had a good day with your Dad! If it becomes necessary to take him on a tour of other places, I think the more time that goes by the more his current apt will feel like "home", he'll be used to the people etc. I doubt he'll want to start over somewhere else. You should be so proud of your DD that she takes it upon herself to spend time with him. Not many people her age would do that. Enjoy the reunion with your other DD - yay!

 

[therapistalexandra]

Hello D! Ive been lurking and reading for a while but I wanted to stop and say "Hi!" and thank you for sharing your journey. Can't wait for more updates!!

 

[disny_luvr]

I'm glad you had a nice day with your dad.

Sending prayers and pixie dust to V for safe travels home.

That salad looks really good. We don't have Culver's where I live, but I ate at one a few years ago when we were on our way to Chicago. I don't remember what I ate, but I remember it was really good.

 

[oopsiDAISY]

Hi, D~! Not sure how much I will be able to follow along, but I am here! Oh, I am so jealous that you have a light at the end of your tunnel for debt free!! We are still chipping away at it, but it looks like it will be 2020 for us.

My heart breaks for you on the situation wtih your dad. It seems you and I are in the same place in life AGAIN! My parents have expressed the desire to come live with/near us in the next year. They really would like to build an addition on to our house, an apartment. While they are still healthy now, they know that they do not have many more years of good health left. So, they want to go ahead and prepare, and get settled into the final phase of life. It is so frightening to think about.

Brian is having a very hard time with the whole thing. He made the statement that our kids have not even left the house yet. This has put a strain on our marriage, and we have to have these in depth conversations all the time about it. I choose him, and I choose our marraige first. He knows that, and he is trying really hard to get his heart and mind behind the transition. But, he just has these moments when I can sense resentment about the whole thing. It absolutely devastates me to be put in this position. I want to honor my parents. I want to be the one to take care of them when they can no longer take care of themselves. They have, for years, made every provision for this phase of their lives. They have saved for retirement. Thirty years ago, they began pay into a longterm health care plan. They have even invested into a plan that includes in home healthcare as an option. I want to do this, I just have to keep praying that Brian and I can work through this, once and for all, before the move actually happens. We have a contractor coming this Monday to look at our house and property to see what we CAN do...

 

[dnllmz]

Ahhh - Allison and I are seriously considering doing another W30 in September... I am really struggling with this, as I would love to do one to encourage her - but at the same time, they tend to sabotage me... So, I am really struggling with if I want to just continue on as is, because my success is pretty great right now? Or if I should do a W30 and deal with the consequences later?

I love doing IF!!! I did it for a lot of the time when I was losing the most back in 2014/2015... back then, I didn't talk about it much - as it wasn't really "accepted" or understood outside of Paleo circles... Now it's a bit more common place, and many people know about it. I highly recommend reading more at www.leangains.com - it's pretty informative... And when you are eating in a Paleo type way - IF is almost second nature. Let me know if you have any questions - I am always happy to help (or cheer).

Thanks for the link to the IF site. I will check it out. As for the W30, I read one of your replies as to why it's hard for you and totally understandable why you don't really want to do one. Hmmm that's tough. As a mom, you always want to do the supportive thing but it is okay to do what is best for you sometimes too. Maybe there's another way you can show support like help her with the meal planning and then still continue to do what you have success with.

I need to start exercising. I'm the type to hate it but I do enjoy walks. I tend not to do things for myself like take walks because I'd rather spend that time with my kids. My kids are now at the age where they might enjoy going on a walk with me. I think this could be a nice way to spend some time together. I commend you for your dedication to working out and the heavy lifting. It sounds like you enjoy it. I wish I had that mentality.

I ran to town to spend some time with Dad... He was pretty fussy yesterday, and had a lot to complain to me about. Which is pretty frustrating for me - as he doesn't understand how much work, effort and agonizing went into this move from my end - or how exhausted we all are from doing it "single-handedly"... This is the 3rd time in a week I've had to go over the same stuff with him again and again... I am starting to wonder to myself if this is going to truly work out at all? Which crushes me a little bit... In the end, I have to stick to my guns though - because I just cannot continue to do that 3 hour drive - and I know, in my heart, that this is what's best for him. It's hard.

