Screaming baby vent

[KAMLEM]

While I agree with you about the ceremony I do not agree with you about the movies. If my kids can sit quietly and watch a movie then there is nothing wrong about it at all.

I apologize, I probably wasn't clear. I agree that if the child is quiet that is absolutely fine. I don't think they should be there if they are disruptive.

Church, weddings, movies and resteraunts are one thing--her child receiving an award is completely different. We don't know this mother's circumstance. Maybe she can't afford a baby sitter, maybe she has no family around to watch the baby, maybe she is the only parent these children have. It was just as important to her older child for Mom to see her get the award as it was for any of the other children and it was just as important for the Mom. A movie you can see another time, she can't get back this day for her older child. I can see expecting her to take the baby out after her child got her award, but not missing the whole thing.

I didn't say she had to miss the whole thing, but she didn't even attempt to leave. They were very organized about the entire presentation and there was a program that showed how the awards would be given out. She could have stood outside in the cafeteria until it was time for her child, then she could have come in to the back of the room.

 

[BellePrincessBelle]

See now me if I don't have someone to watch the little ones I don't go. I explain to the child that I can not attend and that I will have someone video tape it for me. Mine always understand. I would not make anyone else uncomfortable for my sake. But hey other people feel that their needs/ childs needs come first.

 

[Mouse House Mama]

I apologize, I probably wasn't clear. I agree that if the child is quiet that is absolutely fine. I don't think they should be there if they are disruptive.



I didn't say she had to miss the whole thing, but she didn't even attempt to leave. They were very organized about the entire presentation and there was a program that showed how the awards would be given out. She could have stood outside in the cafeteria until it was time for her child, then she could have come in to the back of the room.

I agree- she should have taken the child out to calm down.

 

[BellePrincessBelle]

Just yesterday, I had a similar dilemma, only it was MY baby that was restless. I had no one to watch him while we went to DS7's classroom awards and play. It lasted only an hour, but my 16 month old made it known he was there. My mom and stepdad were there, but neither one offerred to take him out and when I asked, Mom just said he'd probably scream and disturb the classrooms. (We were in teh gym) So, I fed him goldfish, gave him a quiet toy to play with, a book, took him to the back of the gym where he ran around a little, out of the way of everyone. He still got a little noisy and yelled "BRAH" (his version of brother) when he saw DS7. There was no way I was missing DS's awards or play. I did my best to keep the little one entertained, quiet and out of the way when he got restless. There was one time when he escaped and ran to DS7, but I got him quickly. It wasn't fun for me and if it bothered anyone else, I did my best. He wasn't the only little one there, just the most restless.

IMO you were wrong and your mother was way out of line to refuse your request. Your child disrupted others and you didn't remove him. Thats wrong.

 

[MichelleVW]

See now me if I don't have someone to watch the little ones I don't go. I explain to the child that I can not attend and that I will have someone video tape it for me. Mine always understand. I would not make anyone else uncomfortable for my sake. But hey other people feel that their needs/ childs needs come first.

Same here. Because of work I very rarely got to attend these kinds of functions and my DD's were fine without me being there.

 

[dunbarfamily]

It is very annoying when a parent refuses to calm a crying child down. As a mother with small children (and another on the way) we always take they fussy one out. Depending on the situation, we may try to get baby calmed down where we are at (for example, during church when everyone's singing, if baby fusses for a minute, probably not a big deal and we'll give it a minute, but during something quiet, we're out in a jiffy!). We hate it when other parents won't do the same. A few weeks ago, we were at Sci Fi at Hollywood Studios and the next table over the baby didn't just cry, it shrieked the WHOLE time. Not just for a minute here and a minute there, but the WHOLE DARN TIME! Normally a non-confrontational, give them the benefit of the doubt kind of person, I even shot them a dirty look or two! Ugh!

I hope that you and your child still enjoyed the special ceremony! Congrats on your daughter's achievements!

 

[Mouse House Mama]

Speaking of dining. I cannot stand it when people let their kids shriek when they are at a restaurant. You know the "Watch me shriek and laugh my head off when people look at me" kind of yelling. We don't think that is cute. Sorry. If you are at least trying to get the kid to stop I'll cut you a break but otherwise I think you are rude.

 

[luvsJack]

But she stayed while her baby cried which meant other people couldn't hear their childrens' names called. That makes her need more important.

Ok, you asked me if I was saying her need was more important and I was answering your question. I have no clue what she thought, I don't know the woman.

I agree that she could have taken the baby to the back or stayed by a doorway or something and made a quick getaway. Some posts sounded as though they thought the woman should have left entirely (not the OP) and I didn't agree with that.

OP--sounds as though you and your daughter have a lot to be proud of. Congrats.

