Scared & need your thoughts -DD is getting notes

[crazee4mickey]

Sounds like a lot more is being done by the school and police...glad to hear you are in the school more...thought about you guys lots over the weekend hoping all was safe. Keep us updated---pixie dust comin' your way!

 

[damo]

Karen, sounds like a step in the right direction. I don't understand why the Grade 5s are not being included in the anti-bullying assembly. It really is unlikely that it was a Grade 3 student writing those notes. Perhaps they have something else planned for the Grade 5s? Good to hear the the police are taking this very seriously. You must feel a lot better being at school with your daughter. I know I would.

 

[TLHB70]

You and your family are still in my thoughts and prayers. I am so glad that the students will be attending the anti-bullying presentation. I hope that something is done for the 5th graders, too! I am happy to hear that the officer is concerned!! Please keep us updated. I am following the thread very closely.

 

[Tantor]

Thanks for the update.

Did they say what the consequnces of such actions are? I hope they are stiff.

When I asked them about this they said it depends on the family situation, the kid, all that crap which means to me that the kid will never get the help he/she needs. I do hope they tell us when the kid is caught though. I'm sure the teachers will let me know.

 

[wilderness01]

I would think that the 5th graders would need the bullying class more than anyone else. Bullying becomes worse the older kids get.

 

[Pooh_Friend#1]

 

[Kewz1]

Just found this thread this AM. Prayers for your family for protection and a quick resolution.

Kristen

 

[Tink215]

More prayers for your family!!!Hope it gets resolved soon!

 

[jcsbama]

When I asked them about this they said it depends on the family situation, the kid, all that crap which means to me that the kid will never get the help he/she needs.

Are you freakin kidding me? Sounds to me that it depends on who the kids parents are on rather or not he or she is punished. Or if the kid was a straight A student and had never been in trouble before, they would let it slide. If I were in your shoes, I would be very upset about that remark and find it completely unacceptable to determine punishment based on those guidelines. How about the stress and turmoil your family has went through because of this? How about all the time involved with trying to solve the mystery and having to get the police involved? Your daughter and another student received what I think most people on the disboards considers a death threat and that is how the school will determine punishment?! I am extremely sadden by what your family has had to endure and you have been in my thoughts and prayers since you first posted this thread. My heart breaks for you that the principal of your daughter's school doesn't seem to take this as serious as everyone else and it sounds like she may not give this person (child, hopefully) the punishment they are deserved.

For your family

 

[Tantor]

Just found out this morning that the Principal is leaving our school at X'mas

YEAH WHOOOO!!!

(Karen is doing a happy dance)

 

[noseybuddy]

I read some of the thread but not all. Did you ever find out who was sending the note? Is the principal leaving on his own, or has be been fired?

 

[damo]

Just found out this morning that the Principal is leaving our school at X'mas

YEAH WHOOOO!!!

(Karen is doing a happy dance)

Do you know anything about the new one?

 

[lillygator]

I would certainly hope that principal had nothing to do with any of this.

 

[WeirdEyes]

I just wanted to add my well wishes and I hope you get this horrible issue resolved soon. Good luck!!

 

[karebear1]

I would certainly hope that principal had nothing to do with any of this.

 

[DisneyPhD]

Are you freakin kidding me? Sounds to me that it depends on who the kids parents are on rather or not he or she is punished. Or if the kid was a straight A student and had never been in trouble before, they would let it slide. If I were in your shoes, I would be very upset about that remark and find it completely unacceptable to determine punishment based on those guidelines. How about the stress and turmoil your family has went through because of this? How about all the time involved with trying to solve the mystery and having to get the police involved? Your daughter and another student received what I think most people on the disboards considers a death threat and that is how the school will determine punishment?! I am extremely sadden by what your family has had to endure and you have been in my thoughts and prayers since you first posted this thread. My heart breaks for you that the principal of your daughter's school doesn't seem to take this as serious as everyone else and it sounds like she may not give this person (child, hopefully) the punishment they are deserved.

For your family

I agree. I think punishment for such actions needs to be spelled out for everyone, and the same for everyone so kids can learn not to do it and it will not be tolerated. If this person is not made responisble for his or her actions, the behaviors will only continue to get wrose as they grow.

More hugs, jut because!

 

[disneymom3]

Good job on the registered letters. And it is reassuring to hear that the officer you met with is taking this quite seriously. I cannot get over that principal and am glad she is leaving. Is bullying maybe not as big of a deal in Canada as the US? These letters go way beyond bullying if you ask me and an awful lot of schools here have a zero tolerance policy for that. I am appalled that the school gave you some song and dance about consequences when you asked. I am thinking I would be personally pressing charges and forget the lacksidasical school systems with their crazy attitude. That is just not acceptable.

Continued prayers for you and DD.

 

[KingsFanInRI]

I agree. I think punishment for such actions needs to be spelled out for everyone, and the same for everyone so kids can learn not to do it and it will not be tolerated. If this person is not made responisble for his or her actions, the behaviors will only continue to get wrose as they grow.

More hugs, jut because!

100% agree. Punishment is supposed to fit the crime, not the criminal.

 

[TLHB70]

100% agree. Punishment is supposed to fit the crime, not the criminal.

I totally agree. The punishment should be stiff for whoever is doing this.........regardless of the home or family situation!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[staci]

100% agree. Punishment is supposed to fit the crime, not the criminal.

Ok, please dont flame me! But I MIGHT know where the school was coming from with the hesitiation to outline a specific action. MAYBE.

I have my teaching degree (but I dont teach), and so without digging out my old textbooks, Im gonna just say what I remember. I also took this class the semester that I had ds, so lets just say the pregnancy hormones at the time really clouded my brain, but here is what I remember. (of course this is in the states, idk about canada).

TONS of kids have classified disabilities in the schools (WAY more than I would have ever thought). I seem to remember something about if a child has a disability, that they cannot be expelled or unfairly punished for a behavior that was due to their disability.

The school may have been hesitate to say they would expell any student, knowing that if there was a student with a classified disability, who could prove that their behavior was due to their disability, they may not be able to expell them. In that case, they would have to work with the student within their IEP and try to remedy the problem in other ways.

AGAIN this is just what I remember, they never got real specific as far as what behavior can be attributed to a disability, as it can be very broad. I TOTALLY feel for the OP and support her 100% in what she is going through. I cant imagine how scary this must be, and I certainly hope they find the culprit and punish them as severely as possible. This is nothing to be taken lightly and the children involved need to know how serious this is.

OP, still thinking about you and hoping you find resolution soon!