Ugh this sounds so frustrating. I think the older you get, the more set in your ways you become so change is really hard. I hope he comes around. I'm sure there's an acclimation period like how little kids start school for the first time and it takes them a month or so to get settled. Not the same situation but that's the only example I could think of.

Today... I am just sitting here drinking my coffee... Over the last few months, I've managed to transition to *almost* black coffee - I've completely ditched the agave (I found out that the insulin reaction to agave is even worse than sugar or grains - and I thought I was doing something healthy for myself all this time... sigh). To be honest - once I gave up the agave in my morning coffee, that's when I was truly able to go Paleo... Essentially - sugar addiction is a powerful thing - and it's entirely possible that the agave in my morning coffee was making me crave sugar throughout the day... Once I gave up the agave, the rest of my food life fell right into place. It's definitely something to give thought to...

I didn't know agave was worse than sugar but I could see how it could mentally make you continue to crave something sweet. I know i had a hard time giving up flavored creamer in my coffee. It is so bad for you but tasted so good. But I gave it up cold turkey. Stopped drinking coffee for a bit and just did black tea for awhile until I could drink coffee without cringing. Now I'm completely fine drinking black coffee. I really think all that creamer was sabotaging me for years.

I am definitely looking forward to fall and wearing fall clothes... All of my old jeans fit me now - so I am excited to wear them this year without busting out of them. LOL

That is such a great feeling! Fitting comfortably in your clothes is a game changer!

Josh grilled steaks for dinner last night - those were delicious!

That looks good. What is in the side veggies? It looks like broccoli slaw to me and bacon.

I did my monthly weigh in yesterday - I didn't lose very much over the last month, but I did lose size... So far, since the end of May, I have lost 2/3 of what I gained last year! I am super happy with that, and finally starting to feel more like myself.

Do you only weigh yourself once a month?

That looks really good too. I think I'm just going to start coming here for meal ideas. Did you make the dressing yourself? I mostly just doctor up oil and vinegar but that's getting old.

So, I'll take any extra Pixie Dust you have to spare this weekend for safe travels!

Sending Pixie Dust your way!

 

[gopherdame]

How exciting that Victoria will soon be home. I'm sure it didn't seem long enough for her. but I bet it seemed long to you. Even knowing how much fun she was having and enjoying herself. The next trip there will be yours and I bet your girls will be a big help on what to do. We still have tentative plans for Disneyland for my grandson's graduation next summer. We went for a short trip in 2005 when the grandkids were very small. We had flown to Vegas for a wedding and then drove to Disneyland for a few days. We mainly did the rides they would enjoy so we missed a lot. I need to have something to plan for since we're not going to WDW until 2019. I have read many trip reports where Disney is just a portion of the trip, but they still report on the whole trip. So I'm sure you can too and we all will look forward to reading about it.

We had a good report on my dad yesterday when we took him to the doctor for a follow up. When he got out of the hospital they said they were discontinuing his water pills as his legs were much better. So I asked the doctor about that and he wants him to be on them as they already looked a little more swollen to me. We found out the ones he had been on were just supposed to be temporary and then he was supposed to go back on a smaller dose. Well he just quit taking them because he was in the bathroom so much. So that is straightened out and he told us confusion is common after head injuries so he's going to address that in a month when we go back if it's continuing or worse. So I'm trying to remain hopeful that at least it won't get worse and hopefully improve.

By the way my name is Robyn. I don't know how you remember everyone's name. I also live in Minnesota just north of the Twin Cities in Blaine. We have a cabin up north of Brainerd on the Whitefish chain of lakes. Of course I haven't been up much lately with my dad being in the hospital and then transitional care for the last month. All of my sisters live farther away so his care falls mainly to me and I felt I should go and visit him most days.

Glad to hear your Dad was happier yesterday. Maybe others are right that it was partly his insulin and I'm glad you got that straightened out. Otherwise I would give him some time and hopefully he will adjust.

Have a great day and hopefully it won't rain too much today. I think we've had enough for a while.

 

[Wood Nymph]

Earlier this summer, we had eaten at Culver's - and they have this awesome Strawberry Fields Salad, so I hacked it to be Paleo friendly and added extra veggies too... I swear I eat this salad about 6x a week! LOL It's so good!