 

[MichelleVW]

Speaking of dining. I cannot stand it when people let their kids shriek when they are at a restaurant. You know the "Watch me shriek and laugh my head off when people look at me" kind of yelling. We don't think that is cute. Sorry. If you are at least trying to get the kid to stop I'll cut you a break but otherwise I think you are rude.

omg...we have that same conversation at work almost every day with screaming children in our waiting room. The parents are usually laughing at the kids and looking at us like, "aren't they adorable" Sorry people we do not find your shrieking children cute ...

 

[Robinrs]

omg...we have that same conversation at work almost every day with screaming children in our waiting room. The parents are usually laughing at the kids and looking at us like, "aren't they adorable" Sorry people we do not find your shrieking children cute ...

Sometimes I think they give that look out of sheer embarassment! Most of the time that smile is greeted with this look...

 

[ZachnElli]

I'm still missing alot of my older kids events because my 3 year old still has to be the loudest one in the room. Doesn't matter if it's 50 people or 500, he's got be the loudest! I always take him out. But I have one complaint, if it's crowded and you see someone trying to leave with a loud child, please make a path, don't crowd around the door! Yeah, that happened to me last time.

 

[BoardwalkBride]

As for restaraunts...when my boys were young, we often took them out and stayed when they got fussy. How else are they going to learn that they don't always get what they want? If they are "fussy" and you just jerk them up and leave, they get exactly what they wanted. I taught my children that just because they were finished and ready to leave, did not mean everyone was and they had to sit and wait for the rest of us. If they got uncontrolable they were taken to the restroom and punished (age appropriately) and then brought back to the table. My boys are now 6 and are VERY well behaved in public. You have to teach children how to behave in these situations and if you never take them anywhere, they won't learn.

Um, but, it's a baby. I highly doubt an infant is going to take to heart any "lesson" you may try to teach him/her.

 

[happygirl]

It doesn't really bother me but to each there own.

 

[RLccweems]

This morning I went to an Honors Breakfast at my daughter’s middle school. It was for students and parents of students who have been on the honor roll all year. There was a continental breakfast in the cafeteria then an awards presentation in the gym.

The awards presentation lasted about 45 minutes, and for the entire time the baby at the end of my row screamed and cried. Everyone was frustrated, people kept turning and looking at the mother but nobody said anything. It was very distracting and it ruined the presentation. I understand that she wanted to see her child’s name called, but I don’t think it was fair that everyone else had to hear the baby crying. We had a hard time hearing the names because of it. I left there with a headache that still hasn't gone away.

I wish I had said something, but I’m very non-confrontational and I just couldn’t do it.

This is one thing that just drives me crazy! It's so rude of them to just sit there....I don't understand why they can't just step outside until the baby quiets down.

 

[#1hockeymom]

I was taught when the baby screams, you leave. I did it for my kids when they were babies. The first time happened to be on Mother's Day! DD was five months old and we were taking my MIL out to dinner. I never saw my DH during dinner as he realized we were both moms, and he let us enjoy our dinner while he drove, drove, drove.

I drove home, so he could enjoy the carry out box we got him. Church, meetings, whatever.... Unless its a baby event, a screaming baby isn't welcome, no matter how cute!

 

[mjkacmom]

Some lady brought a baby to the Sex and the City movie when I went to see it the other day. I couldn't believe it.

There were 3 children between the ages of about 5 and 9 in front of me - gotta love kids and soft porn scenes!

 

[okeydokey]

There were 3 children between the ages of about 5 and 9 in front of me - gotta love kids and soft porn scenes!

You've got to be kidding me? What are they thinking?

 

[eh24fan]

IMO you were wrong and your mother was way out of line to refuse your request. Your child disrupted others and you didn't remove him. Thats wrong.

If it had been a movie, a formal ceremony, church, etc, I would have taken him out. However, this was not at all formal and the kids, parents and teacher in my son's class know and like him. If I felt it was a problem for anyone else, I would have quickly left, believe me. I agree that my mom should have been a bit more helpful and she usually would be, so I was surprised.

 

[MoniqueU]

That's a pet peeve of mine too. That and people that talk really loud and syrupy sweet to their kids so everyone can see what darling children they have and how good a parent they are. Just talk to your kids normal folks they aren't circus animals, you aren't putting on a show and please take care of your screaming crying kid.

 

[txSleepingBeauty]

When my boys were babies/toddlers I paid a babysitter to watch them so we could go out, I would never bring them to a PG13 movie at that age.

boy you would have had a real problem with the mom who brought her 3 or 4 year old the the Friday night 10:15 sho of Sex and the City last week. umm, yeah there's a reason that movie is rated R