- Jun 29, 2017
Today, my self-care will consist of me doing as little as physically possible.
I'm with you. I always wondered why those meetings were scheduled during the most important "mom shift" of the day!Have to figure out tomorrow's dinner today as I have a PTA training session tomorrow night in person...really wish it had been zoom so I could help get the kids ready for bed but no dice.
Sorry you had a bad experience at Nordstrom. Please do take the time to write at least to the Store Manager, because that was unacceptable. When we first started the Encore department I didn’t like being segregated like that but now that size runs are being broadened in the other women’s departments I don’t like having to hunt around and relearn how to shop, but I have found some good things in XXL on-line. I am 100 % with you on dropping “plus size”.Well our shopping trip was a bit disappointing. It was a longer drive than expected...I live within 15 minutes of two large shopping malls, so after the 45 minute trek, I knew we wouldn't be coming often. Then when we finally arrived, there were signs that read: If you don't pay to park, you will be towed or booted. ***?! In my 56 years, I have never paid to park in any shopping or outlet mall. I had to download an app and pay $11 so I could park my car for the day. Imagine needing to run in just to pick up something...That started me on the wrong foot. This whole process took 10 minutes because I had never done it before, so she was late for her alterations appointment. Once we were inside the actual mall, I told her to run ahead, and I would catch up to her. As I walked, I was impressed with the stores, Bloomingdales and other high end stores and restaurants...definitely a step up from my mall with Penneys, Macy's, and Target. I started to get excited again. DD was able to get alterations, and she smartly asked them to ship her clothes when they were done to avoid having to come back just to pick up her clothes. She had picked up on my salty attitude. It was lunchtime, so we went to a very nice restaurant where I ordered a French Dip. Food, service, and views from the floor to ceiling windows were sublime. I was warming up to the mall again. We found out that Nordstrom validates parking if you get their credit card, so DD opened one. She bought black leather pants which flattered her figure. There were lots of very stylish sitting areas where I waited while she shopped till she dropped. We picked up some faux fur throws and began searching for the Women's plus clothing area. They don't have one in store, only online. The saleswoman we asked pointed out in her words, "the oversized clothing by this designer." "Oversized." Let that sink in. So because I do not fit in sizes 0-14, my clothes are considered to be oversized. WOW. Thanks for putting me in my place. I have not been, and I hate this term, "fat-shamed" like that in a store ever. Beyond being insulted by someone who easily could have sold me my entire fall/winter wardrobe yesterday if they carried my size, I am very surprised that they are not more like Lord & Taylor who catered to plus sizes and petites. I find it discriminatory that they only offer standard sizes. Anyway, when she was done in Nordstrom, we walked through the mall looking at the various stores, and we headed to Bloomingdales. Bloomingdales was the same, standard sizes only. That really took the wind out of my sails. I'm tired of shopping online. I want to walk into a lovely department store and buy beautiful Calvin Klein, Ralph Lauren, Marc Jacobs, Michael Korrs, etc. Even though I prefer to buy things on sale, I would pay full price at this point, just for the experience.
I will go back there to shop for DD, but this place really left a bad taste in my mouth.
I was speaking with my paraprofessional (she's from Haiti & doesn't speak good English) from last year who is working in two of my new kindergarten colleagues' classes. She is on the verge of quitting because they can't manage their classes. I asked her what the problem was in those classrooms. She said, "They don't have the power. You have the power."
It is the same with my son. He is so darn skinny that the stores don't carry them. He is a 28 or 29 waist and 30 length. Plus he can only get certain types. Thankfully he hates shopping so online works great.@Summer2018 *hugs* having to go to a different store or shop online is quite frustrating. The employee could have conveyed the info in a much different way! Run into a similar issue with DS9 he needs slim and finding it in store isn't always easy. It's not a huge deal now as I pick out most of his stuff but when he wants to pick out his own stuff and leave with it in hand its frustrating.
I have one that fits both but it more about my DD then me. Here is what I put on Facebook this week.Have you got an example where something started out scary, but turned out to be an accomplishment in the long run?
Or are you or someone you know heading into a situation where you hope this will happen?
That is such a great story! You should all be very proud of yourselves.It is the same with my son. He is so darn skinny that the stores don't carry them. He is a 28 or 29 waist and 30 length. Plus he can only get certain types. Thankfully he hates shopping so online works great.
I have one that fits both but it more about my DD then me. Here is what I put on Facebook this week.
When she started school, back in Kindergarten, she was behind and struggled. In first grade she started in the title 1 program and was close to bring on an IEP. She worked her butt off with lots of help from her teacher and us and we didn't need to go that route, just continued in the reading club (title 1).
3rd grade came the realization that the reading club was not something every kid did and that DS did not have to do it. This is when she realized she wasn't on the same level as DS and most of kids. That night was rough. She cried for a long time telling me that she was dumb. It was the hardest thing for a parent to hear. It broke my heart.
Over the years since she has worked hard. Last year was her best year yet. She got 100% for 3 quarters in Math and about 97% in the last quarter. They moved her up to honors math for this year.
Last week we got her test scores from the standardized tests from last spring. Her science score was higher then her math and was close to being in accelerated. She texted me as soon as she got the scores and wanted to be moved to honors. After talking with her counselor (who also talked to her teacher from last year, her teacher from this year and who the new teacher will be), and talking to the teacher she will have (her son is on the same soccer team as DS) we have decided to move her to the honors class.
This girl has worked so hard and has had some really amazing teachers over the years. They have all helped her so much along the way.
I am one proud parent.
So DD worked hard moved out of the comfort/fear zone and made it all the way to the growth zone. Me, well I am in the fear zone with this move. I am afraid that this might be too much for her and she will get overwhelmed and her anxiety will kick in. I know she will prove me wrong though. She is good at that. She will do great with this move and her new teacher will get her caught up and we will be here to help her as well.
My health insurance included visits with mental health professionals (I think 3?) and at one point I contacted someone to talk through some things. It was through our church-what was called pastoral counseling. It was a great experience and I wouldn’t hesitate to use it again. My husband, and I love him, wants to “fix” my problem, my friends had their own lives and issues, so talking to an objective outsider was so freeing.View attachment 604167
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Happy Self-Care Sunday!
This week, I really was concerned about my mental health. To the point that I talked to my husband about seeking help. Yesterday Friday night, we spent time with my sister & brother-in-law. Saturday I did my workout, spent extra time reading the Bible & praying, went back to my sisters to play with my nephew, watched Snow White while working on a weekly meal plan and ordered groceries. I am feeling much better! But that helped me realized how important self care is. So what are you planning to do for Self-Care Sunday?
My trainer was so good about that-she wanted me to feel comfortable so I would continue my workouts and was always willing to adapt things. I still do routines she came up with for me. And I bet your yoga instructor was glad you asked so you could enjoy the session.This is very interesting to contemplate... I started writing this at 7am and am just getting back to it at almost 10 because I really had to think about it.
When I tried giving yoga another shot in 2019 I had to tell myself/allow myself to ask to do it from a chair. This was a really big deal, standing out and asking for accommodation, but I knew I'd be more embarrassed rolling around on the floor struggling to get up and down. It made such a big difference in how I experienced the class and in how much I enjoyed it. Once I asked it was over and out of my head, vs trying to do the floor would have been a stressor the entire time.
Yes, she was very supportive of the request which makes me want to continue doing yoga there. Plus it is a basics class that really is focused on the basics which is what I was looking for.My trainer was so good about that-she wanted me to feel comfortable so I would continue my workouts and was always willing to adapt things. I still do routines she came up with for me. And I bet your yoga instructor was glad you asked so you could enjoy the session.