That salad looks really good. Panera has a similar salad that I love, the strawberry poppyseed salad with chicken. It has blueberries in it, just like your salad. My other new "love" is adding a ripe pear to my green salads. I'll also add whatever else I have hanging around, but edamame and dried cranberries are a couple of favorites. I also like walnuts but need to be careful because they tend to make my mouth sore. But they are delicious.

I hope you have a good weekend. I know you'll be busy getting ready for V. It will be nice to have her home again.

 

[dnllmz]

Panera has a similar salad that I love, the strawberry poppyseed salad with chicken. It has blueberries in it, just like your salad

haha I'm eating that salad right now. Her culver salad made me crave the Panera one so I ran out and grabbed it.

 

[Llobal]

Hey D! Sorry I haven't commented much. I was diagnosed with cataracts back in may and they have progressed to the point that reading this small print on my phone is hard but typing it out to reply is worse. Thankfully I have surgery scheduled for the worse eye Monday and in a month or so can do the other and I'll be able to see fully again. After that I promise to try and respond more often!

I'm so happy for you that V is coming home. It's going to be so wonderful for you having all your family so close together. I hate that your dad is having some struggles adjusting. My FIL hated selling their house and moving into an apartment but they couldn't afford to keep the house. My MIL likes it because she says it's less work for her. My own parents are still going quite well but I do dread the day my sisters and I have to start making tough decisions. I'm the baby though so they probably won't listen to me much.

Have a great weekend!! Praying for a safe flight for V and a smooth weekend for Dad.

Lisa

 

[DMGeurts]

Glad you had a good day with your Dad! If it becomes necessary to take him on a tour of other places, I think the more time that goes by the more his current apt will feel like "home", he'll be used to the people etc. I doubt he'll want to start over somewhere else. You should be so proud of your DD that she takes it upon herself to spend time with him. Not many people her age would do that. Enjoy the reunion with your other DD - yay!

I agree totally - I am doing my best to only use the touring as a last option... I can only hope that he will eventually adjust.

I am super proud of her - and she doesn't think anything of it, she just does it - not the slightest hesitation to take him anywhere. I hope that V is the same way when she comes home - and if not, that's OK, but it sure would be nice for both of them to chip in - with 3 of us (sometimes 4, depending on Josh), he should be able to get out and go everywhere.

Thank you - we are very much looking forward to having her home... However, as much as I want to see her, I am a little sad - she seems to flourish over there, I am not sure I have ever seen her smiles so big - except in WDW - I hope that one day soon, she will get to go back. Even if that means she is further from me - I want her to have happiness more than anything.

Hello D! Ive been lurking and reading for a while but I wanted to stop and say "Hi!" and thank you for sharing your journey. Can't wait for more updates!!

Hello there!!! Welcome! Thank you for stopping by to introduce yourself! I hope you enjoy following along - I hope to have some meager updates in the coming days.

I'm glad you had a nice day with your dad.

Sending prayers and pixie dust to V for safe travels home.

That salad looks really good. We don't have Culver's where I live, but I ate at one a few years ago when we were on our way to Chicago. I don't remember what I ate, but I remember it was really good.

It was great to have 2 nice days in a row with him... I can only hope that they continue through the weekend, so he isn't grumpy when V gets to see him for the first time in months.

Culver's is pretty good - they are famous for their butter burgers and cheese curds... I just stick to the salad. LOL

Hi, D~! Not sure how much I will be able to follow along, but I am here! Oh, I am so jealous that you have a light at the end of your tunnel for debt free!! We are still chipping away at it, but it looks like it will be 2020 for us.

My heart breaks for you on the situation wtih your dad. It seems you and I are in the same place in life AGAIN! My parents have expressed the desire to come live with/near us in the next year. They really would like to build an addition on to our house, an apartment. While they are still healthy now, they know that they do not have many more years of good health left. So, they want to go ahead and prepare, and get settled into the final phase of life. It is so frightening to think about.

Brian is having a very hard time with the whole thing. He made the statement that our kids have not even left the house yet. This has put a strain on our marriage, and we have to have these in depth conversations all the time about it. I choose him, and I choose our marraige first. He knows that, and he is trying really hard to get his heart and mind behind the transition. But, he just has these moments when I can sense resentment about the whole thing. It absolutely devastates me to be put in this position. I want to honor my parents. I want to be the one to take care of them when they can no longer take care of themselves. They have, for years, made every provision for this phase of their lives. They have saved for retirement. Thirty years ago, they began pay into a longterm health care plan. They have even invested into a plan that includes in home healthcare as an option. I want to do this, I just have to keep praying that Brian and I can work through this, once and for all, before the move actually happens. We have a contractor coming this Monday to look at our house and property to see what we CAN do...

Connie!!! One of my oldest, and dearest Dis friends! Thanks for stopping by!

Buuut... You have a PLAN and I am finding, more and more, that is the important part. At some point there has to be a balance - You still have your kids at home, and they are still young - I think it's important that you are able to balance paying off debt and making the most of those years. You are doing great - and it's so admirable! I definitely look up to you in this journey - as you started it before we did. Just keep on keepin' on, and you will get there!

I find that we have had a lot of parallels through the years... It's a terrifying place to be, when the roles change and all of a sudden you are in charge... I just keep thinking of the circle of life and this is how it should be. Any time I am deciding on caring for my Dad or how things should go, I just think to myself - My kids are watching, I treat my dad and the decisions surrounding his care and lifestyle exactly as I would my my girls to treat me when that time comes... And to honor him as a parent. We were both fortunate to come from loving parents and families - and I hope I can return that now. When Dad almost died this spring - I felt as if we were given a 2nd chance... I remember staring down at him while he was unconscious and thinking about how terribly wrong and lonely his life had been these last years... When I walked around the corner and he was awake and smiling - God gave me a second chance to make it right by him... I pray now - that I have done that - because in my heart, I know that now I am doing everything I can.

As for Josh and my Dad... I am very fortunate - their relationship has always been strenuous - even still, Josh would do anything for him. That being said - I am not sure - where my marriage is concerned, that we would be able to survive Dad living in the same building as us? In my marriage - I feel like that is too much to ask... But your situation may be very different than ours, and depending on how it works out - it may be a very nice thing for you. Trying not to speak for Josh here - but I do think and feel that he would be very resentful to not have time alone with me again after so many years of parenting... Again, I think our situation is different, because within 18 months we were married with 2 babies - so we only had a very short time as "just us" before Allison came along. I wish you all the best as you try to navigate this situation together, and I pray that you are able to find some sort of compromise where you get all the best all around for all involved. I am here if you ever need to chat about it.

Thanks for the link to the IF site. I will check it out. As for the W30, I read one of your replies as to why it's hard for you and totally understandable why you don't really want to do one. Hmmm that's tough. As a mom, you always want to do the supportive thing but it is okay to do what is best for you sometimes too. Maybe there's another way you can show support like help her with the meal planning and then still continue to do what you have success with.

I need to start exercising. I'm the type to hate it but I do enjoy walks. I tend not to do things for myself like take walks because I'd rather spend that time with my kids. My kids are now at the age where they might enjoy going on a walk with me. I think this could be a nice way to spend some time together. I commend you for your dedication to working out and the heavy lifting. It sounds like you enjoy it. I wish I had that mentality.

Ugh this sounds so frustrating. I think the older you get, the more set in your ways you become so change is really hard. I hope he comes around. I'm sure there's an acclimation period like how little kids start school for the first time and it takes them a month or so to get settled. Not the same situation but that's the only example I could think of.

I didn't know agave was worse than sugar but I could see how it could mentally make you continue to crave something sweet. I know i had a hard time giving up flavored creamer in my coffee. It is so bad for you but tasted so good. But I gave it up cold turkey. Stopped drinking coffee for a bit and just did black tea for awhile until I could drink coffee without cringing. Now I'm completely fine drinking black coffee. I really think all that creamer was sabotaging me for years.

That is such a great feeling! Fitting comfortably in your clothes is a game changer!

That looks good. What is in the side veggies? It looks like broccoli slaw to me and bacon.

Do you only weigh yourself once a month?

That looks really good too. I think I'm just going to start coming here for meal ideas. Did you make the dressing yourself? I mostly just doctor up oil and vinegar but that's getting old.

Sending Pixie Dust your way!

No problem - always happy to share info. I am still trying to think over the W30... We are thinking of starting it Sept 1 - but Allison keeps going on/off Paleo - though she has managed to give up dairy completely... So we'll see? I am perfectly happy and content where I am, for the moment, so I will happily continue on as things are if she has no interest in W30... So, we'll see.

I wish I could say that I "enjoy" my workouts... Now-a-days, they are done out of habit, more than anything. I definitely do the same things day after day, and it just so happens that I must work out sometime during the hour of 7-8 am... Not necessarily working out that entire hour, but definitely finishing by 8am... I enjoy the results I get from working out, and I certainly enjoy walking more than any of my other workouts - sadly it's the one I do the least. I"ve tried, many times over the years, to get my girls to work out with me - even to go walking... Sometimes they will, and sometimes they won't. I am not sure how old your kids are, but when my kids were younger (8,9,10...), I just walked around town... that way, I was nearby. Once they were older - I started walking further and further and further from home... I hope you are able to find a way to make this work for you. If you are not comfortable leaving them - the Walk Away the Pounds DVDs have been a lifesaver for me - they allow me to "walk" at home, get in a good work out (I use pretty heavy weights with them, but not necessary) - but never have to leave. I know that a lot of people LOVE the Beach Body workouts - personally, I never got into them, but they are successful too. Just an idea. But finding something that you don't mind doing "forever" and if fits with your lifestyle is key.

I just did a quick google search on Agave, and here's one of the first articles posted about it... http://www.huffingtonpost.com/dr-jonny-bowden/debunking-the-blue-agave_b_450144.html I believe I gave it up completely the following day... The part that kills me, is that I was able to get Dad to switch to it a few years ago, because I thought it was "better" for his diabetes... I gave up the flavored creamer years ago - Josh still drinks it though... I can only control what I put in my body - not in his. I do drink my coffee mostly black now - just a tiny splash of real cream and no sugar at all. It's so hard to give this stuff up - but now I honestly don't even crave it.

I agree - I was so happy to dig out all of my old jeans from 2 winters ago, and surprised to find out that they all fit - and it's entirely possible that some of them may be too big by the time I am able to wear them - which is something that I will have to address come fall if it comes to that.

Yes - so many changes for Dad... And he is so frustrated about it. Different place, different way of doing things - it's going to be a big adjustment... I need to remember that, and I try hard to... most days he is SO happy - so it's the ones where he's angry that really get me, as that is not a normal character trait for him. I am just playing it by ear, day by day - and trying to remain hopeful.

The side of veggies you were referring to was a fresh bag I had bought at Walmart - kind of by the fresh salads... It was a bag of broccoli, brussels sprouts, kale and something else - it was mostly in "slaw" form... I fried up a few slices off bacon and for the last few minutes I threw in the slaw mixture + onions... It was very good. Quick and easy.

I do try to only weigh myself once per month... Though lately - if I am getting close by a few days, I'll weigh early. I try hard to not use my weight as my only gauge for success... I take measurements too (though not as often, probably every other month) and go by how my clothes fit too. Because I do lift weights - what I weigh and what my size is can change dramatically... I can easily go up in weight and go down in size at the same time.

I do not make my own dressing. For all these years eating Paleo/Primal/W30 - I had given up eating salads all together - which was hard, because I love them... But I could never find a dressing recipe that I liked, and anything I made was terrible - or went bad too quickly. This summer, I found the brand "Tessemaes" - they have several compliant W30 salad dressings, and the reviews on them are stellar... So, I purchased the Creamy Ranch - and fell in love... I then tried a few of the others (Avocado Ranch, Creamy Caesar...) All of which I love... So that is what I use. It has become a HUGE staple in my fridge and I cant' live without it. I love having salads back in my life again!

Thank you - we are very much looking forward to having her home!

How exciting that Victoria will soon be home. I'm sure it didn't seem long enough for her. but I bet it seemed long to you. Even knowing how much fun she was having and enjoying herself. The next trip there will be yours and I bet your girls will be a big help on what to do. We still have tentative plans for Disneyland for my grandson's graduation next summer. We went for a short trip in 2005 when the grandkids were very small. We had flown to Vegas for a wedding and then drove to Disneyland for a few days. We mainly did the rides they would enjoy so we missed a lot. I need to have something to plan for since we're not going to WDW until 2019. I have read many trip reports where Disney is just a portion of the trip, but they still report on the whole trip. So I'm sure you can too and we all will look forward to reading about it.

We had a good report on my dad yesterday when we took him to the doctor for a follow up. When he got out of the hospital they said they were discontinuing his water pills as his legs were much better. So I asked the doctor about that and he wants him to be on them as they already looked a little more swollen to me. We found out the ones he had been on were just supposed to be temporary and then he was supposed to go back on a smaller dose. Well he just quit taking them because he was in the bathroom so much. So that is straightened out and he told us confusion is common after head injuries so he's going to address that in a month when we go back if it's continuing or worse. So I'm trying to remain hopeful that at least it won't get worse and hopefully improve.

By the way my name is Robyn. I don't know how you remember everyone's name. I also live in Minnesota just north of the Twin Cities in Blaine. We have a cabin up north of Brainerd on the Whitefish chain of lakes. Of course I haven't been up much lately with my dad being in the hospital and then transitional care for the last month. All of my sisters live farther away so his care falls mainly to me and I felt I should go and visit him most days.

Glad to hear your Dad was happier yesterday. Maybe others are right that it was partly his insulin and I'm glad you got that straightened out. Otherwise I would give him some time and hopefully he will adjust.

Have a great day and hopefully it won't rain too much today. I think we've had enough for a while.

The hardest part of her being gone (just like Allison) was when she was traveling while she was over there. While I miss her terribly - I know that she is totally save with BMTL and in their area - so I don't worry about her at all then... I had TERRIBLE anxiety about her going to London though - I was thankful when that part of her trip was done.

I sure hope you are able to pull off a DL trip - that would be so nice. I have never even been to California... One day. It's on my bucket list.

That is good news about your dad... I hope he continues to improve and the confusion is just a temporary issue which resolves itself. Continued prayers and pixie dust for him - and you!

Ahhh - I knew you were a fellow Minnesotan - and lived in the northern metro (I was thinking more north, like Braham area)... And I should have remembered that your name was Robyn - as that is my BFF's name. One day it will sink in - I hope. LOL I sure hope you are able to get more time at your cabin, as your dad's health improves.

Thanks... Well - I found out yesterday that his insulin hasn't been straightened out yet... The Dr ordered it - but it hasn't been implemented. I did email the DON - but she did not reply to my email... Which doesn't make me happy - it means Dad's insulin won't be resolved at least until Monday. I may email the administrator - as I don't feel like his insulin should be messed with - on top of it being so important - it makes him unsettled and angry that they are "messing with his medications" - can't say I blame him, as he KNOWS exactly what he should be getting and when.

It's looking like today will be nice - I haven't pulled up my Fox9 weather app yet, but it's sunny - so that leaves me hopeful. LOL Enjoy your weekend too!

That salad looks really good. Panera has a similar salad that I love, the strawberry poppyseed salad with chicken. It has blueberries in it, just like your salad. My other new "love" is adding a ripe pear to my green salads. I'll also add whatever else I have hanging around, but edamame and dried cranberries are a couple of favorites. I also like walnuts but need to be careful because they tend to make my mouth sore. But they are delicious.

I hope you have a good weekend. I know you'll be busy getting ready for V. It will be nice to have her home again.

Oooh - I will definitely keep that salad in mind when I am looking for good places to eat. I am amazed at how MUCH I love fruit in my salads - berries especially! Who would have thought that berries, onions and lettuce would taste good together in the same bite? LOL I love putting any sort of nuts in my salads - since i have given up grains and don't do croutons at all - the nuts add that same crunch back in + provide a good fat. But yes, if they made my mouth sore - I'd avoid them (sadly) too.

Thanks Sue!!! We are very excited to have her home!!! She is having a hard time with leaving - but at the same time, Myrthe assured me that she is ready to come home and the 8.5 weeks she was gone was the exact perfect amount of time - as opposed to Allison's 10 weeks last year.

I hope you have a great weekend too!

haha I'm eating that salad right now. Her culver salad made me crave the Panera one so I ran out and grabbed it.

Hahaha!

Hey D! Sorry I haven't commented much. I was diagnosed with cataracts back in may and they have progressed to the point that reading this small print on my phone is hard but typing it out to reply is worse. Thankfully I have surgery scheduled for the worse eye Monday and in a month or so can do the other and I'll be able to see fully again. After that I promise to try and respond more often!

I'm so happy for you that V is coming home. It's going to be so wonderful for you having all your family so close together. I hate that your dad is having some struggles adjusting. My FIL hated selling their house and moving into an apartment but they couldn't afford to keep the house. My MIL likes it because she says it's less work for her. My own parents are still going quite well but I do dread the day my sisters and I have to start making tough decisions. I'm the baby though so they probably won't listen to me much.

Have a great weekend!! Praying for a safe flight for V and a smooth weekend for Dad.

Lisa

Hi Lisa!!! It's great to see you here!

I totally understand - believe me! I sure hope your surgery goes well - I have heard that the cataracts surgery is one of the best and most successful surgeries out there... Praying there is very little pain and healing is quick for you!

Thank you - I am still hopeful that Dad will adjust soon... The anger part makes me so sad, but I truly feel it is just part of his adjustment period... Hopefully things will smooth out soon. It's not easy to right by our parents - but it's so necessary... I do feel fortunate, in a way, that it is just me who has to make the decisions regarding dad - in some ways it makes it so much easier - yet it would be nice to be able to share that burden with someone else too. It's hard no matter what, I think.

Thank you so much!!! Good luck on Monday if I don't "see" you here again before then - I'll be watching for updates on FB.

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I didn't do a whole lot yesterday...

My work out was L3 of 30 Day Shred... It's my favorite of the 3 - but I am still wringing wet when I am done!

I ran to the meat market quick, and then went to get dog food... No - they are not at the same place. LOL

Then I came home to work for a while... I did as much as I could... My interior fabric for this order is late shipping - so I am trying to work around that... Fortunately, I am pretty good at time management - I am able to get everything done that I can without whatever it is that I am missing. I don't like it - but it does happen sometimes. Hopefully it arrives today - then I can put a few hours in over the weekend and be done with it on time.

After, I got ready and went to town to visit dad... I was lucky when I got there that PT was still with him - so I was able to sit in on the end of that visit.

Then I took Dad to the DMV to get his (expired) drivers license transferred to a State ID... Thankfully - they weren't busy at all, and they were able to get it done quickly before dad tired of standing.

I also took dad for a small ice cream cone... I know - he is diabetic... but sometimes he just needs a treat.

Errands with Dad take so much longer - so by the time we were done with those things, I had to get for home.

On my way home, Josh called - and his back brakes went out on his truck... So, I had to turn around to meet him at the mechanic. 1 year ago - this would have crippled us... Now we have a car repair fund - so I just shrug my shoulders and go on with life - we have $$ for things like this and it doesn't affect us at all. It's actually VERY liberating.

We did end up going out for dinner... We went to Outback Steakhouse... I ordered a 9oz sirloin steak with grilled shrimp. My 2 sides were steamed broccoli (dry) and grilled asparagus (dry)... I did order a side of butter - which came to me melted - I did second guess it, and I probably shouldn't have eaten it, but I put some on anyways... Let's just say that I regretted it later. I don't think it was real butter at all - and I should have gone with my gut (literally) on this one. Oh well... Next time I know.

We had to stop and buy a battery for Josh's phone on the way home - he's been having phone problems, and he wanted to try a new battery before he tried a new phone. It appears to be working perfectly now. I wonder how many people trade in their phones, rather than trying a new battery first?

While I was in town yesterday - I picked up a couple of new books at the library... I LOVE that our library has an app - I can just 'order' books from my phone and pick them up in a couple of days - it's so nice. I've been doing a lot of Intermittent Fasting lately - and even though there is a lot of free info out there on the web - I wanted to know a bit more about it... I dug into this book as soon as I got home and it's been very informative - and so far, very well written.

And that's about it...

Today - not sure of any of our plans??? Just sitting here with my (cold) coffee now... I should probably clean for a bit and get ready for my day. At some point - I am hoping we will be able to go pick up the truck, so Josh has it for work on Monday - otherwise we may have a vehicle issue...

I hope you all have an amazing weekend!!! Prayers and Pixie Dust to all!

D~